Been working on the Holistic Sex Ed Manifesto. With my subconscious chewing it over, I woke up today wondering what’s the best way to lose one’s virginity. No, that sounds too negative. Besides, holistic means to consider sex as more than just genital penetration.

What’s the most healthy, joyful, life-affirming way for young people to first have sex of any kind?

If I was an activist revolutionary (why I try to avoid), I might start a campaign to popularize and propagate playing doctor. You know, when kids investigate each other’s bodies, especially down there. Not a bad idea for adults either, as a progressive sexual education initiative, don’t you think?

Instead I would like your help starting a dialogue about ideal early sex. If you want to contribute, you could comment below by answering…

1. What was your first sexual encounter like?

2. What would have made it better?

I’m working on doing the same. With your help, soon I hope to add a section to my Holistic Sex Ed Manifesto entitled something like “The Best Way To Emerge From Virginity.” Or would you suggest a better name?

Love, Somraj