Measuring Your Turn-On: Navigating Pleasure and Timing Orgasm Using the 10-Point Scale

(This article appeared in our Sacred Sexual Secrets newsletter on February 24, 2017.)

Many sex therapists recommend that lovers use a 10-point scale for monitoring their level of arousal during sexual play. I first learned about it from the now-departed and renown sex therapist Bernie Zilbergeld who wrote The New Male Sexuality in 1992.

For example, a man might use 0 to represent the rest state, 5 the beginning of pleasure surges, and 10 for ejaculation.

I made the scale an early foundation of my first ebook, Ultimate Premature Ejaculation Mastery, which appeared in print as Male Multiple Orgasm in 2007. In those volumes I recommend a man develop his own personal definition for each level.

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To learn to last longer, it’s really helpful for a guy to know when he’s having fun around 4, 5, and 6 and suddenly his turn-on shoots up to 8. Then he can slow down or otherwise adjust to avoid exploding before he wants. And for us old guys it’s important to realize when good feelings at 6 or 7 start to droop below 5. That’s when I speed up or switch to a tighter position so I can stay hard and in the game as long as I want.

Now that I’m an active yet still hypersensitive 70-year-old, I find that my lovemaking swings back and forth from too soft to too close to coming. Over the years I’ve learned lots of things I can do to respond. But I need to be mindful of my level of excitement to know what to do in each moment.

You may not need a 10-point scale to tell you how turned-on you are. But it helps me a lot.

I’d love to be able to brag about how much progress I’ve made towards enlightenment from my twenty-year spiritual journey that includes teaching and practicing Tantra. But the reality is that my mind just naturally measures things all the time.

A case in point. When my sweetie and I vibrate together as we soar to a high peak of pleasure and then relax into each other’s arms, my mind might automatically flash 753. If I care to, I can figure out that’s a pretty high mark on some imaginary scale of 1000.

But since I prefer to enjoy sex as a meditation as much as my monkey-mind will allow, I usually just watch the scientific process go by. Did I mention that, like my dad, I have a degree in organic chemistry? Maybe that’s where the involuntary measurement program came from. 

I’m not complaining. I just wanted to give you a little perspective on my personal version of the 10-point arousal scale…

0 = rest state with no arousal

1 = twinge at the base of my penis

2 = occasional little tingles of pleasurable sensations

3 = starting to warm up and feel good

4 = steady hum low-level of arousal

5 = occasional scattered surges of pleasure that feel really good

6 = my skin gets hot and tingly with goose bumps and a heat flush rising

7 = steady surges of buzzing sexual electricity stream up and down my penis

8 = the streams coalesce into energy blossoms which detonate like fireworks inside

9 = deep involuntary contractions that spread up to and engulf my prostate gland

9.9 = the point of no return, otherwise known as ejaculatory inevitably

10 = ejaculation

To learn ejaculation mastery, guys need to become intimately familiar with 9.9, the point of no return. You know the feeling of time stopping? It’s like the movie clip that suddenly goes into slow motion as the car uncannily careens over the cliff. Once you arrive there, what happens next is inevitable.

I know there are lots of techniques to prevent slipping over the edge too soon, many of which are in my book. Like compressing the base of the penis with your fingers, thinking about baseball, and squeezing the pelvic muscles tight.

But, as the hottie said who rejected me years ago before I learned any of this, “it’s all about the energy baby.”

Which is why my 5 through 9 on my scale reflect new definitions based on the sexual energy flowing through me. The last few weeks my “auto arousal measuring app” kept flashing those single digits at me. Since Tantric lovemaking is supposed to be a conscious process, I paid attention.

That’s when I noticed the scattered surges of sexual energy at 5 and the goose bumps and skin flush at 6. I recognized that the buzzing electrical current at 7 felt even better but didn’t push me to the edge of 9.9.

But some kind of internal warning lights started to flash at 8 alerting me that I was getting close to those involuntary contractions at 9. If I’m relaxed and conscious, that’s where I like to stay while we’re going at it. But if 9 sneaks up on me too suddenly, anything can happen.

OK, maybe I am bragging bit. I’m really proud of myself for noticing the energy blossoms at 8 that detonate those internal fireworks. Now I’ve got a reliable system that prevents me from going over the top before I’m ready.

Even if you don’t measure your turn-on like I have no choice in doing, I hope this helps. Let’s leave it here: knowing how turned-on you are at each moment is a really, really good thing.

Love, Somraj 

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How to Spread a Peak of Pleasure Into a Full-Body Orgasm

I got an irresistible offer again from my main squeeze yesterday: “If you make me come, I’ll do you for as long as you want.” Accepting was a no brainer. And she loved what she got first.

In my last post I wrote about having a Tantric Energy Orgasm just after penetration. But the hand and toy job she gave me this time produced totally different results. Isn’t that one of the supreme joys of making love – you never know exactly what to expect?

My pleasure peaks followed a third-world voting scheme: coming early and often. I’ve already written a lot about the Tantric skill of peaking  because it’s crucial to spreading erotic energy, extending love play, and fueling energy orgasms. A peak of pleasure is when your excitement shoots upward all at once. Peaking means adjusting the stimuli that give you these sudden surges of arousal so you come back down without going over the top. When graphed, peaking looks like a steep ascent and then a steep descent.

Peaking and Tantric Energy Orgasms are just two of the useful techniques illustrated and described in depth in our new ebook, Long Hot Tantric Love Making.

These quick up-and-down excitement cycles were quick and intense. But after a few I noticed that they were kind of localized. That’s what makes lovers come before they want to, namely, concentrating too much electrical sensation and orgasmic energy in their jewels (genitals).

Where I feel the electromagnetic vibrations  causing the most sensations in my body I like to describe as my “pleasure balloon.” It’s as if there’s an energy bubble inside my crotch when I first get aroused. Pumping it full of energy until it fills my entire body is what gives me full-body energy orgasms.

Though I often find myself hovering on the brink of a wet climax, that wasn’t my situation this time. No, I just wasn’t brimming over with uncontrollable turn-on. Don’t get me wrong, what she was doing to me was yummy. Just doing what she was doing to me for a while would have been satisfying all by itself.

Still I wanted more.

So I started to consciously expand my pleasure balloon using breath, sound, movement, and pelvic muscle contractions.  And as it grew after a few cycles the excitement, it naturally spread up my body.

At first it felt like streamers of sexual charge filling my central channel. We call that the “inner flute,” the energy conduit that connects the chakra centers from the base of the spine to the top of the head.

As my pleasure balloon expanded, the streamers in my inner flute felt like billiard balls of titillation shooting up from my jewels. It felt so good that I kept pumping the energy being generated in my jewels upwards.

After a few of these cycles, it happened. The streamers blossomed out of my inner flute and I started sizzling and shaking everywhere. When I feel every one of my cells coming, I know I’m having a full-body orgasm.

So I detonated one after the other until I collapsed in a hot sweet sweat. Now that’s what I call real sex.

Love, Somraj

 

I Came First, But She Liked It (X-Rated)

As a male Tantric lover, I’m trained that she comes first. Many times.

In our date yesterday though, I came first.

Not necessarily the way you’re thinking. I didn’t ejaculate, I had a Tantric Energy Orgasm.

That’s when I have all the physical delights of an orgasm — exquisite sensations, goose bumps all over, heavy breathing, jackknifing body, loud moans, heat waves, and, oh I almost forgot, mesmerizing genital contractions — all without squirting.

Sometimes they’re quickies with the same few-second duration as a wet climax. Yet, often they last for 20, 30, or 60 seconds or more. And repeat one after the other for as long as I’ve got the physical stamina.

An hour of Tantric Energy Orgasms is great fun. Though sometimes are sessions are shorter (and on a good day even longer), even a few of these peaks of pleasure are highly satisfying.

In any case, back to my main point, I came first. This was the first time making love in a few days due to a little flu. So I was ultra sensitive even before our date.
Back scratching made me squeal and squirm into an early trance-like state. I returned the favor until she asked me to massage her yoni (vagina) with vajra’s (penis) head. One of our favorite forms of foreplay even when I’m not fully erect. But this time I was way hard.

It was instantly electric for both of us. Geysers of erotic energy shot up throughout both of our bodies. And this was before even a hint of penetration.

When my vajra first entered her yoni’s mouth, the internal fireworks were even more spectacular. Fortunately, slow and gradual initial entry is an essential discipline of our coupling style. In fact, there’s a whole chapter about it in our new ebook, Long Hot Tantric Love Making.

It just took a few measured strokes halfway in to make it happen. I’m talking about my Tantric Energy Orgasm. I just started vibrating inside as the sexual energy blossomed out of my crotch and filled every corner of me.

As much as I study these things, I wish I knew exactly why I let myself come first this time. Sure, I was way horny and just a little high. But I’m so much more patient than ever before, concentrating on my honey’s ascent first.

In retrospect, it was probably my relaxing. Relaxation is the key, the primary catalyst, to harnessing, spreading, and exchanging orgasmic energy. Since I was still weak from being sick, we had this tacit agreement that she would do all the heavy lifting and I would take it easy. So as my vajra entered her warm, wet cave, I had no goal, no agenda, no role to perform. I just surrendered to how good it felt and let go.

No worries. Then I was able to pay more attention to her series of Tantric Energy Orgasms. And then more of my own. And then more of them simultaneously.

Often we’ll end a session like this with one or both of us exploding with a physically satisfying but draining climax. But it just didn’t seem important after surfing such intense orgasmic waves.

Well, gotta go. We have another date planned for more. Yummy!

Love, Somraj

Ode To My Penis

A sweet Valentine’s Day sentiment from our friend Stuart Schreiber…

On this festive day of swelling romance

I recognize somewhere deep in my pants

An organ used when loving long

Sometimes a lingam; off-times a dong…

Oh my wand I love you so

Whether standing up or hanging low

You represent what’s right in life

Made for pleasure, not for strife

This penis here I hold so dear

To let it go would seem so queer

For as in marriage, “to have and hold”

Should the dollar crash, will be my gold (hehehe)

Clearly a member of the team

A hallucination? No, more a dream

Of pleasant passion yet to come

A lover knocks who must have some

And so I pledge to all my friends

This lingam loves to set the trends

Of how to love and where and when

His Stuness’s room or in the den…

I see this song is getting lengthy

Somewhat vulgar but not dainty

I hope your day is filled with joy

Avoid Estrogen, don’t eat soy.

How We Routinely Do Strange Sex After 20 Years (X-Rated)

You might wonder how, after making love two or three thousand times, we found a new sex position. I guess it just comes with being so hot for each other after 20 years. When you routinely have the best sex of your life, that’s easy to maintain.

Warning: Explicit Sexuality

Because I couldn’t wait for our typical sensuous warm-up, we started out with some luscious pussy licking. But she was as ravenous as me and shifted around so she could suck my cock at the same time with us both on our sides. Sometimes 69 is just the perfect foreplay, don’t you think?

I don’t want to mislead you. These things aren’t strange for us. But the position we morphed into was.

I slid down until the head of my vajra (penis) could rub her wet engorged pussy lips. I’d never had this urge before. Well, I’d done it a lot of other configurations but never in this awkward position with our feet in each others’ faces.

Using a Hand Assist I masssged her yoni (vagina) with vajra’s head for many minutes, making us both moan and shake with glee. At first, penetration didn’t seem likely. But we were both craving what we call Jewel Union. I sure was. And it became clear what she wanted when she said forcefully, “Can you stick it in already?”

You know when the creator invented the intercourse arrangement of bodies, he or she figured the naturally uprising male tool would enter from below and ascend. But we were in the opposite configuration.

With some freative flexibility and pelvic rotations on both our parts, we did it! Sure, vajra had to flex way down but it was worth it. Except a couple times when I withdrew too far and he popped out. But we don’t suffer from Fallout Syndrome which makes some lovers freak a bit when their jewels disconnect. We just take it as a great opportunity for a little more pussy massage before reentry.

One ancient name for this sexual posture is the Windmill. But we call it Reverse Scissors. It was way hot but we couldn’t keep it up for long. That didn’t stop us from finding more exciting ways both new and old to have lots more fun. For example, did you ever have an insatiable urge to break from the old in-and-out and go oral? Well, we both did several times.

We changed positions much more often than usual. I guess it was the raging lust that was driving us. Maybe that’s why I got a special surprise at my back door.

In the regular Scissors Position I rotated my upper leg across her chest. I wasn’t just trying to bang her breast with my knee which she liked if I was gentle enough. I was also trying to aim vajra’s strokes into the deep erogenous zone in her yoni called the Cul-De-Sac. Thrusts there way up past her cervix produce some delightful prodding of her uterus. They’ve been known to create unusually powerful orgasms.

When she reached to put a finger in my rosetta (asshole), it a led up my turn-on tremendously. But it was a long stretch for her while our jewels (genitals) were pummeling away at each other. If you’ve read any of our books you know that physical discomfort can retard the flow of orgasmic energy. So she grabbed a long vibrating dildo and found it easier to massage my sensitive orifice. What a turn-on!

What can we learn from this spontaneous coupling? Well, follow your whims. Both ask permission and then go for what you want. Use a lot of variety and creativity in your lovemaking.

And don’t rush towards the Big O. See how much pleasure you create for each other before you explode in a blaze of glory.

Love, Somraj

The O-Zone: Enjoying Nearly An Hour of One-Minute Orgasms (X-Rated)

My vajra (penis) was having an awesome time stroking in and out of her yoni (vagina). So good that I was dancing on the verge of orgasm for minutes at a time.

That’s different than edging where you repeatedly approach the brink of coming but back down. When you dance on the verge you don’t back off much. You stay on the edge of the cliff continuously. And it feels great.

After a resounding shared peak of ecstasy, she relaxed for a moment and said “Would you like me to fuck you?” She was referring to using my favorite vibrating butt plug in my asshole. But her real meaning was “I want you to make me come now.”

“Sounds good to me,” I said, and then added “I’m gonna use James Harrison because I’m teetering on the edge of ejaculating and don’t want to come.” I was referring to her favorite extra large vibrating dildo. Her pet name for James comes from her favorite football player, #92 of the Pittsburgh Steelers.

The alter ego of the once definsive player of the year did his magic in no time. At least until my dog came to investigate and distracted her from making it last even longer. But it was a great “rolling thunder” kind of climax all the same.

Then, gladly, it was my turn to receive. I was still pretty hard even after washing the water-based lube off my vajra. I much prefer oil-based lube for the handjob that I love while getting fucked. Then it stays slippery much longer so I don’t have to break to reapply.

Then her little finger started to meander around my rosebud. Because she lubed it so well, it just slipped right in. And those sensitive tissues shuddered in delight.

You know, there was a time not too long ago when even a little finger in my butt would have been painful.  But, with lots of healing and regular practice, I cleaned out all my tight-assed resistance so now I can fully relax and enjoy anal play.

What a godsend!

I gotta admit her fingers inside me were instantly intoxicating. It only took a few thrusts for me to reach a pleasure peak which started me shaking and moaning. A few of those waves were all I needed to start vibrating all over.

Then (slowly) she put the Lust in. That’s the name of my favorite toy, a curved vibrating butt plug made by Lelo. When its bulgy end passes my sphincters, it sure feels big. But after it slides all the way in, it’s the greatest thing ever to hit my prostate.

 As she ramped up fucking me with my Lust, I started peaking higher and higher. It’s like I was being blown from wavetop to wave top of excitement.

That’s what launched my plateauing phase. When your excitement at the top of the peak doesn’t subside, you’re plateauing. The high level of turn-on stays high for 10, 20, 30 seconds or more.

When you relax enough, the orgasmic energy starts streaming all over throughout every part of your body. Then it’s not only your jewels (genitals) filling with blood and spasming, it’s happening everywhere. My body undulates, my pelvic muscles are contracting and releasing, and I’m bellowing at the top of my lungs. Which I couldn’t do without the incredibly deep breathing I’m pushing to the limit.

If this sounds like an orgasm, I agree. But it’s triggered by the flood of orgasmic energy rather than stimulating your body’s erogenious zones.  Well, to be honest, it’s not one or the other. A monumental physical climax releases waves of energy. And intense waves of energy trigger pelvic contractions.

So it’s like a coming continuously. Which is why we call it the Orgasm Zone, or O-Zone, for short.

These plateaus sure feel awesome like every cell is coming. But it can also be quite draining. Breath, muscles, and nerves are all working overtime on top of each plateau of ecstasy. Maybe when I was younger and fitter I could have maintained that sexual high for longer. Now it seems that 30 seconds to a minute on the plateau is all I can handle physically. Even when my libido is still boiling, sometimes my body needs a rest. So I take a few seconds coming down, relax with a few deep breaths, and start that yummy climb again.

After a few 60 to 90 second phenomenal energy orgasms with breaks in between, I settled into a one-minute orgasmic cycle that went on and on. I was so turned-on that all it took was five to ten seconds of stroking to detonate each new energy orgasm.  I’d writhe and shake and bellow for 30 seconds before letting go. Then I’d relax and slide down the backend of the plateau of pleasure for a few seconds. With the little pause before I had to have more, each cycle lasted about a minute.

I think I rode this particular wave of bliss for maybe 15 minutes. I can’t remember spending that long in the O-Zone before.

From the outside, energy orgasms are nearly indistinguishable from physical ones. Everything happens to your voice and metabolism and sensations except for the pubic spasms that cause guys to ejaculate. These crescendos feel awesome and it’s so much easier for me to recharge in a few seconds. Then I can enjoy ten or twenty of them in a row. I can’t do that without waiting hours or days after I ejaculate.

Does it make sense that I’m pretty much a dedicated dyed-in-the-wool full-0n O-Zone junkie? Once you learn how to keep your whole body at such a high crescendo of ecstasy for so long, you might be, too.

Even as I cycled up and down from peak arousal, it seemed my sex drive continued to rise. The few-second breaks allowed by libido to refuel my body’s energy tanks. Maybe that’s why I was able to keep plateauing for nearly 40 minutes non-stop. Well except for sliding up and down those delicious waves of intoxicating sensation.

I think I’m going back for more today.

Love, Somraj

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A New Kind of Blended Simultaneous Orgasm (X-Rated)

We had so much fun playing in the crack a few days ago that when we started rolling around on the bed naked last night, we wanted to try it again. (You can read my earlier post titled Sliding Up and Down That Alluring Crack by clicking here.)

Again, it was really hot. But I have to admit to some ignorance about what my vajra’s head (Tantric for penis) was really doing at each moment. The photographer of the picture at the left certainly could tell much easier than me. Of course, my bulging crown was massaging from her perineum (between her backdoor and yoni, her vulva), across her vestibule (the soft sensitive area between her inner lips), over yoni’s mouth, and across her clio (clitoris). 

But it’s really hard to see what my vajra is rubbing when my pelvis is pressed up against her butt like in the image at the right.

Fortunately, we’re not shy about asking and reporting what’s going on while we’re making love. Once when she thought vajra’s head was aiming for her backdoor, she murmured “not now.” And another time when I pushed as far down as I could she couldn’t help sighing “Oh, clio loves that.”

When we’re dillying and dallying without an agenda, I suppose it doesn’t matter much as long as it feels good. But when she started pushing back each time vajra’s head passed across what I rightly guessed was yoni’s opening, aiming became more important. Fortunately, my unshy passionate lover simply reached under her pelvis and used my tool to penetrate herself.

I couldn’t miss that she really wanted it. Well, so did I.

We had so much fun undulating and peaking against each other like these ancient Tantric lovers at the left. And reaching higher plateaus with delicious convulsions. We call that involuntary jerking and shaking “streaming” because it’s caused by tidal waves of sexual energy flooding our bodies. Also it helps spread the excitement from my crotch all over my body so I don’t come too soon.

Since it was dinnertime and the dogs needed their evening walk, we didn’t go for a longie of an hour or more. I could tell that she wanted to explode in orgasm before she finished. As I explained in my Female Orgasm, What’s A Trained Man Got To Do With It? post, at some level it’s up to her to decide when she wants to go for it. So she got clio’s favorite little vibrator and guided me to stroke at the depth, angle, and speed that was most titillating.

I’m usually pretty good at timing when I climax. But her yoni muscles are so strong that her orgasmic contractions are too much for me sometimes. I had ejaculated a few days before so even though I was super sensitive I wasn’t ready for a wet orgasm so soon. At my age even once a week can sap my sexual stamina and affect my hardness when we’re craving a longie. So I flowed with her gyrations and rising turn-on while avoiding squirting prematurely.

She really doesn’t like it if I stop or pull out when she’s coming. I can dig it. Nobody wants their rising tidal wave of ecstasy to be short-circuited.

So as she started to climax, I continued the stroking scheme that helped her over the top. I had to use everything I learned that’s in my first ebook, Ultimate Premature Ejaculation Mastery. Though there are lots of physical techniques that help a man bypass premature ejaculation, the real power lies in channeling sexual energy away from vajra’s most sensitive erogenous zones. If you do enough of that, your whole body fills with intense orgasmic excitement. Which is what triggers full-body orgasms.

That’s what happened to me. While she was coming I had a full-body Tantric energy orgasm without squirting. I was shrieking right along with her as our bodies shook, shuddered, and jackknifed together.

Funny, but I unconsciously assumed that simultaneous orgasm was when both partners had the same kind of orgasm. There’s a whole spectrum of them, you know. But that was a silly assumption.

She had a physical explosive one and I had an energetic one at the same time. And we both loved it.

Love, Somraj

Sliding Up and Down That Alluring Crack (X-Rated)

Don’t you agree that there’s something about a woman’s crack that is just so irresistible?

It’s my honey’s birthday month which means we celebrate a lot. Like an impromptu date after an afternoon dog walk in the rain screwing up our eminently skiable snow.

After some luscious slow caresses that got both our motors running, she scratched my back sensuously and I did hers. I don’t easily get hard there days from any old thing like I did when I was younger (from 15 to 55). But I was now.

Mostly due to the view of her tempting crack beteeen her shapely cheeks.

In Tantric Love Making we don’t always follow the same rote agenda so I let my whimsy lead. I just had this urge to slide my hard shaft up and down that alluring rear cleavage.

I’ve probably done something like this a couple times before. But after making love a few thousand times in our 20 years together, who’s counting? But don’t automatically assume this was a not-so-subtle plea for anal sex.

It was just my pulsing urge to caress her warm wet, tender crack with my bulging cockhead. No other agenda. Just gently insinuate my manhood between her inner thighs, across her perineum (between her two orifices), between her lips, and across her clio (clitoris).

With a little lube to grease the skids, I slowly probed further and further. No rush, no hurry, no goal. Just enjoying the sweet sensations of the slow journey.

Now in Tantra we do most everything with mutual consent. So I didn’t assume this would go on for long or lead to anything more. It was her squeals of delight and heavy breathing that gave me the go-ahead to carry on for maybe ten or fifteen minutes

We call this a yoni massage. That’s our word for vulva and vagina. Just not with a hand in this case.

I wasn’t particularly surprised when she got more and more turned on and wetter and wetter. But whe she started pushing back, I knew we were heading deeper.

Each time my slippery purple head crossed yoni’s mouth, she thrust towards me. Though her burning desire for penetration was clear, at first I didn’t change anything. She was taking the lead so I followed.

OK, maybe I involuntary slowed my crossing strokes a bit to facilitate entry. And magically it started to happen. It seemed like her yoni’s lips spread, reached out, sucked me in, and engulfed me.

Again, it was her thing so I didn’t succumb to my deep seated guy urge to go wild all at once. You know, as fast and hard as I could. Instead I followed her rhythm and let her pelvic rocking dictate how deep my hardon penetrated.

The Kama Sutra probably has some poetic name for this sexual position like Humping Turtles or Sliding Porpoises. Or maybe the Beast With One Back. But I just call it the Rear Surrounding Position with my legs outisde of hers and my pelvis squishing her butt. Delightful.

What’s great about this position is that it hits her G-Spot directly on every in-stroke. And prods a couple other inner erogenious zones. (You can see how to hit them all in our new ebook Long Hot Tantric Love Making.)

Of course it’s so tight that I had to be extra vigilant that I didn’t come too soon. It was easily that stimulating for me. But fortunately she wasn’t in a hurry either. So we leisurely undulated for many minutes until our bodies needed a change.

We moved on to other fun things. But this is what I wanted to share with you now.

Let your whims loose. Enjoy every sensation. Follow each other’s energy. It may well lead to a kind of luscious coupling you never could have anticipated.

Until the play by play from our next date.

Love, Somraj

Female Orgasm, What’s A Trained Man Got To Do With It?

We just got back from a weekend sex party with two of our best friends.

As much as we all love heartfelt spiritual sex, it became clear that even multiply orgasmic women have limits. It takes a lot of sexual energy to maintain a high level of passion over the course of multiple rounds of lovemaking for two days.

Men who have ejaculatory orgasms are even more limited. You drain more than your family jewels when you come too early in what I guess some might call an orgy. We call it a sacred family journey.

To have this much fun for so long we do the Tantric thing of focusing on higher and higher levels of pleasure without pushing for orgasm. We all experienced many of the 12 types of orgasms you can read about and learn to practice in our new ebook Long Hot Tantric Love Making.

But most of them were Tantric energy orgasms. These are crescendos of sensation that make us shiver, shake, and scream without the depleting play-ending explosions.

Women who enjoy these marathons more easily shift their perspective from instant gratification to extended ecstasy. More easily than the average male lover. Females we know who enjoy these kinds of lengthy sessions depend on what they call a “trained man.

That’s a male lover who is the master of his own orgasms as well as a devoted servant of their partner’s pathways to climax. Certainly trained men learn to overcome premature ejaculation. But more importantly, that advanced degree denotes that the man can tune into what his partner wants and needs at each moment.

Though I’m blessed to be a trained man, I’m more grateful to my beloved and other Tantric women who’ve educated me and guided me to help them reach such intense heights of turn-on for so long.

Towards the end of our party I noticed that we were all hovering on the edge of big explosions again and again. That started me ruminating about who was really in charge of my partner’s orgasms. Was it something I needed to do or something they did consciously? During a break I was inspired to ask “It’s not really up to me if you come, is it?”

After some chatting and reflection each woman gave a resounding “Yes, that’s right, I was near the edge over and over all night. But I had to decide when I was ready and then make myself leap off the cliff myself.”

Undoubtedly female orgasms are many times more complex than male ones. There are so many things that have to work right for her and so many things he needs to do. Otherwise he can really screw up her chances of coming big time.

That’s why most women need a trained man to assist them in exploding in a blaze of glory when making love with a partner.

To learn about all the factors, we’ve written a special report entitled “How Women Can Orgasm More Easily.” You can get it for FREE here when you register for our monthly Sacred Sexual Secrets newsletter.

 

 

Love, Somraj