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Your Newsletter - The Woman's Role In Tantric Love Play Part 2

Society gives women conflicting sexual messages that block our full appreciation of the splendors of sacred sexuality. For the Tantric path out of this morass, read this issue's feature article which is continued from our last newsletter.

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"S A C R E D S E X U A L S E C R E T S" Newsletter 10/25/02
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Published by Dhyan Jeffre TallTrees & Dhyan Somraj Pokras
ISSN 1540-8825 (c) Copyright 2002 by Tantra At Tahoe
<http://www.TantraAtTahoe.com> (530) 587-1317
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This is a free ezine distributed twice a month offering practical sex tips derived from modern sex research and the ancient wisdom of Tantra and the Kama Sutra. We teach Supreme Bliss Tantra which is dedicated to helping you deepen your relationship intimacy and reach astounding heights of sexual ecstasy through long-distance learning and hands-on training.
Our Motto: Deeper Into The Heart Of Sex
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Dear Subscriber:

Do you find you get into sexual ruts?

Though we can think of several graphic meanings of that question, we mean it seriously. You know, falling into a routine that eventually becomes boring and commonplace. Yes, it can even happen with something as exciting as sex.

Of course, Supreme Bliss Tantra is all about spontaneous in-the-moment childlike sexual play. We feel it's our responsibility to you, our readers, to set a great example of Tantric lovemaking. So we avoid the tendency to get stuck in routine patterns by experimenting and trying new things. We urge you to do the same.

Lately, we've been getting really turned on by testing out the exercises in our new ebook about G-Spot Orgasm and Female Ejaculation. It's about half-way done. For your sake, we hope to have it done before Christmas. For our sake, we have to admit to wanting to continue experimenting. But I'm sure we'll do that even after publication.

Thanks to all of you who are helping us find the most popular name for the ebook. And congratulations to Daniel Bromberg who won this month's contest and received a free copy of Somraj's "Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery."

This issue's article will explain why this is a great ebook for women's experimentation. Read it to find the discount code for this month's product special.

By the way, we've given a name to our special approach to sexual ecstasy: Supreme Bliss Tantra. See our explanation below.

Love from Tantra At Tahoe who is...
Dhyan Jeffre & Dhyan Somraj

P.S. If you have close friends with whom you talk about sex, please forward this newsletter to them. Everyone can benefit from Tantric ecstasy and spiritual growth.

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S U P R E M E B L I S S T A N T R A
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Supreme Bliss is the zenith of sexual ecstasy which transforms orgasmic energy into expanded consciousness.

Supreme Bliss Tantra is the modern system of personal transformation based on the ancient Eastern spiritual path which uses sexual energy practices to...
• deepen love and intimacy,
• extend lovemaking, and
• create continuous full-body mind-altering Tantric Orgasms.

By opening your senses of the present moment, embracing all of life and all of your being, and focusing on pleasure as a divine gift, Supreme Bliss Tantra...
• heals your mind, body, and spirit,
• connects you passionately with your deeper self and your beloved, and
• immerses you deeply into the untold joys of sacred sexuality to reach cosmic peaks of pleasure
makes life an ecstatic journey in total communion with all that is.

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T A N T R I C Q U O T E S O F T H E M O N T H
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"He who hesitates is a damned fool."

"A hard man is good to find."

"Too much of a good thing is wonderful."

"Is that a gun in your pocket, or are you just happy to see me?"

"Mae: "How tall are you?"
"Man: "Six foot seven."
"Mae: "Well, let's forget about the six foot and talk about the
seven inches".

"Anything worth doing is worth doing slowly."

----------- Mae West

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"Not Everything Is Sexual, It Just Seems That Way"

We think it's great to be sexually open and conscious. There's too much sexual repression in our world. But sometimes those little references aren't as sexy as they seem.

See how you do on our innocent Vocabulary Test. None of the answers are sexual in any way.

1) What is a four-letter word that ends in "k" and means the
same as intercourse?

2) What is it that a cow has four of and a woman has only two of?

3) What can you find in a man's pants that is about six inches
long, has a head on it, and that women love so much that
they often blow it?

4) What word starts with "f " and ends with "u-c-k"?

5) Name five words that are each four letters long, end in
" u-n-t " one of which is a word for a woman?

6) What does a dog do that you can step into?

7) What four letter word begins with "f " and ends with " k", and
if you can't get one you can use your hands?

8) What is hard, six inches long, has two nuts,
and can make a girl fat?

9) What four-letter word ends in "i-t" and is found on the
bottom of birdcages?

10) What is it that all men have one of that's longer on some
men than on others, that the pope doesn't use, and that a man
gives it to his wife after they're married?

Answers below.

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COMING TOGETHER FOR SUPREME BLISS

The Woman's Role In The Splendors Of Tantric Sex
Part 2

In the last issue, we discussed the confusing messages women get about sex in our society. Tantra is the ideal solution to chart your own path and discover your own sexual truth. We looked into learning about your own body, being an active participant, and communicating openly with your partner. All keys to reaching Supreme Bliss.

Here we want to go deeper into how two become one during sacred sexuality. What we'll say is as relevant for a woman's male lover as it is for the woman herself. In a nutshell, you have to be able to let go, pace yourself, tune in, be responsive, exchange energy, and practice.

LEARNING TO LET GO
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these questions...
First of all, you have to be willing and able to let go. Ask yourself these questions...
* Do you accept sexuality as a divine gift?
* Do you love yourself and your divine temple, your body?
* Do you believe you deserve all the pleasure you can muster?
* Have you done the personal work to move past the social
taboos and sexual wounding we all carry?
If not, read our August 25 newsletter issue that explains how to release resistance through Tantric healing at...
<http://www.tantraattahoe.com/resources.htm#Newsletters>.

When you can relax while sexually aroused, you'll know you've succeeded at letting go. If you get stressed, tighten up, or freak out when things get too intimate, you know you've got some letting go work to do. Like our dear friend who told us the story about giving a sensuous massage to a new partner after a long drought. When he offered to return the favor, she bolted. A blatant signal that something inside needs to be looked into.

If you can play actively and spontaneously with childlike exuberance, then you'll know you're open to the pleasure you're about to receive.

PACING YOURSELF FOR THE LONG HAUL
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If you've been wandering the desert for days without water, it's natural to jump in and drink all you can at the first cool mountain stream you stumble across. Understandable, but don't always gorge yourself.

The secret to reaching Supreme Bliss together is to pace yourself. In Tantra, we concentrate on savoring sensation and milking every touch for maximum delight. You just can't fully appreciate pleasure if you're rushing at breakneck speed. For many, going too fast just causes them to numb out.

But we don't recommend tight control. Better to go with the flow, drift with the current, and follow your whims.

Masters and mistresses of pacing learn to peak and plateau. Peaking is riding a wave of pleasure upwards without pushing for more. After multiple peaks, Tantric adepts learn to plateau, to stay at a high level of turn-on instead of coming back down.

Some worry that by floating at a peak they'll miss the Big O (for orgasm). On the contrary, we find the best climaxes come after more and more titillation that take you higher and higher. This is the Tantric secret of energy conservation -- heat up, circulate and exchange the juice, and play with it as long as you can. The final results are often so mind-boggling and supremely blissful you may not even care about having that "big one."

Did you see this July newsletters about dancing on the verge or last November's graphic explanation about why seeking pleasure not orgasm is more explosive in the long run? If not, read them for further discussion of pacing yourself at...
<http://www.tantraattahoe.com/resources.htm#Newsletters>.

LET THOSE DELICIOUS EXPLOSIONS COME TO YOU
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While we're on the subject of the ultimate climax, be sure you understand the mechanics of simultaneous ones. Instead of pushing for them, we advocate letting orgasms come to you.

If a man is trying to make you come, he often comes himself sooner than you both would like. If you try to make yourself come before nature takes its course, you can prevent just the orgasm you're craving. Focusing intently on having an orgasm takes you out of fully enjoying the sensations of the moment. It puts pressure on one or both of you, the very thing that often blocks the eruption of those delightful inner forces. Just accept whatever comes, or whoever comes, along the way.

That's the Tantric way, smelling the roses, or your partner's flowering, if you prefer.

THE DYNAMICS OF THE OLD IN AND OUT
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And while we're on the subject of sex, let's not forget the dynamics of the old in and out. When most men ejaculate, they lose the interest and ability to continue making love. Many fall asleep. With practice, male lovers can learn to time their own orgasms. An added side benefit is that, after peaking, many men become less sensitive. Then you can really go for it with lots of vigorous stroking for a good long while.

How do you learn the Tantric secrets of non-stop lovemaking? Somraj's ebook "Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery" teaches fantastic exercises for men to learn to ride the wave and be able to come back for more and more. Click here for details... <http://www.tantraattahoe.com/uem.htm>.

But, there is much that female partners need to learn, too. Women, you do know that you can make even a superstar blow it with too much fast intense stroking, don't you?

Let go of your goals, pace yourself, and don't push for orgasm. Instead, swallow every last bit of pleasure you can experience. Then you'll both stay in the game until the last inning. (Sorry, even though it's World Series time that doesn't mean baseball is the best sexual analogy.)

TUNE IN TO YOUR PARTNER'S PLEASURE
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Of course, pacing won't work well if either of you is oblivious to your partner's level of excitement.

Learn what your partner likes and dislikes. Stay aware of both your own and your partner's level of arousal. Find a brief way to communicate that won't distract from your sensuous mood. Both men and women can use the 10 point excitement scale in Somraj's ebook. If you read it together, you'll have a quick code to share how close you are to the point of no return.

Women, frequently notice what feels neutral, good, and too good to you partner. Become expert at reading when he's real close so you can slow down or stop. In other words, synchronize with your partner's ups and downs.

Women who've typically wanted fast pumping report some startling news when playing the start-stop game with their male lover. When you hold still for a moment so your partner doesn't ejaculate, you feel more. The moment of rest and relaxation lets the subtle energy percolate to the surface.

We love a hiatus at a peak. That's when the streaming orgasmic energy most often rocks and rolls us into waves of Supreme Bliss -- exquisite inner quivering and outer spasms.

BE RESPONSIVE AND SHOW YOUR INNER BEAUTY
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A woman's lover needs to tune into what's happening with her as well. If you don't show your turn-on, your partner won't know how to climb higher and higher with you. Yes, it is lady like to demonstrate with gusto how much you're enjoying sex. Your true beauty is revealed. And guys love it.

Often give cues to your level of passion. Breathe deeper, move more, and above all, make sounds in response to what you're feeling. Use words to appreciate what you're felling and ask for specifics if you can. Help your partner feel what you're feeling in each moment.

Somraj recalls a responsive Latin lover who was so hot she couldn't translate her screams of ecstasy into English. Though he didn't understand her Spanish words, he quickly learned her orgasmic triggers without a translator.

If you simply let your excitement show, you'll be what men crave, a wild lover. But please don't fake it. If it feels good, really, really show it. Then your lover can coordinate with you too.

LEARN TO EXCHANGE ENERGY
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If you enjoy yourselves immensely and don't force things that your partner isn't ready for, you'll be ready to depart on the Exchanging Energy Express. By breathing, moving, and vibrating in unison, you'll begin to feel each other's excitement as if it were your own.

That's what our Tantric Initiations do, teaching you how to open your inner channels to the surges of orgasmic energy. If one of you still harbors some unresolved inhibitions, you'll have trouble generating, circulating, and enjoying this powerful energy.

When you fully feel each other's turn on, going slow is delightful. It's as if both of your bodies constantly quiver in that glowing pulse right before orgasm. By exchanging orgasmic energy, you float there endlessly, reaching higher and higher states of ecstasy. That's what we call Supreme Bliss.

Click here for more details...
<http://www.tantraattahoe.com/service/initiation.htm>.

BE WILLING TO PRACTICE
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When you first climax together after hours of Supreme Bliss, you'll understand our belief that good sex isn't automatic, it's a learned art and science. We encourage you to read, practice, and experiment.

Try things out on each other to see what turns you on. Remember the great moves, discard the duds. Test out exercises in Tantra books. Practice the Orgasm Mastery partner exercises in Somraj's "Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery" together.

Women, to encourage you to take the initiative in extended lovemaking, we're offering you 15% off "Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery" this holiday season. Go to this page...
<http://www.tantraattahoe.com/uem.htm>
and enter this code "15uem2002" in the coupon field.

Guys, a free hint: our on-line shopping doesn't check our book buyers' gender.

Why would a woman want to read "Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery"? If you understand how it all works, you'll be better able to support him and respond during lovemaking. The beginning chapters of the ebook describe the system of unlimited lovemaking this article has only touched on. The more you understand the solo exercises your man will be doing, the better you can help him in creating those reflexes in his body.

More importantly, the final two chapters are ripe with practices for couples. You'll want to do them together, and you'll enjoy them immensely if you understand the process. They're a proven path to hours and hours of extended lovemaking pleasure leading to Supreme Bliss. We know because we volunteered to test them exhaustively at great personal sacrifice (joke).

Like dancers have been saying for ages, it takes two to Tantric (sex, that is).

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Dhyan Jeffre TallTrees, Ph.D. is a licensed SkyDancing Tantra Teacher with over 30 years of clinical experience in relationships and human sexuality. Jeffre is co-author of "Hotter Sex, Deeper Love."
Dhyan Somraj is the author of countless articles about Tantra, over 50 workshops, and 4 books including Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery. During his 30 year career as a counselor, group facilitator, and trainer, Somraj has guided more that 20,000 people to lead more ecstatic effective lives.

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"Recent Research Findings Confirm Need For Tantra"


7 years into marriage, three quarters of couples say they are dissatisfied with their sex lives and might consider straying.

67% of women suffer from unmet sexual needs.

The average man ejaculates within 2 to 2.5 minutes of insertion into the female.

By the age of 27, 97% of men can’t have erections 1/5 as much as when they were 20.

30 million men in the USA alone suffer from erectile dysfunction.

Premature ejaculation is a problem which plagues up to 36 million men.

28% of men reported a problem with rapid (premature) ejaculation, lasting only 4.3 minutes before orgasm.

Nearly 80 million men are unsatisfied with their ability to "last long enough.”

Only 41% of women said they have discussed their sexual life with their partners or told them what turns them on.

83% of women worry about difficulties achieving orgasm.

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W I N B Y B Y T A K I N G O U R S E X P O L L
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Congratulations to Daniel Bromberg who won our October CONTEST and received a free copy of Somraj's popular ebook, "Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery."

We wish you lots more long-lasting Tantric Orgasms, Daniel. Thanks for contributing.

You could be next month's winner. For your monthly chance to win a free Tantric ebook or email course, be sure to enter our monthly contest by taking our 1 minute Tantric Sex Poll by clicking here...

<http://www.tantraattahoe.com/poll.htm>.

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"Answers To Innocent Vocabulary Test Above"

1. (talk)
2. (legs)
3. (a twenty dollar bill)
4. (firetruck)
5. (bunt, hunt, runt, punt, aunt)
6. (pants)
7. (fork)
8. (Almond Joy candy bar)
9. (grit)
10. (last name)

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