Dance On The Tantric Verge - Part 2
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"S A C R E D S E X U A L S E C R E T S" Newsletter 7/25/02
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Published by Dhyan Jeffre TallTrees & Dhyan Somraj Pokras
(c) Copyright 2002 by Tantra At Tahoe
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We had a fabulous time practicing Tantra on a sailboat in the Bahamas the last couple weeks. Making love on deck under the stars was one of the many highlights. Nude snorkeling was pretty cool, too.
We'd love to hear of your exciting venues for vacation sex. Don't you agree that even though you can't get enough of a great thing, new places make it even juicier?
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J U I C Y P U Z Z L E
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"WHAT IS IT?"
Schwartzenegger has a big one
Michael J. Fox has a small one
Madonna doesn't have one
The Pope has one but doesn't use his
Mickey Mouse has an unusual one
George Burns' was hot
Liberace never used his on women
Jerry Seinfeld is very, very proud of his
We never saw Lucy use Desi's
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What is it?
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A Last Name
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T A N T R I C Q U O T E O F T H E M O N T H
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“While making love, think of prayer, meditation, God. While making love, burn incense, chant, sing, dance. Your bedroom should be a temple, a sacred place. And lovemaking should not be a hurried thing. Go deeper into it, savor it as slowly and as gracefully as possible. And you will be surprised. You have the key.” ----- OSHO
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F E A T U R E D A R T I C L E
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DANCING THE VERGE
Unleash The Tantric Wizard Within
To Catapult You To Untold Heights
PART 2
In our last issue, we extolled the Tantric virtues of playing on the edge of orgasm to reach untold heights of ecstasy. If you're interested in...
- Sacred sexuality,
- Stronger orgasms,
- Deeper intimacy, or
- Soaring continuously in a state of bliss
then you want to learn how to dance on the verge.
This issue is about how to get there. If you missed Part 1, you can find it in our archives at...
<http://www.tantraattahoe.com/resources.htm>.
How do you learn to ride the verge? Simply by...
1) Preparing,
2) Synchronizing,
3) Cycling, and
4) Lava Lamping.
PREPARE
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To prepare for expert verge riding, you're probably expecting to master sexual anatomy, strengthen your erection or lubrication, and learn the perfect lick and stroke for each erogenous zone. All good ideas, of course. But, Tantrikas (short for Tantric adepts) who dedicate their love lives to sacred sexual practice, naturally evolve into skilled lovers via a somewhat different path.
The inner tools of spiritual sex are far more essential than its physical techniques. For example, we're all programmed to believe is that the Big O (for orgasm) is the ultimate goal of sex. To become a master verge dancer, you've got to start by mentally embracing the benefits of dallying just short of climax.
We understand that you may not completely accept the hype about not going over the edge until you've personally experienced how great it feels and how long it can last. But you can start by trusting thousands of years of sacred sexual lore and our enthusiastic endorsement that it's all true. Believe us, you will be amazed at how powerful your pleasure will be.
Next, let go of any expectations about what's supposed to happen during lovemaking. Drop any beliefs you have about what the agenda of great sex is. Your fixed ideas - like pumping faster and faster until you come - get in the way. Simply focus on enjoying every little thing.
You need to release any inhibitions that hold you back from surrendering to pleasure. We know that's easier said then done. But here's where the spiritual journey aspect of Tantra is so valuable in helping you understand your true sexual identity and find out who you really are. The short version: when resistance comes up in its many forms, just watch it and consciously let it go.
Some call Tantra sexual meditation because becoming centered within yourself and learning to relax even in high states of arousal is essential.
Finally, learn to use the four cornerstones of sexual ecstasy to open your inner flute (your sexual energy channel) and spread the juice around. The four cornerstones are the kind of breath, sound, movement, and visualization that you naturally experience during orgasm. In Tantric practice, we've turned these human responses into stimulating exercises that you'll enjoy doing repeatedly.
The four cornerstones are the primary focus of the first stage of our private Tantric Initiations. When you've mastered these skills, you'll know exactly how to turn yourself on and ramp up your pleasure even without the perfect lover's touch. For details about how we can initiate you into these joys, click here...
<http://www.tantraattahoe.com/service/initiation.htm>.
SYNCHRONIZE
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One of the vital keys to riding the edge is for giver and receiver to synchronize their love play.
This applies even to self-pleasuring, another socially-denounced ritual that Tantrikas honor. We celebrate giving oneself pleasure as a divine gift. In fact, it's great practice for learning to hover on the precipice.
Since giver and receiver are one and the same during self-pleasuring, you might wonder if synchronizing is necessary? Yes, because all too often we get swept away in that urge to go all the way as fast as we can. So the receiver part of you needs to learn to relax into the pleasure while the giver part of you monitors your level of arousal. The two parts of you need to coordinate to ride the verge.
One of the breakthroughs for men who tend to climax too quickly is learning to read their excitement level at each moment in time. Somraj's great ebook, Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery, contains detailed exercises to easily master this by the numbers. Click here if you don't have a copy yet...
<http://www.tantraattahoe.com/uem.htm>.
SYNCHRONIZE TOGETHER
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When you're exchanging sexual stimulation with a partner, synchronizing becomes so much more critical, especially as you approach a peak of excitement.
To get totally in sync, each partner has to read their own level of arousal and be transparent to what's happening inside and out. This means to continuously let your partner know what you're experiencing.
While you're learning, we encourage lots of communication. Agree on signals that you'll use when you want to go slower, faster, harder, or softer, or when you want to pause to savor and enjoy. Consciously practice your signals, and ask questions when you're not sure what's happening with your partner.
Don't worry if you're not in sync at first. Act like kids with a new game who laugh at themselves when they fumble around learning something new. The more you practice, the more you'll be able to read your partner's subtle cues.
Of course, it's great if you can coordinate without the kind of talking that takes you out of your body, into your mind, and interrupts the flow. Tantrikas who master the four cornerstones do this easily because they're so responsive. You can tell what they're feeling by the loud sounds they make, the deep way they breathe, and the vigorous movements they make.
When you learn to stream - vibrate inside and out with surging orgasmic forces - your partner will know clearly when you're peaking. The streaming reflex is a primary element of the second stage of our private Tantric Initiations.
One way you can begin to develop this reflex is by listinging body parts during love play. While you're exciting your partner's genitals with your fingers, mouth, or intercourse strokes, stimulate another erogenous zone at the same time. Try nipples, earlobes, and necks for example. This creates a pathway in which sexual energy can flow and begin to spread around the body. Ancient texts, for example, highlight the natural connection between the clio (Tantric for clitoris) and a woman's upper lip.
CYCLE
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Our preferred way to ride the edge is by making love in short cycles...
- a few strokes from a hand, tongue, or vajra (Tantric for
penis),
- excitement rising to a new level, and then
- relaxing into the streaming vibrations.
Instead of wild non-stop calisthenics, you see short spurts of undulating in perfect harmony, punctuated with silent still moments as the waves of energy swirl making us quiver all over.
What's the point of cycling this way? It's simply a way to savor every delicious morsel of sensation fully. Frankly, most untrained lovers don't know how to absorb too much sensation all at once.
We find too many people who think they need stronger and stronger stimulation to get off. We support whatever floats your cork. But unfortunately, these folks haven't learned to milk the energy out of every subtle sensation. For example, Jeffre prefers cycling to continuous pumping which makes her numb. Somraj prefers cycling because then he can absorb and circulate more and more sexual energy without ejaculating.
So we stroke a little, bask in the delicious feelings for a moment, and go at it again when the vibrations subside. Of course, within each cycle our arousal grows as we're stimulating each other more and more. And gradually our overall level of excitement gets higher and higher as we're generating and recycling more and more sexual energy without release.
This is the key to expanding your capacity for pleasure. Don't explode, instead contain the energy until you're as ecstatic as you want and ready to go for it. You can keep up this cycling higher and higher indefinitely, or until the need for rest, food, or nature (your bladder) calls.
One Tantric text advises faster motions at the beginning of lovemaking and slower stroking as you progress. This is probably because you need less stimulation to send ripples and surges of excitement throughout your bodies after repeated cycling.
Don't get the impression that Tantra is anti-orgasm. When you choose to explode after many cycles, you'll be amazed how much bigger, better, and stronger your climaxes become.
LAVA LAMPING
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Prepare with concerted Tantric exercise, then practice riding the verge, and you'll discover for yourself why the sky is literally the limit. (That's partly why our branch of Tantra is called SkyDancing.)
When even the slightest lick of a tongue or flick of a finger has the power of orgasm, you'll forget about performance, the Big O, or time for that matter. You'll reach an altered state, beyond mind, beyond agendas, beyond separation. A quick pee break, light snack, or brief intimate conversation won't even interrupt your peak after peak of pleasure.
Those who've learned to dance on this billowy cloud of continuous orgasmic ecstasy naturally flow from sensual massage to oral pleasuring to slow intercourse and back again. The verge-dancer naturally shifts from one lovemaking position to another, top to bottom, side to side, deep to shallow, fast to slow as if a magical choreographer was pulling the strings telepathically.
We call this seamless interchange of love play "lava lamping" after the fixture of the sixties with colored fluids swirling up, down, and around from the lamp's heat. (Actually, it's our friend Rick's favorite erotic expression.)
If you've read anything about ancient sacred sexuality, you know the core of Tantric practice is about moving vast amounts of energy throughout the body and to and from your beloved. True. That's what's going on inside the skilled adept.
But now you know what's going on outside - riding the verge.
If you want to open your inner doorways to mind-blowing ecstasy and jump on this path, the best place to start is with our Tantric SexAssess. It's a one-hour phone conversation in which we understand what you're living, honor your desires, and guide you to decide how you're going to get everything you want sexually and spiritually. Click here for details...
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We look forward to meeting you on some lofty peak some time soon during one of our many cycles.
Love and Goddess Speed Your Journey
Dhyan Jeffre and Dhyan Somraj
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Dhyan Jeffre TallTrees, Ph.D. is a licensed SkyDancing Tantra Teacher with over 30 years of clinical experience in relationships and human sexuality. Jeffre is co-author of "Hotter Sex, Deeper Love."
Dhyan Somraj is the author of countless articles about Tantra, over 50 workshops, and 4 books including Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery. During his 30 year career as a counselor, group facilitator, and trainer, Somraj has guided more that 20,000 people to lead more effective lives.
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I N T E R E S T I N G P U B I C F I N D I N G S
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Male Orgasms
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One of Kinsey's research studies focused on frequency of male orgasm. In Kinsey's data, in a series of 182 observed cases, 81 of the preadolescent boys achieved orgasm only once. 17 achieved it twice, 42 achieved it three, four or five times in succession, 30 achieved it from six to ten times in succession and 12 achieved it more than ten times in succession.
The undisputed record was twenty-one orgasms in a row. One eleven-month-old baby boy managed fourteen orgasms in thirty-eight minutes, one eleven-year-old had eleven orgasms in an hour; a fourteen-year-old had eleven orgasms in four hours, and so on and so forth.
It should be remembered that such startling multi orgasmic capabilities are generally lost at the time when orgasm is accompanied by the ejaculation of semen.
Female Orgasms
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That female orgasms can be reckoned in hundreds - in the most extreme cases - in a single session may seem absurd. There is a body of evidence however to suggest that such a possibility could obtain in fact.
Brecher, for instance, quotes the experience of a male participant in the Sexual Freedom Movement - "I would estimate that she experienced between 100 and 200 orgasms during the 4 hour period. Her orgasms were quite obviously physiological; there was no possibility of 'pretending'."
Pomeroy notes "one woman who was capable of from fifteen to twenty orgasms in twenty minutes". Cauthery and Cole declare that "the world's standing record is 100 in one hour," though they give no reference for this remarkable accomplishment.
----- From The Illustrated Book of Sexual Records
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