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Your Tantra Newsletter: Be Desireless At The Height Of Desire
To Reach The Cosmic Heights Of Spiritual Ecstasy, Learn To Let Orgasm Come To You

Kinda sounds contradictory, doesn't it? At first glance, yes, but understanding how to be unattached to what you're craving is vital for achieving your sexual potential, attaining higher levels of orgasmic bliss, and using sexual energy as the fuel for your journey towards spiritual enlightenment. This was one of the major lessons of the yearlong Tantra training we first attended together which we now offer as our Advanced Tantra Initiation.

Some religions and philosophies preach dropping all desire…

- That desire is sinful and the root of all evil.

- That wanting to feel good is selfish.

- That never coveting the possessions or mate of another is one of God's commandments.

- That sex is only for procreation.

- That emptying your mind of all lust and wanting is essential for attaining enlightenment.

Come on now. Is it really bad to feel good? Should you take no pleasure in eating? Should you hold it in as long as you can when you need to go to the bathroom? Should you suppress your joy at the successes of your loved ones? Should you avoid wanting to breath?


"Sacred Sexual Secrets" Newsletter 1/26/15
Published by Somraj Pokras & Jeffre TallTrees
ISSN 1540-8825 (c) Copyright 2015 by
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OK, then, we've established that some desires aren't so bad. Or even necessary for life. So who gets to decide which are good and which are evil?

In Supreme Bliss Tantra we say that's your divine right. Feeling good is your native state. If you want to get closer to God or your soul's potential, your pathway is via positive sensations, joy, and happiness. You’re the only one who truly knows what works for you. So cultivate what makes life easy, is great fun, and gets you high. Though ancient Tantric traditions included the use of recreational substances to catalyze your energy flows during special rituals, we’re not trying to give a blanket endorsement to drugs. Rather we’re giving you permission to avoid struggling and look out for you own pleasure.

One of our spiritual guides, who uses the biblical name of Abraham, teaches that "Nothing is more important than that you feel good." This is in stark contrast to the panoply of opposite messages we've all received. If you buy the doctrine that God is demanding and wrathful and must be feared, well, then, you'll probably want to avoid doing anything that might piss him off. (That kind of God wouldn’t be a “her,” would it?)

But if you know in your heart that God is love (that one would be female, right?) and that whichever messiah you believe in wants you to reach heaven, then you need to accept that your native state is blissful. That's who you are at your core. So the Tantric prescription for a wonderful life is to get closer to being who you really are by practicing what feels good.

If, as your read this, you're hearing sermons in the back (or front) of your head about not being selfish, take a deep breath and look at the pros and cons of caring for yourself first. If you're not in good shape, then there's not as much of you to help others. You need your health and connection to that infinite source of life-force energy to be able to give without wiping yourself out. If you practice struggling because you believe you're not worthy, guess what role you're modeling for those you're trying to help?

For you to be healthy and well and thrive, only YOU can manage the process. That's why we prefer the term "self-full." Your personal growth depends on you becoming your full self.

Desire summons life force. Wanting something makes you feel more alive. Besides, if a hankering is bubbling up from inside, what options do you have? Try to suppress it and push it back down? Good luck! Instead, we recommend you listen. Your inner being is trying to tell you something, maybe that you have an unfulfilled need. That maybe looking into what’s going on inside would be good for you.

For example, take his roving eye and her jealousy. Face it, guys like to watch other women strutting their stuff. Some scientists say it’s an integral part of our DNA, wanting to spread our seed far and wide. Whether that’s true or not, it’s a pretty good bet that those with mini-skirts who show a lot of cleavage and wiggle their butt for maximum effect enjoy the attention.

So what’s the harm in him looking? I bet you can guess. It’s because she can’t stand it, probably because she’s afraid he’s going to do something naughty about his craving and eventually leave her. This kind of jealousy summons all sorts of stressful emotions, fears, and insecurities. One or the other reacting isn’t the worst thing though. When he tries to hide his pleasure at being a spectator or she tries to hide her reactions, their communication takes a turn for the worse and they become a little more disconnected. (By the way, you can reverse the pronouns if he’s the jealous one.)

It would be a lot healthier if they could both be honest about their desires and reactions. And if they could both take responsibility for what’s going on inside. But that’s truly difficult if we believe that desiring is bad. Maybe that’s why there are so many more couples today experimenting with non-monogamy, like threesomes, swinging, and polyamorous relationships.

In a nutshell, this discussion captures why Tantra uses sexuality as a self-learning tool. In our society that’s so conflicted about sex, trying to play more and expand your sexual skills tends to stimulate internal conflicts like guilt and shame. When you try to connect with your beloved in a deeper way, don't be surprised if you get embarrassed talking about your body and what it wants.

“OMG, you want me to do what?”

“Yes, I want to try it and see how it feels.”

“But that’s so (pick one: dirty, kinky, sinful, naughty, outrageous, perverted, etc.)

Look, conformity isn’t going to get you closer in touch with who you really are. But experimenting with your percolating desires may. Especially if you witness your reactions and shine the light of consciousness on what’s happening. Of course, this requires that you remain critically aware of what YOUR real ideas and feelings are — not some outmoded taboos from another time and belief system downloaded from your parents, priests, or politicians.

Reaching for higher states of sexual ecstasy is a powerful part of the Tantric growth process. To do that you have to shed the old programs you inherited from a time when you weren’t as conscious. You have to examine deeply what’s true for you, not some other self-proclaimed know-it-all. And you have to release shame and embarrassment so you can honestly learn about your body, its desires, and its sexual functions.

If you can do this, you learn to play with the power of orgasm and enjoy more. Not just in bed, but as your capacity to welcome pleasure expands, you can feel more and more in all sorts of life situations.

If you buy our premise that desiring is good and accepting your desires in a conscious way can lead you (maybe with a lot of personal work) to a better, fuller life, then let us move on to the other side of our contradictory premise, namely being Desireless. You’ll find the second half of this article in next month’s newsletter. Until then, enjoy your desires any way you can let yourself.

Love, Somraj and Jeffre


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