How I Proved That Size Doesn’t Matter That Much

After a little spat that turned our afternoon delight love bomb into a dud yesterday, we had a yummy MNF last night.  No, not Monday Night Football. We watched that recording the day before. To us MNF means Middle of the Night Fuck. It’s kind of rare for us because it doesn’t really fit our biorhythms. But it was hot and healing.

Being unusual, it was kinda a quickie, only half an hour. The interesting thing was that my erection was way fluky. Fortunately I was firm enough to enter and stroke. So it didn’t get in the way of our pleasure much because we’re both very adept at adapting. There’s a chapter about soft penetration in our new ebook Long Hot Tantric Love Making which we made full use of. More about that in another post.

At times my vajra (penis) shrunk to nearly half its erect length and girth. When I’m totally hard I’m a little over the national average of about six inches. Last night Mr. Happy cycled from seven down to three and everywhere in between.

And yet my sweetie was obviously still having a great time — as I was. She was breathing deep, making lots of ooos, and ahs, and even a few “oh gods” now and then. At her loudest peaks I could feel her yoni (vagina) muscles spasming, too. Most dramatic was her body shivering when I thrust (sometimes with the help of a Hand Assist).

For sure I wasn’t reaching the deepest of the nine erogenous zones inside her yoni. But I was obviously hitting the other ones with great gusto. (See my other posts about all of a woman’s erogenous zones if you don’t where they all are.)

I’m posting this to reassure any lovers who have smaller or unreliable organs like I do at times. It reminds me of a dear friend and lover (way well endowed, by the way) who would give up in frustration if he wasn’t rock hard. I hope he’s reading this and voys to use his big soft tool whenever he can. And you too.

I Wonder Why My Anal Sexercise Last Night Was Different

Last night I truly appreciated two wonderful advantages of helping my honey reach orgasm. The obvious one is how great it felt when the one I love exploded in ecstasy in response to my erection stroking inside her. The other benefit is that I got a turn in receiving first her fingers and then my favorite vibrator in my rosetta.

Though some call it the rosebud, rosetta is the Tantric term we prefer (so we don’t have to keep writing asshole over and over).

Anal play feels fantastic to me, and not just because of all the nerve endings down there. It’s the prodding and vibrating against my G-Spot that generates such intense sensations. If you understand anything about male genital anatomy, you realize that  the prostate is male orgasm central. This walnut sized gland below the bladder and in front of the rectum is where ejaculation is triggered.

As a result, it’s one of a man’s most sensitive orgasmic triggers. That’s true whether you use the male G-Spot to go for a big wet climax or save it for later like I usually do.

Getting “done”down there didn’t always send me to the moon like it does now. After my yearlong Tantra training, it took me a couple years of regular practice to gradually relax and open to backdoor pleasure. I admit it, I didn’t really need that long, but I was a bit of a hard case. I’m way happy my wife and I persevered in opening what we sometimes call a man’s sacred gate to sexual ecstasy.

Though rosetta penetration always makes me writhe and moan in spectacular pleasure, last night’s ride was somewhat unusual. I didn’t have many extended pleasure highs that often last for dozens of seconds or a minute or two.

Don’t get me wrong, each short peak was wonderful and I had a few dozen of them over the space of nearly an hour. That kind of aerobic sexercise bathed me in sweat and made my throat dry.

After our Long Hot Tantric Love Making ebook teaches how to reach and ride orgasmic peaks, it concentrates on how to make the crests of these pleasure waves last longer. Once you know how to open the valve and let orgasmic electricity flood your body, you naturally want to keep the flow going as long as you can stand such intense sensation.

But last night my excitement kept shooting up and dropping down again quickly.

It was great fun so I’m not complaining. It’s just interesting how different the experience was. Wish I knew what was up. Guess I need to do more deep dark research.

 

If you’re interested in opening your backdoor to these remarkable orgasm-central pleasure pinnacles, download our new ebook here.

Using Your Hands on the Bulb Erogenous Zone

After making love for a while last night, I got a little soft. Nothing really to worry about because now that I’m 70 I can’t always depend on my erections like I could when I was a teenager. Since Jeffre obviously wasn’t done, I used a Hand Assist. That’s where you hold your vajra (or his vajra, the Tantric word for penis) with your hand. Squeezing vajra’s base with your fingers or a ring made with your thumb and index finger makes him harder just like a cock ring does.

By the way we introduced the idea of the Hand Assist in our June 2004 newsletter entitled The Explicit Joys Of Digital Sex. Digital here refers to your digits, not the internet. It also appears prominently in our new ebook Long Hot Tantric Love Making.

I knew Jeffre was loving the deeper penetration when she squealed and pushed back. Though that made me hard enough to carry on hands-free, we were having so much fun that I continued aiming my vajra towards the 9 erogenous zones inside her yoni (vagina). Targeting these intense pleasure spots during jewel union (sexual intercourse) is a vital part of bringing women to orgasm as explained in depth in our new ebook. But I found that my aim was so much better for her and exciting for me with a Hand Assist.

That’s when I realized that I was grabbing vajra’s bulb to better steer the action. The bulb, one of a man’s 9 primary erogenous zones, is the root of the erection that lies underneath and below his balls. A hard-0n is anchored to the body through this root which you can feel if you carefully press between and beyond his testicles. Just be sure you don’t squeeze the tender balls while you’re exploring. You already know that it’s a rare fellow who gets turned-on by being kicked there.

Using a Hand Assist on vajra’s bulb gave me so much more dexterity to bring her pleasure. It reminded me of witnessing the highly-skilled bull elephant at the San Francisco zoo who mounted his mate. Even though he couldn’t see down there beneath those wide bodies, he somewhere directed his huge member right where she needed it. This was in front of my little kids I might add that I wasn’t ready for at such a tender age of 30.

Anyway, I’ve always remembered that “prehensile prick” and wanted to be able to target yoni’s inner recesses with such orgasmic radar. Maybe my newfound bulb Hand Assist will do the trick.

Enjoying The Wet Spot

I had a great 70th birthday party.  When my wife asked me what I wanted to do, I chose to have a private sex party with her and our best girlfriend. We started around noon and shared what was going on in our hearts and lives until about 5 in the afternoon. OK there was a group dog walk in there since we both have two that need exercise so they’ll leave us alone when we play.

The sexual antics were stellar, fitting for such a momentous ocassion. We had agreeed beforehand that the threesome should be balanced so all of us were invited to be involved all the time. One of my favorite parts was when I was on my side making love inside one while my mouth and hands were busy with the other.

You know the disclaimer that you often see in ads about “don’t try this at home?” No I don’t mean to warn you off of such a glorious threeway coupling if you’ve got the agreement of everyone involved. I just want to let you know this may sound totally hot but isn’t so easy. The one in the middle (me) needed to pay attention to two different women’s arousal ramp-up patterns and energetic rhythms at the same time. And I needed to match my sexual stroking inside one to her needs in each moment while my mouth and hands did something similar with the other. Try chewing gum, hopping on one foot, and unwrapping a birthday present while getting sucked without coming. Fortunately I’ve been blessed with enough chances to practice.  I was rewarded with lots of quivering body parts and loud screams.

But maybe the most memorable moment was when one was riding on top of me while ejaculating. This is a rare pleasure for a guy to receive what we call in Tantra “Amrita.”  That’s an Indian word for nectar of the Goddess. As  I stroked up and down and she met my every thrust with gusto, I could feel her yoni get wetter and wetter. When her gushes started dripping down my hard-on making a little puddle, I was swooning with delight.  On the pad we were playing on, I got the present I’d hoped for.

If female ejaculation is new to you, take our Free online guided tour here. It will give you the option to download our ebook all about it.  Or you can order a copy of our Female Ejaculation paperback from Amazon or your local bookseller.

Women, have you done it consciously? Partners have you ever been showered with Amrita?  We’d love to hear about your experiences  and your questions.

Tantra Newsletter: Erogenous Zones – Part 2

Titillating LovePlay With The 33 Secondary Pleasure Triggers All Around Your Body

Happy Holidays! We want to remind you about some special gifts to help you celebrate Tantrically. For one, we’ve dropped the price of our new ebook Long Hot Tantric Love Making by 25%. And if you’re a past customer, you can get it for only $7.49 if you email us gor the secret link before New Years.

Have you gotten involved yet in our new Orgasmic Sex Discussion Board where you can get answers to all your questions about sex, love, and relationship. And read stories of our sexual encounters and other lovers’ exploits. You can read the posts or get involved in this free service here… http://tantraattahoe.com/blog/welcome/.

Last month in our Sacred Sexual Secrets newsletter we introduced you to a woman’s 19 primary erogenous zones that trigger sexual turn-on if  treated right. In this article published December 15, 2016 we continue with the 33 secondary ones all around the body. (If you missed Part 1, you can read it on this Orgasmic Sex Discussion Board here.) Both are excerpted from our new ebook Long Hot Tantric Love Making.

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In our minds, “foreplay” is anything that’s already happened which prepares you for what’s about to come. Consequently, everything we’ve covered so far can be considered foreplay. In the All-Chakra system of Tantric LoveMaking, we’ve started with the upper chakras, opening your hearts to love, connecting at a soul level, and getting your minds in its proper focused low-key gear. The Spiral Scheme Principle includes mental, emotional, and even spiritual foreplay circles. Now we’re going to get more physical.

Of course, the term foreplay usually denotes what you do to get ready for Jewel Union. Since “fore” encourages insensitive lovers to rush through it instead of making it last and enjoying it to the max, we prefer the term LovePlay. LovePlay is…

Any kind of intimate, physical, sexual interaction that creates turn-on and demonstrates love, affection, and desire. 

We’re avid proponents of heavy make-out and petting sessions before you take your clothes off. Searching for your honey’s pleasure spots and teasing them is a great way to start your motors running hot. Whatever you call it, it’s great fun and essential for ecstatic Tantric LoveMaking.

In this book our primary targets are, for the most part, the 28 erogenous zones in and around women’s and men’s jewels that can trigger an orgasm. But actually anywhere on your body that’s sensitive, or the 33 secondary erogenous zones, can cause a pleasurable reaction. People can be aroused when their crown of the head, scalp, hair, center of forehead, eyelids, eyebrows, temples, face, mouth, lips, ears, neck, throat, shoulders, chest, breasts, nipples, belly, navel, waist, fingers, hands, arms, armpits, sides, back, butt, thighs, legs, knees, feet, ankles, toes are lightly touched. Others like some of these pleasure spots licked, sucked, bitten, scratched, pressed, kneaded, or massaged more vigorously.

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There are so many delicious ways to titillate your lover’s body. Sensuously undressing each other, sexy dancing, passionate kissing, and Sensual Massage are some of our favorites. It may not be your thing, but it’s still interesting to note that devotees of the Kama Sutra specialized in sensuous scratching, biting, and slapping. If your desires run hotter than most, you might really enjoy bondage, domination, and Fantasy Role-Playing to get you super turned on.

And then there are those lovers who excel at playing hard to get.

Are we saying that teasing is a turn-on? Well, yes and no. Starting slow and increasing stimulation certainly is yummy for many people. Jeffre loves soft slow touch at first, but if it goes on too long it tickles. That’s really clear when she squirms away. Intentionally withholding what your playmate is craving might excite them for a while but eventually feels like torture. Unless you have an agreement for extreme sexual play, inflicting pain probably won’t get you where you want to go. As with so many facets of making love, timing is everything and, like the Moving Target Principle states, everyone is different at different times.

We don’t recommend you create a set agenda and do the same things each time. Minds and bodies, especially those of women, get bored with a pat routine. The closest we come to a set program is to get ready and get turned on together. Otherwise we let spontaneity and playfulness be our guide.

You probably noticed that we haven’t mentioned the jewels (genitals) yet. Stroking a wet yoni (vagina) lips and sucking a vajra (penis) are super exciting foreplay. We will get there shortly. It’s just that Tantric LoveMaking is slower than you see in movie love scenes and porn flicks. We like to savor each sensation and make it last as long as possible. So we encourage you to see how turned on you can get from the non-jewel foreplay in this chapter before heading south.

And then there’s kissing. When you first fall in love, you can’t keep your mouths apart. You want to share your lips and press them close to demonstrate the love and affection you feel, to show how important your connection is to both of you. It’s such a sweet expression of affection that reveals how full and open your hearts are.

Wasn’t it Jane Fonda in the classic movie On Golden Pond who learned to call it “sucking face?”

Did you know that there are around 10,000 nerve endings in the lips and tongue? That’s 100 times more than your fingertips. Maybe that’s why a deep juicy kiss strongly stimulates desire and gets you both ready for Jewel Union. And if you’ve tried it while you’re jewels are engaged, you know what a sexual booster it is.

Kissing is a wonderful form of LovePlay because it stimulates so many different chakras. Your vision, minds, and third eyes are totally focused on each other. Your bodies are so close, immersed in each other’s personal space.

Read The Second Half

We have so much more to share about Whole Body LovePlay. Check it out the second half of this article on our Orgasmic Sex Discussion Board by clicking here.

Love, Somraj & Jeffre

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Long Hot Tantric Love Making EBOOK

The Ultimate How-To Guide To Orgasmic Sex And Sexual Intercourse For Women And Men

Our tenth Tantric sex ebook is a how-to guide that shows you how to have the most earth-shattering sex you’ve ever dreamed of whether you’re male or female, gay or straight. Sure, sexual intercourse is natural, but so few lovers know how to make it super for both him and her.

We cover everything you need to know to supercharge sex including foreplay, intimacy, oral and anal sex, sexual positions, and in-bed communication skills. You’ll read love secrets new and old that detail how to make an emotional connection first, target your erogenous zones, connect your passion circuits, create energy circles, and fill your whole bodies with pleasure every time.

Unlike many general sex books, it focuses on the mechanics, dynamics, and energetics of sexual intercourse with color illustrations. With a thorough review of modern science and classical techniques from the Kama Sutra and ancient China, we show you how to expand your intimacy into the full erotic union of heart, mind, and soul while you’re doing it. Plus, with our explicit step-by-step instructions, you’ll learn how to enjoy any of the 12 ways to orgasm that you’ve missed out on.

We’re a long-time married couple — a Ph.D. sex therapist and a Fortune 500 people-skills trainer — who wrote this because too few women are emotionally fulfilled and sexually satisfied. And too few men know how to extend their lovemaking, have multiple orgasms themselves, and thoroughly satisfy their partners. By reading our new book, you’ll discover how to make sex super-natural so you can reach the pinnacle of sexual ecstasy together whenever you make love.

Our exposė is as much a sexual diary of our sex life as it is an easy-to-follow program to give you exactly what you want in bed. In these pages we’ve shared the ups and downs of our actual intimate encounters as if we were having a private, frank, but tasteful conversation with you in person.

Long Hot Tantric Love Making has three primary goals: 1) making lovemaking last longer, 2) expanding your sexual repertoire to include all 12 types of orgasm, and 3) making lovemaking so orgasmic that you will want to do it again and again. It’s the complete no-holds-barred graphic story of how we made our sex life more satisfying than we ever imagined possible. And how you can, too.

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Tantra Newsletter: Erogenous Zones – Part 2 – Continued

Titillating LovePlay With The 33 Secondary Pleasure Triggers All Around Your Body

The first article in this series published December 1, 2016 presented the 19 primary erogenous zones around a woman’s jewels (genitals). You can read it here. Below is the second half of the second article in this series published December 15, 2016 in our Sacred Sexual Secrets newsletter. The first half of this article appeared here. Both are excerpted from our new ebook Long Hot Tantric Love Making.

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Whole Body LovePlay

Kissing all parts of the body can be divine, especially when you use your breath to warm each area first with your fingers lightly swirling all around. Alternating mouth and hand caresses can be a great combo, morphing into sensual and erotic massage which we’ll get to shortly. Let’s take a look at some moves that can fire delicious pleasure signals to your honey’s brain with  highly desirable consequences.

Head And Neck

Jeffre loves her neck kissed and licked slowly and languorously. The entire area between the jawline and shoulders is a delightful erogenous zone. Because the skin is thinner in the indentation where the neck connects with the collarbone, using your mouth and tongue here yields stronger sensations. Many lovers, especially guys, love their earlobes sucked a bit, a tongue plunged inside, and the outlines of their ears traced with the tip of a tongue. Somraj really gets off when his head is scratched. And once he was wowed by a lover who kissed him all over his face, forehead, and gently on his eyelids.

The Sides Of The Torso

There’s a powerful nerve that snakes from the bottom of the rib cage down to the hips. It’s powerful because when stimulated it connects directly to a woman’s clio (clitoris) or a man’s vajra (penis). Since this area can be pretty ticklish, kiss or massage it firmly and see if it doesn’t reflexively cause your baby’s pelvic-floor muscles to contract. This can cause luscious yoni and vajra, clio and testicle contractions. (We’ll discover soon how important those muscles are for turn-on and orgasm.) You can also lick, nibble, and stroke the torso sides separately and in all kinds of sequences.

The Back

Maybe because of a mild case of shingles some years ago, Somraj’s back is an intense pleasure zone. Well, many of us love back rubs of all kinds, but he especially delights from scratching. We’re not referring to a therapeutic massage here, but if that’s what gets your blood boiling, go for it. You can start by kneading the neck and shoulders but switch to a lighter stroke lower down. The base of the spine, the sacrum, has a knob that’s rife with many sensitive nerves. Lightly spiral baby kisses or soft finger brushes to trigger some thrilling chills. And while we’re at it, don’t miss your sweetie’s bum. You can give intense pleasure with a little kissing, scratching, or deep kneading on the derriere cheeks.

The Hands And Feet

Obviously the hands and feet are way sensitive due to all the nerve endings there. Holding hands is a lovely way to connect and is probably more popular than playing footsie which shouldn’t be ignored. Stroking and kneading your sweetie’s hands is a really sensual way to get them to want more. There was a period when we used to start every lovemaking session with a firm and oily foot massage. Adding in licking and sucking fingers and toes is way hot, too, preferably without massage oil. Jeffre still raves about a Thumbgasm she had some years ago from the sensuous sucking by a dedicated admirer.

The Breasts

Women’s breasts are a robust pleasure zone. The nipples and areolae, the pigmented circle around the nipples, are sensitive and erectile. Since they’re designed for sucking, it can be orgasmic. Reports of Breastgasms are quite common from highly sensual females. But it takes communication and experimentation. Women differ in the type and pressure of breast contact they respond to. It seems to depend on where they are in their monthly cycle and their level of arousal in each different moment. Jeffre likes them held and kneaded gently before moving to the nipples. Sometimes Somraj likes his nipples flicked, licked, pulled, and sucked, too. We’ll devote more attention to breasts when we deal with Add-Ons, delightful things you can do while locked in a lovemaking embrace.

The Inner Thighs

We bet you know how electrifying it can be to sensuously kiss or caress the inner thighs. Not only are they the gateway to your jewels, but they’re serviced by one of the most explosive nerves in the body. Start kissing, nuzzling, or stroking from close to the knee and slowly draw your contact upwards. Try this with a wet finger and then the tip of your tongue for an unforgettable experience. LovePlay up the inner thighs is well known for making lovers pant and feel delectable spasms in their crotch. Because this is a highly sensitive area, be careful you don’t make your attentions too ticklish.

The Chakras

An electrifying way to open your partner’s energy channels is by activating their seven chakras. One method is to lightly kiss your partner’s chakras beginning with the seventh (at the top of the head) and ending with the first (the Perineum, between jewels and anus). Or you can start at the bottom and work your way up. Since the chakras extend front and back, this kind of contact can be done with your partner lying on their stomach or back or both. During our formative Tantra training we were given a jar of sweet-smelling chakra balm that we anointed each other with before making love. If you want to be more elaborate, you can kiss a chakra and then lovingly tell your partner what you adore about that particular kind of energy they represent.

Among the fun forms of loveplay we’ve suggested are kissing, licking, sucking, caressing, fingering, flicking, tapping, nuzzling, stroking, scratching, kneading, grabbing, and pulling. By all means try any of them cautiously on all parts of your sweetie’s body. This list may not include kinkier LovePlay with other places like the armpits. How do you think your playmate would like you nibbling, kissing, and licking them all over? To get an accurate reading of your partner’s desire, ask them to demonstrate how they wish to be touched.

Remember to keep changing what you’re doing as unexpected contact can generate sparks to increase the excitement. You can also try lightly grazing your cheek against the areas above and then tracing your tongue along the same path. And let’s not forget brushing your hair against your lucky playmate’s skin before you switch to gently raking your fingernails to deepen the sensation. Oh, we forgot to mention giving hickies. Well, it was popular when we were teenagers.

Kama Sutra Embraces

There is no order of precedence for kissing, scratching, or biting, because they involve passion. They are generally used before sex, and slapping and moaning during sex. 

Kamasutra translated by Wendy Doniger & Sudhir Kakar

You’ve undoubtedly heard of the Kama Sutra, the erotic Hindu love manual. Most have, thanks to the courageous translation of Sir Richard Burton during the 19th century. He was a much earlier nobleman with the same name as the well-known modern English actor.

Secret Tantric writings addressed working with all energies — body, mind, emotion, spirit — as a path to enlightenment. In contrast, the Kama Sutra was merely a compilation of the sexual customs of upper-class Indians. It was written by a religious scholar named Vatsyayana who lived in Pataliputra, India sometime between 200 and 500 AD.

His guide was meticulous and graphic about many things most people are too embarrassed to talk about today, such as…

Kama Sutra Kissing

The Kama Sutra gave instructions about the different varieties from quick pecking to deep vibrant to slow rubbing in different positions and situations. Vatsyayana suggests trying dry and wet, hard and soft, licking and sucking, long and short, nibbling and holding. Both the body and lips were fair game.

Kama Sutra Licking

Licking is juicy fun. Try many of the same variations mentioned in kissing. Try them all over. Some women especially like it really sloppy wet. Slow is the key to ecstasy by licking.

Kama Sutra Sucking And Squeezing

Remember how you liked getting hickeys when you were a teenager? The edge of pain can be very arousing for many especially if feeling naughty excites you. Visit the same spots you kissed and licked with your whole mouth and apply a little suction. You can also squeeze when you suck with your lips, your fingers, your hands, your arms, your legs, and your yoni.

Kama Sutra Scratching

The Kama Sutra gave explicit instructions for using your fingernails to make eight different shapes on the chin, lips, armpits, breasts, neck, back, thighs, Mound of Venus, and between the legs. Scratching isn’t something you’ll want to do all the time. It’s best when your sexual energy is fierce, otherwise it may be too much. The teeth can be used for scratching as well. Just be cautious if you choose to try it on your guy’s vajra unless you know he gets off on it. Somraj really hates it.

Kama Sutra Biting

The Kama Sutra advised lovers to bite everywhere that kissing, licking, sucking, and scratching was well received. It listed eight different kinds of bites from light to medium to strong and anywhere in between. The Indian love guide instructed lovers to bite hard enough to leave marks — esteemed souvenirs — all around the breast in an even pattern.

Some of these practices can become very intense. It’s important for a giver to consider the sensory intensity of what they’re doing to the receiver. Stroking and caressing are mild, while tickling and cupping can be a bit more stimulating. Licking, squeezing, and gripping are stronger, while sucking, gripping, pinching, and pulling are even more so. Scratching, biting, and slapping are obviously the most intense.

For all these embraces, please be careful and start very gently. Back off if your partner seems to tense up or resist it. Always let the receiver be the guide. We offer this spectrum of LovePlay techniques in the same spirit that Vatsyayana did centuries ago. He didn’t insist that every lover always used every technique. For example, slapping is mentioned various places in the Kama Sutra but not described as a primary technique.

Exercise: LovePlay

Purpose

The purpose of this partner exercise is to experiment with LovePlay in a conscious and premeditated way.

Directions

  1. Create a Sacred Space, discuss the Partnering Questions, and do a Heart Bonding to insure everything you do is consensual.
  2. Start with kissing.
  3. Use your mouth, lips, and tongue to explore all over your sweetie’s body.
  4. Try licking all the parts you kissed. Use the tip of your tongue in lines and circles, and then the flat part in different sequences. You might even use the sides. There’s a famous oral sex trick you can try if you’re game, spelling out the letters of the alphabet with your tongue in various spots.
  5. Take another tour around your lover’s divine landscape by sucking and squeezing, playing with different strengths of suction and pressure.
  6. Experiment with biting, scratching, and slapping if you want to go further. Start by gently applying your teeth in all manner of places on your beloved’s body. At first, stop short of leaving any marks, but if welcomed, you can gradually use more pressure. Just be careful not to break the skin when you leave some hickey souvenirs.
  7. Scratch with your nails wherever it’s safe or requested. Test out different strokes, long and short, hard and soft, fast and slow, to discover what the different parts of your beloved’s body prefers. You can also use your teeth in certain spots to scratch.
  8. Experiment with a little spanking. Some lovers find a healthy slap on the rump can be an amazing turn-on. You want to start by gently tapping different parts of your playmate’s body with your fingertips. As you increase the force and speed of your taps, notice what spots can take more. Then play around with slapping using your flat fingers, your palm, and the back of your hand. Aficionados of BDSM (bondage, domination, sadism, and masochism) use crops, whips, clips, and paddles in elaborately choreographed rituals to reach extraordinary altered states.
  9. Combine kissing, licking, sucking, biting, scratching, and slapping in creative ways.

Comments

As the Kama Sutra has taught us, LovePlay applied with consciousness and sensitivity can be a true art form.

 

This article was excerpted from the introduction to Chapter 7 of our new ebook Long Hot Tantric Love Making.

Look forward to the third article in this series about the 9 primary erogenous zones spread  around men’s bodies.

Love, Somraj & Jeffre

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Long Hot Tantric Love Making EBOOK

The Ultimate How-To Guide To Orgasmic Sex And Sexual Intercourse For Women And Men

Our tenth Tantric sex ebook is a how-to guide that shows you how to have the most earth-shattering sex you’ve ever dreamed of whether you’re male or female, gay or straight. Sure, sexual intercourse is natural, but so few lovers know how to make it super for both him and her.

We cover everything you need to know to supercharge sex including foreplay, intimacy, oral and anal sex, sexual positions, and in-bed communication skills. You’ll read love secrets new and old that detail how to make an emotional connection first, target your erogenous zones, connect your passion circuits, create energy circles, and fill your whole bodies with pleasure every time.

Unlike many general sex books, it focuses on the mechanics, dynamics, and energetics of sexual intercourse with color illustrations. With a thorough review of modern science and classical techniques from the Kama Sutra and ancient China, we show you how to expand your intimacy into the full erotic union of heart, mind, and soul while you’re doing it. Plus, with our explicit step-by-step instructions, you’ll learn how to enjoy any of the 12 ways to orgasm that you’ve missed out on.

We’re a long-time married couple — a Ph.D. sex therapist and a Fortune 500 people-skills trainer — who wrote this because too few women are emotionally fulfilled and sexually satisfied. And too few men know how to extend their lovemaking, have multiple orgasms themselves, and thoroughly satisfy their partners. By reading our new book, you’ll discover how to make sex super-natural so you can reach the pinnacle of sexual ecstasy together whenever you make love.

Our exposė is as much a sexual diary of our sex life as it is an easy-to-follow program to give you exactly what you want in bed. In these pages we’ve shared the ups and downs of our actual intimate encounters as if we were having a private, frank, but tasteful conversation with you in person.

Long Hot Tantric Love Making has three primary goals: 1) making lovemaking last longer, 2) expanding your sexual repertoire to include all 12 types of orgasm, and 3) making lovemaking so orgasmic that you will want to do it again and again. It’s the complete no-holds-barred graphic story of how we made our sex life more satisfying than we ever imagined possible. And how you can, too.

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Making the Most of our Long-Lasting Energy Engine

We had a delicious longie last night. We spent the first few hours working on our relationship so we only had time for one uninterrupted round of intense lovemaking. But it was nearly two hours and way hot.

If you know anything about Tantra, you’ll understand that we could only enjoy such extended jewel union (sexual intercourse) by heightening our excitement and spreading the sexual energy all over our bodies. We didn’t push for the Big O or even have one (well, until the next day and that was fantastic). But each of us sure had lots of different kinds of climaxes.

That’s why we call Tantric Love Making orgasmic sex. That’s when sex feels like a continuous orgasm.

I realized something about what we were doing that we’ll need to add to our new Long Hot Tantric Love Making ebook. We were using the in-and-out sexual stroking of our jewels to generate kundalini. That’s the ancient name for sexual and orgasmic energy. Over and over we pumped a little and then directed the blossoms of kundalini to expand and fill our whole bodies.

Instead of trying to come or help our partner over the edge which usually ends our playtime prematurely, the thrusting of our jewels served as a kundalini production engine. In other words, each sexual stroke was like another shovel of coal into the boiler. Then we instinctively channeled the passion everywhere and exchanged it to ramp our fire at up even higher.

Moving our feet and spreading our knees attracted the excitement to our legs. Pulsing our pelvic muscles pumped kundalini upwards to our torsos. Sounding opened our chests and throats to attract more sizzling sensations. Undulating loosened our torsos and necks letting our heads fill. And of course there were powerful ways we used our breath and minds to make us feel like we were coming everywhere over and over.

These are the simple-to-learn tools of running energy. That’s a major theme of what we teach in Long Hot Tantric Love Making.  Download your copy now by clicking here if you can’t wait to learn it.