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Your Tantra Newsletter: Where Is Sexual Pleasure On Your To Do List?
"How To Transform Your Entire Life With Tantric Sex"

"Sacred Sexual Secrets" Newsletter 9/8/04
Published by Dhyan Somraj Pokras & Dhyan Jeffre TallTrees
ISSN 1540-8825 (c) Copyright 2004 by Tantra At Tahoe (530) 587-1317
This free ezine offers practical sex tips derived from modern
sex research and the ancient wisdom of Tantra and the Kama
Sutra. We teach Supreme Bliss Tantra to help you deepen
relationship intimacy and reach astounding heights of sexual
ecstasy through long-distance learning and hands-on training.
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Dear Tantra Friend:

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Because Tantra is central to our spiritual make-up, we don't lead the typical kind of 9 to 5 (or 7 to 7) kind of life like we used to and like so many people still do. Sure, we work hard, write, teach, and play hard. But we do it when it brings us joy.

You can change the way you lead your life too and get things back in balance. We consider that part of our job, not just sharing juicy Tantric Sex Tips. Which is why the featured article this issue is all about priorities. We don't want to tell you what yours should be. Rather we suggest a prescription for figuring out what's right for you.

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* Featured Article: "Where Is Sexual Pleasure On Your To Do List?"
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Tantric Quote
- i like my body -

"i like my body when it is with your body. It is so quite new a thing. Muscles better and nerves more.
i like your body. i like what it does,
i like its hows. i like to feel the spine of your body and its bones, and the trembling-firm-smoothness and which i will again and again and again kiss, i like kissing this and that of you, i like, slowly stroking the, shocking fuzz
of your electric fur, and what-is-it comes over parting flesh....And eyes big love-crumbs,

and possibly i like the thrill

of under me you so quite new."

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A big cat will scratch and bite. But a little pussy never hurt anybody.

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"Where Is Sexual Pleasure On Your To Do List?"
"How To Transform Your Entire Life With Tantric Sex"

by Jeffre TallTrees

Life is so full of choices. Sometimes, the number of choices we have can be overwhelming. Who you are and what you value determine the choices you make in every moment.

Of course, the choices we as Tantrikas choose as a priority in our life are sex and pleasure. We believe that sex and pleasure are not only our divine right, but the true path to wholeness and love.

What does it mean to have a priority in your life? A priority is the organizing principle around which you plan everything you think about and you do.

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Let Pleasure Guide You In All Things
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Tantra says let pleasure be your organizing principle.

Start with what feels good in your life and let everything else organize around that. Although we can say that in a mere 15 words, it may take a lifetime to get there. Don't forget that popular saying, "Today is the first day of the rest of your life."

As a sex therapist, I have seen many many couples who put sex last on their list. They have routine sex, often late at night when neither of them are rested, eager or imaginative, but tired, stressed without much to give. Both are usually interested in getting it (sex, that is) over with so they can go to sleep.

Sounds like a prescription for not only dull sex, but a sure way to have less and less desire as the months and years go on. Not much satisfaction or pleasure or intimacy in utilitarian sex. We know, sexual pleasure can be what you look forward to everyday and carry the energy around with you long after the physical act.

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Where Is Sex On Your List?
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Is sex the last thing on your list when you're planning your day? Or is it the first thing?

How about self pleasuring? Particularly if you are single, but also if you are coupled, do you plan ahead so that you can be sure to be awake and motivated for your self pleasuring session?

Do you schedule at least one night a week for lovemaking? Do you make regular plans for child care, if necessary? Do you go away on romantic over-nighters or weekends enough?

If you have a quickie or a nooner with your beloved, do you turn your phones off? Do you often think of sex and pleasure during the day? If you're a guy, this is usually pretty easy. If you're a woman, you might have to consciously shift your thinking toward sexual content.

People are always asking us about this idea of doing what feels good first. A big question is: isn't that selfish? Other questions include: Isn't that hedonism? Aren't we supposed to be thinking about everybody else? Wouldn't that create chaos if everybody did just what felt good?

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You're Already Full Of Yourself - Might As Well Enjoy It
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In Supreme Bliss Tantra, we reach for what feels good in the moment. Because we care about other people, this always includes the consciousness that pushes us to consider how they feel because we know that all behavior has consequences or "fall out" if you will.

Tantra teaches the ultimate self awareness of who you are and what you are doing. It's a healthy condition so we prefer to call it "self-full." Mental health and physical health are dependent on this kind of healthy selffullness. If you don't look after your own well-being, who will?

Only when you really know yourself and have loosened the bonds of your inhibitions, can the orgasmic energy (and the orgasms) really flow. This kind of knowing yourself means knowing all of who you are, including your shadow or your dark side. We all have a shadow. We all have "bad" feelings and impulses; unacceptable and inappropriate desires, kinky thoughts, and fantasies that we know we'll never act on.

Tantra says "Fine." Look at those feelings, feel them. Look at those desires, feel them and love them. Look at those thoughts and fantasies, experience them and love them. Approve of yourself your having primal energy. Yes, you're alive!

Act them out if you feel it would be a growth experience. Don't deny those feelings, thoughts, impulses or desires. When you're afraid of your impulses, thoughts and feelings and try to pretend they aren't there, they will sneak up behind you and express themselves in ways that aren't good for you.

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Learn To Love The One You're With - Yourself
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Wouldn't you rather take charge of your impulses instead of developing intense inhibitions, fears, anxiety disorders, depression or some unacceptable behavior or action? Now don't get us started on why there are so many sex perverts around. They haven't found mature ways of dealing with these forces inside all of us.

To be all you can be, you have to love all that you are. Tantra says
there is no exclusion, only inclusion. You can't get rid of stuff that's in you. But your can honor it and use the energy constructively. Bring into your life that which you want. Focus on it. Dream on it. Be it and it will be yours.

When you are squeaky clear (not clean) and loving yourself as a child of the universe, your pursuit of pleasure puts YOU first, but with holistic perceptions of intention, motivation and consequences. The result is there are no tragic surprises and your pleasure balloon is freed, so that it may fill to its optimum.

Sooooo, what's on your To-Do list today? Honestly, how much of your To-Do list involves things that really bring your joy, really pop your cork and makes you laugh? Maybe now is the time to rethink your priorities. Get closer to All That Is by feeling more and more pleasure in your body. You are a sexual being. You are a divine being. Tantra puts them together in a whole way. You put them together by living your joy.

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Where Is Tantric LovePlay In Our Busy Lives?
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Let me give you an example of how Somraj and Jeffre live their priorities. We have learned that if we have dinner between 6-8, we are often too relaxed after dinner to get into intense lovemaking. Our current decision, based on our sex and pleasure priority in life, is to make love first and have dinner later. It works really well and neither of us dozes off.

Granted, if you have children, this may not be practical, but there are other decisions, that is, choices, to consider. We almost always have a "date day/night" every week. We set aside the time for ourselves and each other. That's our focus. We turn off the phones, lock the door and enjoy the fruits of the beauty we create. We take those energetic, ecstatic feelings into the next day which often results in more lovemaking. Ecstasy brings the desire for more, more, more.

Having more pleasure in your life begins with a decision. A decision about how you are going to spend your time. If you truly cherish your sexual pleasure, your connection to All That Is, how about making more time in your life to experience it?

The interesting and wonderful thing about Tantra is that the more you think and feel that glorious sexual energy pulsing through you, the more whole you feel and the more of that glorious energy you want to feel. This is true whether you are male or female. When your sexual expression is ecstatic, you can't help but want more.

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What You Can Do To Transform Your Life With Tantric Sex
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What you can do! Make a list of activities you value most, rate them from highest valued to lowest valued.

Now write down another list with all your life activities, how you spend your time, beginning with sleeping. We all spend more time sleeping than anything else. It's more meaningful to do this for at least a week, a day at a time. Be sure to include work, eating, going to the toilet, talking to friends, sexing (with or without a partner), shopping, child care, leisure activities, reading, watching TV, web surfing, emailing, etc. After totaling the time for each day and each activity, total the week for each activity. Now list them in order, from time most spent to time least spent.

Compare your lists. Compare how you want to be spending your life with the way you are actually spending your time. And, most relevant to the topic at hand, where is sex and pleasure on that list? What would you like to change? How would you like to change it?

As Tantrikas, Somraj and Jeffre believe that it is not only our right but our privilege to seek pleasure in our lives. When we are feeling the surge of orgasmic energy in our bodies, we are communing with the cosmos, dancing with the stars and celebrating our existence as a spark of All That Is.

Live the life of love, live Supreme Bliss Tantra. Begin today by revising your To-Do list. Your power is only NOW. We support you. Let us know how we can help.

Ecstatically yours, Somraj & Jeffre

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- Little Sister -

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Trying to be funny, the daddy says, "Honey, you do have a sister. You just don't see her because when you are coming in the front door, she is always leaving through the back door."

The little girl thinks about this and remarks,
"You mean like my other Daddy does?"

Tantric Quote
- Knowing A Man -

"You never know a man until you know how he loves." -- SIGMUND FREUD

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