Tantric Sex Life

How To Use Sacred Sexuality For Ecstatic Pleasure, Tantric Orgasm, & Personal Transformation

by Somraj Pokras & Dhyan Jeffre TallTrees, Ph.D.
Deeper into the heart of sex

"Tantra is a cult of ecstasy, a personal religion based on the mystical experience of joy rather than established dogma. Sex is holy to a Tantric. It is worship; it is energizing and life-giving. Tantric art, writings, and religious rituals glorify sex. Tantrics are anti-ascetic; they affirm life. They teach the discovery of the divine through the exaltation of the total human. They use all of the senses, the mind and the spirit to reach mystic peaks." --- Kamala Devi The Eastern Way Of Love

Section 1: What Is Tantra?

Tantra is an ancient Eastern spiritual system of sacred sexuality. Being a spiritual art and practice, Tantra is primarily a way of life leading to deeper meaning and enlightenment. Tantra accepts all natural forces just the way they are. It guides you to harness the raw power of love and sex to fuel higher consciousness and promote transformation.

The word Tantra comes from the roots "expand, extend, and weave." Tantrikas extend their awareness, heighten their sensitivity, expand their consciousness, and weave all the energies of life together to affirm joyous living. It's not a religion based on faith, dogma, or right living. Since it's not really a philosophy either, it has no rules, qualifications, or requirements. There's no code of behavior, no punishment for sin, and no pot of gold waiting for you in the afterlife at the end of the rainbow.

Tantra is just a natural approach to experiencing each moment. It says "Yes!" to everything you experience. To be Tantric all you have to do is accept yourself as a divine reflection, practice self- love, and show gratitude for all you receive. Tantrikas welcome all aspects of life, whether they're frowned upon by society or not. Adepts exult in living each moment completely, and practice pleasure as a high-priority discipline.

Tantrikas celebrate sexuality above all else. The Tantric path employs sensuality and erotic play to expand consciousness through the transformative power of orgasmic energy. Tantrikas deliberately induce altered states of ecstasy to create a mystical experience of transcendent oneness with the universe. We figure, why not enjoy ourselves while we're evolving?

Section 2: The Ancient 64 Arts

Tantra grew up thousands of years ago in India, China, and Tibet as a grass-roots rebellion against the repressive religions of the day. Back then, to even reach for enlightenment required lifetimes of denying desire and doing penance for past-life karma.

Tantra opened the doors of spiritual evolution to everyone. Tantric adepts needed to master 64 wide-ranging arts and sciences including music, flower arranging, martial arts, dance, mathematics, massage, business, healing, astrology, fine arts, alchemy, and warfare. The art of love was foremost among them.

The earliest Tantras - secret writings - exalted the cult of the god Shiva, one of the primary Hindu deities, and his consort, the goddess Shakti. Hindus believed that Shakti created the universe by uniting spiritually and sexually with Shiva. This erotic love creation-myth certainly builds different core values than the Adam and Eve story that most of us learned as kids.

This is just one example of Tantra's pragmatic non-dogmatic approach to living. We borrow myths, principles, and rituals from other disciplines that help our inner beings grow. But we don't use them to judge, grade, or police our behavior.

Today, Tantrikas revere Shiva as the pure embodiment of the masculine force culminating in cosmic consciousness, and Shakti as the feminine principle embodying pure creative energy. This isn't worship of supreme beings as in other religions. Rather, it's our way of honoring the forces of nature that exist within all of us. We simply use Shiva and Shakti as convenient symbols to focus the growth of our own divine qualities.

In short, Tantrikas honor our inner male or female regardless of our biological gender.

Section 3: Wake Up And Smell The Roses

Tantra is about living life to its fullest.

The heart and soul of Tantra is raising consciousness. Tantra teaches us to be more and more aware of our connection with all things. So many people are swept through life looking at pictures in the mind instead of living moment to moment. They spend their consciousness by dwelling on the past, plotting the future, and comparing the current state of affairs to a set of pre-recorded subconscious tapes.

To counteract this programming, Tantra teaches us to pay more attention and focus our minds on the present. Tantra teaches us to be supremely conscious of everything that happens while we watch and enjoy. Tantra teaches us to exist in this moment, become totally absorbed in the "now," and open our windows to the world fully. We do this by heightening our five senses - sight, smell, taste, touch, and hearing. We become dedicated to enjoying the physical fully by reveling in eating, drinking, massaging, dancing, and making love.

But even more, we're talking about knowing ourselves and the world around us as more than just material shells. In Tantra, complete honesty and authenticity about our truth is essential for spiritual growth. We learn to observe ourselves, accept the wisdom of our heart, and shine bright light on our inner knowing. This kind of spiritual evolution can only lead each of us to a clearer idea of our deeper selves - who we really are.

If we get to know ourselves better, will the truth really set us free? What will we find underneath all those layers of old baggage hiding the real inner self?

Section 4: Loving Your Natural Self

Tantra believes that our essential make-up is love and that our true nature is blissful. Inside each of us is a spontaneous, joyous, playful, childlike spirit who wants to be free to savor everything and love everyone. In addition to being artistic, creative, and powerful, Tantrikas practice the revelation that humans are fundamentally sexual beings. We honor sex as a celebration of life and a desire to merge our souls with each other.

Why don't most of us behave that way if that's our basic nature?

Modern Western upbringing doesn't teach us these basic values of self-love and enjoyment of life. Instead, we're made unnatural by social conditioning and by moral codes that don't serve our inner make-up. All these do's and don'ts produce inner struggles against our basic desires.

What can we do about our upbringing? Tantra answers: be conscious of who we are and what we want. Recognize which desires spring from our inner beings and which have been impressed on us. Don't resist healthy impulses which would inhibit our vital spirit from emerging if we avoided them. Shed the social conventions that bring us down and release the brainwashing that doesn't serve us. If we follow an impulse that's not part of our essential nature, we learn from these experiments to drop it. If we find great satisfaction in what we pursue, we can only conclude that we've discovered more of our personal truth.

Western society artificially separates our inner masculine and feminine qualities by discouraging their development. Men are taught, for example, to hide their femininity. Tantra encourages each gender to cultivate the latent energies of the other. If men seek their intrinsic truths on the Tantric path, they'll invariably discover their soft, receptive, sensitive, and vulnerable side, without losing their masculinity.

Women will discover their strong leadership, dynamic initiative, and teaching powers while retaining their femininity. These new qualities add to the strengths consistent with our outer gender which we've already learned to exercise.

Instead of creating a picture of how we're supposed to be, we operate on the principle that the way out is the way through. We fully confront the joys and stresses that come our way. Above all else, we relax and go with the flow, allowing our innate forces to run their course. We watch and learn and discover that the truth will set us free.

Section 5: Just Accept It, Baby

Tantra says YES! to life. It accepts everything and forbids nothing.

You won't find moral judgments here about right and wrong or good and bad. It's outlook is one of wholeness, embracing opposites as aspects of the same thing. We recognize that judgments like good bad are based on artificial yardsticks held fast in our minds. To cast off this programming, we learn to live in harmony with whatever life serves up, whether on a silver platter or bed of thorns. That's partly why Tantrikas major in surrender - just letting things happen of their own accord without resistance. We've given up the intoxicating illusion that we can control the outside world.

Tantra says if we suppress natural inner forces, they won't disappear, they'll just fester or insinuate their way to the surface in an unhealthy manner. Tantra teaches us to embrace all parts of ourselves and everything that befalls us. If we don't buy other's moral codes that conflict us, what's there to hide? If there's no good and bad, why not just drop guilt? If there's no right or wrong, why not release all shame? If everything in life is divine, what's there to fear? If God is love, why can't we experience heaven on earth?

We don't fight, resist, or reject things. That kind of personal suppression can only result in mental warfare which produces internal stress. We release all stress as a useless struggle with no winners, only losers. We let go of the futile attempt to stop things that are happening from happening. Maybe that's what John Lennon was singing about in "Let It Be."

As a result, we have to learn to accept constant change. What we discover that's right for us now may not be the next moment. And vice versa. What's right for others - no matter how much we envy them - may be wrong for us. And vice versa You see why Tantra doesn't establish dogma, rules, or behavioral codes? How could we follow prescribed patterns if we're responding to life genuinely in every unique moment? All we can do is risk, explore, observe, listen, and notice, choosing what brings us joy and growth and leaving the rest behind.

This whole approach to life suggests we should just give up goal orientation, enter each experience without expectations, and just live fully in each moment. But to love life and others requires that we accept one fundamental truth - even with all our judgments about our shortcomings, we're perfect the way we are. We're never going to arrive at some imagined state of perfection. Our journey is just exactly the way it needs to be.

Section 6: The Body Temple

The key to joyous living is first loving ourselves.

This begins with an exceedingly difficult assignment, accepting our bodies the way they are now. Here's another great example of Tantra's novel approach to life. The media and mass consciousness, having created the vision of the perfect form, encourages us to fill ourselves full of negative judgments about our anatomy.

Tantrikas choose not to fall for these false standards, instead cherishing our bodies as the temples of our souls.

In contrast to other religions that view the pleasures of the flesh as degraded or evil, Tantra recognizes that our physical forms are a divine gift. These shells house our spirit and let our inner beings experience the sights, sounds, and smells of the physical world. Regardless of their size, shape, or color, our bodies deserve our unconditional love and affection just for letting us delight in all these delicious sensations. Further, they help us think, communicate, move, and act. Face it, sex wouldn't be much fun at all without a body.

Life would be much duller if we were all disembodied spirits, don't you think?

So Tantrikas honor their bodies. That includes looking after them, feeding them properly, and exercising them. We believe one path to God is by loving these physical gifts and cherishing all they experience. Which is why pleasure is such a central driving force in Tantric practice.

Section 7: Pleasure First

Tantrikas believe in enjoying life to the fullest. Deferred gratification isn't part of the mindset. Be good, earn your ticket to heaven, and you'll be rewarded in the next life just doesn't fit in.

Tantra is the true art of living where pleasure now becomes the central theme in each moment. Which is why for most of us, embracing the Tantric path requires a shift in priorities. We have to put pleasure first and make space in our busy lives to appreciate, enjoy, and be happy.

This isn't as easy as it sounds. It requires more than just reserving playtime in our stuffed calendars. We've got to learn to cultivate ecstasy, to surrender to sensation, and to pursue pleasure with gusto. Just when we start feeling good, many of us are conditioned to feel we're being selfish, having too much fun, or don't deserve it. We've got to unlearn the guilt and resistance that's bred into us. Our bodies need to learn that pleasure is their birthright.

We start by recognizing that we're each totally responsible for our own pleasure. It's not up to our mate, our boss, or the weather. We begin to cultivate feeling good by opening our senses fully and flooding them with stimuli. We continue by savoring the feelings they bring. We employ the bedrock of Tantra, practicing pleasure. Yes, we teach ourselves to increase our capacity to enjoy, accept more and more sensation, and value it more through Tantric practice. That's why our teacher, Margot Anand, is so fond of saying "pleasure is a discipline."

Now can you see where sex fits into the Tantric scheme of things as the biggest teacher and fuel for transformation?

Section 8: The Art And Science Of Sex

In Tantra, sex is an art and a science. We explore it fully and comprehensively, immersing ourselves fully just like we do with every other part of life. Of course, this is a major challenge with arguably the most repressed aspect of modern life.

Learning the full appreciation of sex teaches us to delight in our bodies and welcome pleasure. Engaging in uninhibited sex requires growth from all of us who've grown up in the modern world. We carry more moralizing, shame, guilt, and anxiety into the bedroom than anywhere else in our lives. If we learn to fully embrace sexual pleasure, we embody the ideals of a Tantric life. If you can become fully natural and spontaneous with sexual play, then you can probably do it with any of life's forces. That's why eroticism played such a fundamental role in ancient Tantra's 64 Arts.

Through conscious practice, Tantrikas become better lovers.

Our experience deepens and opens new levels of intimate communion. We heal our wounds, lose our inhibitions, and release our inner blocks by seeking higher and higher states of ecstasy. Our erections become stronger, we make love longer, and we experience bigger and better orgasms.

Tantra wasn't designed as therapy for our sexual hang-ups and limitations, it's just sometimes turns out that way. When we relax, exercise our erogenous zones, and enjoy our bodies, we often run into old baggage that blocks our excitement. We discover that old pains, wounds, and trauma are stored in our tissues. Instead of focusing on problems, Tantric practice heals purely through the committed pursuit of pleasure. By opening our energy channels, we work through any resistance that surfaces. We're left cleansed, relaxed, and free.

Though Tantrikas become highly skilled lovers, Tantra is not directly about sexual techniques. It's more meditation than athletics. We follow no set pattern without expectations or measurable goals. It's about S.E.X., which means Subtle Energy eXchange. Ultimately, S.E.X. is any touching, moving, or meditating together that connects lovers' inner vibrations. We operate on a different plane than just the genital friction of intercourse.

Section 9: Communication As A Spiritual Tool

Tantric Sex uses the same body parts and physical actions, but unfolds much differently than the average quickie hurtling downhill to explosive release. It's slow, spontaneous, and conscious. It's open, intimate, and mutual. It more closely resembles a team sport like football or basketball than individual performances like gymnastics or sprint swimming.

Tantric lovers know that they're each responsible for their own pleasure. They recognize that erotic experiences begin within. They know what they like, what they want in the moment, and what they'd prefer to leave out of each encounter. They ask for what they want, voice their reactions, and give lots of feedback. And they do it in a way that enhances intimacy and contributes to the sensual mood.

There's no set pattern to Tantric LovePlay. It's all about feeling pleasure, nothing more and nothing less. Since we have no goal of giving or receiving orgasm, Tantrikas enter into sacred sex without expectations. Performance anxiety - am I doing it right? - disappears along with any mystery about what's happening with our partners. It's more like synchronized swimming with telepathic communication.

Obviously, this kind of authentic interplay requires knowing, accepting, and loving yourself fully first. Then you can be scrupulously honest, totally real, and transparent with your innermost desires. Which leads to knowing, accepting, and loving your beloved.

Too many of us judge our partners according to some hidden inner picture of the perfect lover.

When a man isn't aware of his inner female, he tends to unconsciously project standards and requirements on to his partner. And the reverse is true for women. When we each intimately know our internal opposite gender, our inner male and female can accept, honor, and love each other. Only then can we fully embrace our outer beloved unconditionally.

Section 10: Energy Is Life Force

Tantric Sex is about mastering energy, the vitality of life. Everything in the physical universe is in motion due to energy flowing. The cells in our bodies, the blood in our veins, the electrical impulses in our nerves all continuously vibrate inside.

Energy is the physical oscillations that our bodies feel all the time. If not for feeling energy moving, how would we become aware of being turned on, angry, nervous, or in love? We feel energetic sensations in our body: the heat that spreads in waves, the arousal that raises goose bumps, the tingles and tickles that titillate.

The energy Tantrikas work with is the nervous stimulation and physical excitation that causes these feelings. The strongest energy that most people experience is just before an orgasm. So we often target "orgasmic energy" in our exercises and rituals. But it's all the same electrical and magnetic life force in our bodies.

Tantra teaches heightened awareness of these subtler, finer frequencies. Most people don't notice them because their senses haven't been tuned adequately. Because energy flows where attention goes, we learn that our consciousness becomes our most powerful energy focusing tool. We learn to harness these subtle vibrations - guiding the flows, channeling the energy - which ultimately become powerful tidal waves of ecstasy.

In China it's called chi, in India it's called prana, in Japan it's called ki, Yogis call it Kundalini, but it's all energy. We're talking about the same life force that pervades bodies, minds, and souls. Tantra teaches that energy is generated and stored in each of our seven chakras.

Chakras are centers or vortices inside the body from the bottom of the spine to the top of the head where subtle energy is generated, collected, stored, and swirled. At each center, it takes on different qualities. When we talk about orgasmic energy, we're referring to vibrations of the sex chakra. At the heart, it's the warm embrace of love. In the brain, it fuels higher consciousness. At the crown, it connects us to the spiritual plane.

Which raises the question of why Tantrikas refer to sex as sacred.

Section 11: Sacred Sex

Though it's only one of aspect, Tantra is often referred to as sacred sexuality.

Tantrikas make love on multiple levels: sex, heart, and spirit. That's how we connect lust, love, and the divine. We can call that kind of sex spiritual, we can call it intimate communion, or we can call it meditation. Merging energies brings us closer to our intrinsic holistic nature.

The moment of orgasm is the closest most people come to communion with their inner being and God/Goddess.

Tantra teaches that this experience is a brief glimpse into our true divine nature: ecstatic in the body, compassionate in the heart, empty in the mind, blissful in the spirit. To get a taste of this exalted condition, just imagine the powerful experience of prolonged and multiple orgasms. We believe enlightened beings like Buddha or Jesus lived in this state of continuous orgasm with the entire universe without sexual arousal.

That's why Tantric ritual often includes honoring each other as reflections of the divine. We choose to look through the outer shell and see into ourselves and our beloved as a God or Goddess. Sex is sacred because we treat it as a divine gift. We approach loveplay as if entering a holy temple. We enter into Tantric ritual as a path to liberation of body, mind, and spirit.

Section 12: Ecstasy Is Tantric Orgasm

We all build up sexual tension in our bodies. Consequently, untrained lovers too often treat sex as a way to relieve this pressure and blow off steam. This kind of mini-explosion releases energy quickly in a few-second flash of pleasure. There's nothing wrong with a quickie now and then. But, explosive orgasm, more so for men when accompanied by ejaculation, often drains lovers of their vital essence.

A typical non-Tantric orgasm is more like a little sneeze than fireworks moving heaven and earth.

Through Tantric practice orgasm becomes a much different experience. It becomes a sacred energy event, separate from energy release and physical ejaculation. Instead of throwing it away in a quick burst, Tantra teaches us to utilize sexual energy as the raw material to create ecstasy and higher consciousness.

Tantrikas cultivate the ecstatic response, which you might call the inner nervous system orgasm. By conserving and channeling orgasmic energy within, Tantrikas experience long-lasting implosive orgasms. Instead of discharging, the energy implodes, flooding the entire body with pulsing orgasmic contractions and continuous wavelike vibrations. We shake all over, engulfed in surge after surge of pure liquid fire.

Because sexual energy is conserved instead of expended, these streams of ecstasy can go on and on and higher and higher. In fact, many Tantric adepts can generate and flow this energy separate from sexual stimulation.

In these glimpses of a higher dimension, we enter a timeless void and seem to become one with the universe. We feel our bodies, minds, and spirits merging with our beloved. We enter an altered state of awareness. In this rapture, it seems as if our physical limitations disappear and we float with all boundaries dissolved. Suddenly we're open to flowing pure positive energy from our innate blissful source. We become a conduit for communion between earth and sky, the physical and the spiritual.

Achieving this state is the focus of Tantric practice. We learn to find true ecstasy within by relaxing into high states of arousal. We channel the life force that sexuality generates and expand the energy up our inner flutes, the subtle pathway that connects our chakras. We weave the essence of all our centers - body, mind, spirit - into holistic union with all that is. This is true bliss, being at one with the universe.

Section 13: Sex As Meditation

Maybe that's why Tantrikas describe sex as meditation.

Meditation is simply sitting and emptying the mind. Since you can't force thoughts away, this is more challenging than it sounds. Over the millennia, gurus have developed many meditation techniques from reciting mantras to watching the breath to witnessing ideas floating by. They all seek to create a deep inner peace filled with stillness. We call this presence a "no mind" condition.

Tantrikas who cultivate the continuous state of inner orgasm find themselves drawn to this meditative state naturally.

To encourage the no-mind condition, Tantric loveplay begins with ritual to prepare the mind and body for complete relaxation. We enter Tantric practice without goals or expectations, surrendering to whatever unfolds. All of this creates the non-resistant mood in which we can consciously summon energy to flow through us.

We might say the Tantric motto is: empty the mind and let sex become a timeless blissful meditation.

Section 14: The Fast Track To Enlightenment

In its essence, Tantra is a path of transformation.

We transform ourselves, our sexuality, our life, our relationship. We learn to come from a place of love instead of fear, from gratitude instead of resistance from surrender instead of control. By becoming more natural, we grow towards true spiritual liberation.

Modern society conditions us to live in our minds. We've lost the ability to simply "be." We need to relearn how to be an empty vessel that lets pleasure in. We need a way that reminds us that our very nature is blissful.

Many call Tantra the fast track to enlightenment because we go with the flow, welcoming whatever erupts within us, good and bad. Instead of stuffing emerging forces, we work with what's alive and percolating now. Since many of us have repressed these powerful natural urges, sexuality becomes an accelerated doorway to transcendence. Goddess knows, most of us are brimming with so much sexual energy that we have an almost unlimited fuel for transformation. Using this powerful life force as a catalyst, we extend, expand, and weave all our energies into a unified whole.

Following the Tantric path opens a whole new dimension of life.

We learn more of our underlying identity and get in close touch with our personal truth. By confronting whatever inside blocks we run into, we release old baggage, open without reservation, and free the flow of pure positive energy. By practicing pleasure as a discipline, we train ourselves to live the way God intended, in ecstatic harmony with the universe.

Relationships undergo some of the most dramatic changes through Tantric practice. By rekindling the flame of desire, sexual play becomes intoxicating again. By raising consciousness and sharing more, intimacy deepens. By growing individually, partners understand each other better and grow closer in love.

Section 15: So What Is Tantric Practice?

Maybe it's clearer now why we say Tantra isn't a set of beliefs or philosophies. It's a path of experience. Without any standard of how we should behave or think, Tantra lets our underlying selves unfold.

Practice is the heart and soul of Tantra. Tantric practices are exercises and rituals that open energy pathways, heighten sensitivity, and raise awareness. They employ everyday actions like moving, breathing, concentrating, and touching, but with more conscious focus. They're like routines you learn at the gym. Once you master the basic pattern, more and more repetitions develop your intrinsic talent.

To begin with, structured routines are helpful because old mind and body patterns often interfere with your spontaneous evolution. Past experiences, traumas, and fixed ideas of right and wrong create physical blocks in your tissues which produce resistance to progress. Disciplined patterns are useful at the outset as a defined path to work through mental, emotional, and physical barriers. But structured Tantric practices are only a temporary tool to get you moving on the right track. The ultimate Tantric technique is spontaneity.

To go further and deeper into yourself, reading, studying, and talking won't take you very far. You've got to engage in routine Tantric practice. Which means you need to make space in your life for Tantra. If done regularly, dynamic meditations can help open your energy channels. (We can recommend several with inspiring music on CD.) The services of Tantra At Tahoe can get you started. Our private Tantric workshops are personalized training sessions that can rapidly jump-start you on the road to transformation.

Once we learn the fundamentals, sex becomes meditation and Tantric lovemaking becomes transformative. When spiritual work becomes pleasurable play, there's no turning back. Then why would we want to? Since we're enjoying tremendously, there's little doubt that we'll continue our "work" and evolve quickly.

We hope you enjoy the journey as much as we do.

Section 16: Tantric LovePlay

Don't get us wrong, all kinds of sex are great. Remember, we define S.E.X. as Subtle Energy eXchange. In the enlightened view, any consenting sex is good sex. That could simply be sensuous massage or sharing mental fantasies. So when I extol the celestial virtues of Tantric LovePlay, don't think that I mean to judge other kinds of play negatively. It's another option that opens to the Tantric adept, albeit a fantastic one.

Tantric LovePlay is more like sensuously sipping an expensive Cabernet than chugging a six-pack of brew. It more resembles sampling the delicacies at a gourmet buffet than inhaling a pepperoni pizza during Monday Night Football. It's certainly more like a twilight stroll through a perfumed garden during Spring with your beloved on your arm than running a hundred- yard dash.

Tantric LovePlay is leisurely, savoring every delicious morsel of pleasure, instead of rushing headlong towards maximum turn-on now. Tantric lovers move so slowly, stopping frequently to settle deeply into the rising tide of pleasure, stretching the experience out as long as possible. Releasing tension and giving in to the urge to cum gets replaced with continuous streaming vibrations of ecstatic energy. When we enter the altered state of consciousness that comes with repeated implosive orgasms, we simply want to float upon a cloud of bliss together.

Let's compare Normal Sex with Tantric LovePlay in detail...

• Normal Sex is a purely physical event with the goal of releasing tension and semen. Tantric LovePlay is a spiritual meditation focused on continuing pleasure.

• Normal Sex rushes headlong towards an explosive orgasm. Tantric LovePlay generates multiple continuous full-body implosive orgasms which sometimes culminate in an earth- shattering simultaneous explosion.

• Normal Sex targets the genitals, building and releasing energy quickly in one explosive peak. Tantric LovePlay awakens the whole body slowly, moving energy up the chakras to reach higher and higher plateaus and energize the spiritual centers.

• Normal Sex begins with goals and expectations, often creating frustration and performance anxiety. Tantric LovePlay is spontaneous, without pattern, responding to the whims of the moment.

• Normal Sex is often quiet with fast, shallow breathing. Tantric LovePlay is verbal, noisy, and stimulated by slow deep belly breathing.

• Normal Sex is tense, often closed and private, and requires fast pumping to avoid losing the mood or the erection. Tantric LovePlay is relaxed, open, varied, often starting and stopping as a result of intimate communication.

• Normal Sex depends on one lover getting the other off. Tantric LovePlay depends on each lover's skill in taking responsibility for their own pleasure.

• Normal Sex doesn't happen without a shiva lingam (an erection), the loss of which is a major calamity. Tantric LovePlay uses multiple hard and soft stimulators on many erogenous zones all of which are capable of producing orgasmic waves of energy with or without an erection.

• Normal Sex unexpectedly reaches heights of passion on occasion due to unknown factors. Tantric LovePlay can generate altered states of ecstatic consciousness almost at will.

Section 17: Orgasmic Breathing & Moving Sexual Energy

How do you reach such mind-boggling heights? Simple, by generating and channeling orgasmic energy. The biological forces of sex certainly produce lots of energy in your genitals, especially when you're young and healthy. But what happens when you age or get stressed by sickness or life pressures? Then you can't depend on hormones to turn you on and make you high. You have to master running energy.

Orgasmic Breathing is the key to running orgasmic energy. Relaxing, breathing, moving, making sounds, and focusing the mind are its essential tools. That's partly why we including breathing exercises at each stage of our in-depth practice ebooks. Like any new skill, you need to practice regularly to integrate this vital method.

That reminds us of an early session we attended at Margot's yearlong Love & Ecstasy Training. She was presenting some sexual practice in her frank and flamboyant style. As she graphically described how to channel energy, all of the assistant instructors, sitting cross-legged on either side of her, started vibrating with blissful expressions on their faces. All she had to do was focus their minds on orgasmic energy and they started streaming those great juices up and down their bodies.

At the time, this was highly frustrating to Somraj who was in the midst of weeks of practice before havinghismy first inkling of what they could turn on and off at will. But it sure served as a strong motivator of what was possible.

Where do you channel the energy you learn to generate through Orgasmic Breathing? Why, up your inner flute, my dear. You may have an overwhelming abundance of energetic juice in your first chakra, your sex center at the base of your spine. You know what happens if you let it simmer and boil. Right, it explodes! Instead, Tantric practice will teach you to move the energy up to the belly, the solar plexus, the heart, the brain, and above. Then it excites, enlivens, and enriches your whole body, mind, and spirit.

Our dear friend, Doc Steven, who never chooses explosive orgasms while having multiple inner ones? When I asked him why he never cums, he said "I just love women so much. When I'm making love, I simply move that juicy orgasmic energy up to my heart. It makes me so high engulfing me in love. I never want to ejaculate so I can go on merging with Shakti like that forever." And he really does.

Section 18: Transformative Powers

Many ancient texts proclaim the transformative power of moving orgasmic energy even higher, to the throat, brain, third eye behind the eyebrows, and the crown of the head. If you're aiming to utilize Tantra as it was originally envisioned, to raise awareness, it makes total sense to wash the brain with this concentrated life force.

More than anything, this is what generates implosive orgasms. When your whole body is vibrating with these waves, you enter the still, empty, timeless void and want to stay there indefinitely.

The tools you know well by now are what you use to create and prolong the experience. In addition to Orgasmic Breathing, use peaking, plateauing, and even interrupting ejaculation as needed keep the flow going. Give feedback, ask yes/no questions, and negotiate different positions as the urge strikes you.

Watching Jeffre and Somraj making love looks nothing like an athletic porno flick encounter. Yes, we breathe, moan, and writhe dramatically. But we're talking about the changes of rhythm more than anything. Vajra strokes a few times and then we stop, letting the spasms wash through us. We thrust a few times more and we lay still for a moment vibrating all over. We adjust our position and squeal with delight at the newfound joy. Honestly, we never know what we'll want to do or what's going to happen. It's just different each time and keeps getting better and better.

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Goddess speed your journey...

Dhyan Jeffre & Somraj