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Your Tantra Newsletter: 13 Sex Myths
Let Go of Your False Beliefs to Make Your Sex Life More Orgasmic

Few of us learn enough about sex to reach our orgasmic potential. Too many women don’t orgasm easily, frequently, or at all. Too many men don’t know how to last long enough to give their partners complete satisfaction. In fact, most lovers don’t come anywhere near reaching the peaks of pleasure easily available to all genders and lifestyles.

We could chalk this dismal state of affairs in bed up to horrendously lacking sex education or sex-negative puritan values passed down the generations. Whatever the cause, many of us end up with false beliefs about sex. By “false” I mean ideas, notions, and practices that just don’t serve the highest good of our sex lives.

False beliefs about sex are the ones that keep us apart, limit our pleasure, and prevent orgasms.

"Sacred Sexual Secrets" Newsletter #285 published 7/27/2017
Published by Somraj Pokras & Jeffre TallTrees 
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These false beliefs have generated some commonly accepted sex myths. You just might find that rethinking these erroneous, inaccurate, and unworkable ideas could awaken your dormant opportunities to enjoy sexual ecstasy.

My sexology practice concentrates of orgasmic sex. That’s not just adult play that ends in better, bigger, and stronger orgasms. Orgasmic sex is all forms of lovemaking that make you continuously feel like you’re having an orgasm. You know that irresistible sensation when you’re hovering on the brink and the explosion is inevitable? Yes, orgasmic sex is feeling those mind-blowing, earth-shattering, body-rocking sensations the whole time for as long as you want. You can get there by tuning in on, amplifying, and channelling sexual energy.

Here are some of the sex myths that can prevent you from getting to a place where you feeling like you’re coming continuously.

1. Sex Myth: Sex Is Intercourse

Sure, intercourse is sex. But sex can be so much more. In fact, studies have shown that only 30% of women can climax through intercourse alone. Experts believe this is because those other 70% need clitoral stimulation to go over the top. Plus, many need a sense of safety, affection, and respect to completely let go. To change the false belief that sex is only intercourse you might consider adding more fingers, tongues, toys, and fantasies — and words and gestures of love — to your erotic adventures. And if you think handjobs and oral sex are just foreplay, you might want to reconsider. Sometimes they’re the main event. Many lovers, especially women, crave variety. So other times they provide a great break in the action.

2. Sex Myth: Performance Is Paramount

Knowing a lot about your own and your partner’s sexual anatomy is valuable. That, and experience, can help you refine your skills as a lover so you can both enjoy yourselves more. But if devote most of your attention to what you’re doing and how well it’s working, you’ll be in your head instead or in your body where pleasure happens. Orgasmic sex is hottest when both partners take responsibility for maximizing their own turn-on. Then you’ve got the liquid gold of sexual energy in abundance to exchange.

3. Sex Myth: You Should Orgasm Every Time

Exploding with a Big O is undoubtedly one of life’s great joys. But dancing on the verge for an hour is pretty fantastic, too. Guys, especially those whose egos are wrapped up their performance, think sex isn’t very good without an orgasm. They should talk to a lot of women about this. They’ll find so many other sources of pleasure and satisfaction that don’t depend on a world-rattling climax. One of the principles in our new ebook Long Hot Tantric Love Making advises to not make orgasm a goal. That can put too much pressure on both men and women. Instead, let them come to you.

4. Sex Myth: You Have To Come Together

Simultaneous orgasm is a genuine treasure. But it’s not that easy or common. If you force your way to a mutual explosion, you might well miss lots of the fun along the way. You see, orgasmic sex is all about putting your attention on how good it’s feeling, not where you’re going. Even though we make love several times a week, we only come together when the time is right for both of us. That turns out on average to be once a month. Like a special occasion.

5. Sex Myth: Don’t Touch Yourself During Sex

When I was younger I thought a skilled cocksman didn’t need a hand to guide penetration. Maybe that misapprehension came from seeing a bull elephant’s huge organ unerringly navigate into his mate. Do their organs have radar? Now I realize some positions need a Hand Assist for entry. I’ve even turned intermittent finger play into a basic art of lovemaking. Playing with a clio (clitoris), pussy lips, rosetta (anus), and balls, for example, are great add-ons while sliding in and out. In fact, sometimes I break for a moment now and then for some fingering. There are erogenous zones inside a yoni (vagina) to which even the most skilled cocks don’t do justice.

6. Sex Myth: You Don’t Need Sex Toys

A vibrator or dildo is highly useful if you don’t have a playmate at the moment. But adding them into the mix during penetration can vastly expand your erotic sensations. One tenet of orgasmic sex is to stimulate multiple erogenous zones on each other. If your jewels (jewels) are sliding in and out, there’s no reason you can’t add a vibe. This is especially wonderful on a clio at any time. And if you’re not into threesomes, toys provide an easy route to one of porn’s greatest attractions: double penetration. If you want to really go all the way, try a butt plug in her or his rosetta while you’re screwing. Or both.

Sorry, but you’ll have to wait until next month’s Sacred Sexual Secrets newsletter for the other seven sex myths. Or you could read them now in our Orgasmic Sex Blog here.

Love, Somraj


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