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Slow Sex Can Be A Life Changing Experience
Let Go Of Sexual Myths That Limit And Shorten Your Pleasure

"Sacred Sexual Secrets" Newsletter 2/27/08
Published by Somraj Pokras & Jeffre TallTrees
ISSN 1540-8825 (c) Copyright 2008 by
This free ezine offers practical sex tips derived from modern
sex research and the ancient wisdom of Tantra and the Kama
Sutra. We teach Supreme Bliss Tantra to help you deepen
relationship intimacy and reach astounding heights of sexual
ecstasy through long-distance learning and hands-on training.
Our Motto: Deeper Into The Heart Of Sex
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This issue contains...
* Tantric Quote: “The Wedding Night”
* Juicy Joke: “Friendship Women And Between Men”
Featured Ebook: "Supreme Bliss Tantra Guide To Spiritual Sex"
Featured Article: "Slow Sex Can Be A Life Changing Experience"
* Juicy Joke: “The Indian With One Testicle”
* Tantric Quote: “The Water Of Unceasing Presence”
* How To Save Over $45 On Our Ebooks

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Tantric Quote

“The Wedding Night”

"...and you will then find her genitals so well lubricated with an emission from her glands of Bartholin, and, possibly, also from her vagina, that your gradual entrance can be effected not only without pain to her, but with a rapture so exquisite to her, that she will be more ready to invite your entrance upon a future occasion. " -- from THE WEDDING NIGHT by Ida Craddock

Juicy Joke: “Friendship Women And Between Men”

Friendship Between Women:

A woman didn't come home one night. The next day she told her husband that she had slept over at a friend's house. The man called his wife's 10 best friends. None of them knew about it.

Friendship Between Men:

A man didn't come home one night. The next day he told his wife that he had slept over at a friend's house. The woman called her husband's 10 best friends. Eight of them confirmed that he had slept over, and two claimed that he was still there.

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Featured Article: “Slow Sex Can Be A Life Changing Experience”

“Let Go Of Sexual Myths That Limit And Shorten Your Pleasure”

By Jeffre TallTrees, Ph.D.

I recently read an article in Cosmo about why fast sex is most desirable for some women. Sex, in this context, means intercourse. The article really riled me and this newsletter article is the result.

Now, don’t get confused! Tantrikas (those who practice Tantra) love all kinds of sex: slow, fast, medium, oral, etc. You get the idea. But it seems that some women don’t like long, slow, or fast sex because they begin to lose pleasurable sensation, get bored, or begin experiencing discomfort. We have recently had a couple of women clients with similar issues. So we know Cosmo didn’t just make it up.

In our ebook designed to help couples get into the Tantric lovestyle, “The Supreme Bliss Tantra Guide To The Ecstasy Of Spiritual Sex,” we describe, at length, the attitude of self love, the use of energy to enhance any sexual experience, and the addition of the spiritual component, if you desire. With the tools in this ebook, any couple can improve their sex life and their love life in a few easy practice sessions. Read our many free introductory pages or download it right away here .

In “Supreme Bliss Tantra,” we often talk about long slow sex to enhance an energetic connection and to feel every sensation possible. So, when someone talks about never having or never liking long sessions with their lover, we know that they know very little about the expanded possibilities of pleasure that the human body can experience.

The Wetness Myth
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Getting more specific, I want to debunk the myth of female lubrication and the misplaced importance it’s often given by men and women alike. When a young woman is aroused, there’s a good chance (not 100%) that she will naturally lubricate from the glands at the bottom of the vagina. For many situations, this is enough lubrication for a 10 or 15 minute bout of intercourse. This amount of time is fine for a Quickie and by the way, is the national average time before the average untrained male ejaculates.

However, when you begin to practice Supreme Bliss Tantra, you really want to experience the optimal pleasures of the Yoni (vagina) and the Vajra (penis) for longer periods of time. And of course, we know that for women to orgasm, it almost always takes more than 10 or 15 minutes of stimulation. The average time for a woman to reach orgasm is about 40 minutes.

Back to those counterproductive beliefs. It is a common belief that if a woman doesn’t lubricate, she is not interested in sex or in this specific partner, and/or there is something wrong with her. NOT!!!! As with all declarations about the nature of Shakti (Tantric for woman), nothing is always true. Any given woman can lubricate or not, given other factors. Of course, age is a huge factor. A perimenopausal woman will notice a decline in her natural lubrication. I repeat, there is nothing wrong with her. Many women lubricate very little regardless of stimulation. Other women lubricate copious amounts with very little stimulation. There should not be rules and expectations about natural lubrication.

In keeping with these strange standards, there seems to be a taboo against the idea of using lubricants for sexual play. We want to take firm stand against this misguided notion that extra lubricant shouldn’t be necessary. IT IS JUST FALSE. This belief is going to hold you back from Supreme Bliss, not to mention the fabulous wonders of all sorts of anal play. That’s why you can find 368 different kinds of lube in our online Adult Products Store here .

Back To Long Slow Sex
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Back to slow, long sex. The friction of the vajra in the yoni (penis in the vagina) is going to dry out the natural lubrication pretty quickly. That’s just the way it is. If the woman and the man learn to control their energies, as in Supreme Bliss Tantra, they will learn very rapidly that something more is needed. Although saliva can help a little, we strongly recommend that you find a water-based lubricant that you both like and use it liberally. We find it kind of silly that some people give false status to not using lubricant. It can only inhibit your sexual play. Stop limiting yourself any way in bed.

We haven’t even mentioned the use of condoms. When you use a condom, for protection against an STD or as birth control, you must use a water based lubricant. If you don’t, you’ll probably have about 5 minutes of good pumping before the women begins feeling ouchies. This is not what either of you want. Remember, oil will not work with latex condoms as it causes them develop pores. Then the whole idea of protection completely collapses.

There are many wonderful natural type of products available on the market. We were recently in an extraordinary sex store in Reno, Nevada and were delighted to find so many products. You can buy water-based lubricants at most drugstores, at least in California and Nevada. Online your choice is nearly unlimited, but you don’t get to try it or feel it first.

We prefer those water-based lubricants without flavorings because we find the flavorings taste artificial and they get tiresome real fast. Some water-based lubes last longer than others. Everyone we talk to about these have their own favorites.

The Lube Must Please You First
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Women, the lube must please you first. Does it feel good inside? I have found some that are irritating to my tissues. Does it taste good for each of you? We love to change around and do different positions and different moves and if you do too, it’s very likely that one or both of you will be tasting this lubricant at some point.

By the way, I’ve recently discovered a new use for water-based lubricant. I like to swab it on Vajra when giving oral sex. This keeps my mouth from getting irritated so I can do it for much longer. This way it gives me more pleasure from the experience. As you might expect, Somraj can’t complain.

With our “Supreme Bliss Tantra Ebook” and a bottle or two of water-based lube, you can dynamically change your love life in the direction of out of this world sensations and satisfactions. We often find that blissful breakthroughs come after an hour of different kinds of sexual play sprinkled liberally with lots of f--------g.

To reiterate, don’t limit yourself in anyway with rules about what you should or should not do. Use the Tantric attitude of saying yes to what is available to you to enhance your sexual and loving experience.

Just call me your long slow sex guru

Love, Jeffre

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Juicy Joke: “The Indian With One Testicle”

There once was an Indian who had only one testicle, and whose given name was Onestone. He hated that name and asked everyone not to call him Onestone. After years and years of torment, Onestone finally cracked and said, "If anyone calls me Onestone again I will kill them!"

The word got around and nobody called him that any more. Then one day a young woman named Blue Bird forgot and said, "Good morning, Onestone."

He jumped up, grabbed her and took her deep into the forest where he made love to her all day and all night. He made love to her all the next day, until Blue Bird died from exhaustion.

The word got around that Onestone meant what he promised he would do. Years went by and no one dared call him by his given name until a woman named Yellow Bird returned to the village after being away. Yellow Bird, who was Blue Bird's cousin, was overjoyed when she saw Onestone.

She hugged him and said, "Good to see you, Onestone." Onestone grabbed her, took her deep into the forest, then he made love to her all day, made love to her all night,
made love to her all the next day, made love to her all the next night, but Yellow Bird wouldn't die!

What is the moral of this story?

You can't kill two birds with one stone!!

Tantric Quote: “The Water Of Unceasing Presence”

"When differentiating mind is lulled and sleeps,
The Kundalini awakes!
The five senses’ source gushes forth forever.
The water of unceasing presence to the world
Is sweet, and I offer it to Shiva."

--- DANIEL ODIER in “Desire”

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