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Sacred Sexual Secrets Newsletter - February, 2002

Sacred Sexual Secrets Newsletter - February, 2002


Published by Dhyan Jeffre TallTrees and Dhyan Somraj
(c) Copyright 2002 by Tantra At Tahoe


Sacred Sexual Secrets is a free publication of Tantra
At Tahoe. This newsletter is distributed by private
email every month to special souls interested in sacred
Eastern sexuality, Tantric orgasms, Kama Sutra
lovemaking, and all aspects of sexual health. It
provides practical sex tips derived from the ancient
wisdom of Tantra and the Kama Sutra plus modern sex
research to help readers transform their love lives
into an ever-expanding ecstatic journey.

Tantra At Tahoe is dedicated to helping everyone who
desires better love, sex, and intimate relationships
with both long- distance learning and hands-on
training. We offer email courses, telephone coaching,
live sensual experiences, and private Tantric
Initiations to help you reach astounding heights of
sexual ecstasy.

Our motto: Deeper Into The Heart Of Sex

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"Ecstasy, the continuous experience of the divine
through knowledge of our own nature, is our natural
------ DEVI in Daniel Odier's "Tantric Quest"

In this issue...

WELCOME: Winners, Hot Tips, Deals, and More Winners

JUICY JOKE: Jeff & Dave

FEATURED PRODUCT: "Transform Relationships With

FEATURED ARTICLE: "A Juicy Taste Of Tantra: Divine
Oral Sex The Sacred Way"

SUBSCRIBER SPECIAL: Save $100 And Get A Free Intimacy

NEW CONTEST & POLL RESULTS: Your Opinion Counts!

NEXT ISSUE: "Freeing The Female Orgasm"

JUICY JOKE: Howard & Mildred

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Welcome subscribers, new and old. If you're new, you
probably don't realize how much we give away here at
Tantra At Tahoe to help newcomers like you experience
the joys of sacred sexuality.

Due to Tantra, our lovemaking continues to be fantastic
and get better and better. We spend lots of time in bed
thinking about what we can share with you to juice up
your love life. (OK, to be honest, just a microsecond
here or there.)

We do regularly share with clients - in ebooks, by
phone, and in person - what makes Tantric loveplay
increasingly ecstatic. Because you voted for oral sex
as your hottest topic in our December poll, that's the
one we're working on. In fact, this issue's main
article is about it. We'll give away a copy of our new
Tantric Oral Sex ebook to next month's lucky winner of
our poll.

So, of course, this month's exclusive Special Offer
only for newsletter subscribers is for your hottest
topic, Tantric Oral Sex.

Ooooooh! We're so excited. At last we've made Dhyan
Jeffre's new book, "Hotter Sex, Deeper Love" available for immediate
download. To get your copy immediately, go to...

Congratulations to Wendi, the lucky participant in our
February poll, who won a copy of Dhyan Jeffre's new
ebook. Join in our next poll and maybe you'll be our
next winner.

Love from Tantra At Tahoe who is...

Dhyan Jeffre and Dhyan Somraj

Please, forward this newsletter to all your friends,
family, and lovers who might be interested!
You may quote anything included with the following
attribution: "Reprinted from Sacred Sexual Secrets
Newsletter © January 2002"


Dave walks into the bar and sees his friend Jeff
huddled at the bar, looking depressed.

Dave walks over and asks Jeff what's wrong.

"Well," replies Jeff, "you know that beautiful girl at
work that I wanted to ask out, but I got an erection
every time I saw her?"

"Yes," replies Dave with a smile.

"Well," says Jeff, straightening up, "I finally
mustered up the courage to ask her out, and she

"That's great," says Dave, "when are you going out?"

"I went to meet her this evening," continues Jeff, "but
I was worried I'd get an erection again. So I got some
duct tape and taped my pecker to my leg, so if I did,
it wouldn't show."

"Sensible" says Dave.

"So I got to her door," says Jeff, "and I rang her
doorbell. She answered it in the sheerest, tiniest
dress you ever saw."

"Great! What happened next?" asks Dave in excitement.

Jeff huddles over the bar again. "I kicked her in the




"Hotter Sex, Deeper Love"

A note from Dhyan Jeffre...

I'm so excited that my new book is now available for
immediate download.

"Hotter Sex, Deeper Love," is a playbook that will teach you to love
yourself and your partner as you never dreamed
possible. It's about the interplay of physical and
emotional intimacy. I believe you can't separate the
forms of intimacy because we each express our love and
playfulness through our sexuality.

Our sexual nature is at our very core. It's the root of
who we are.

So I wrote this book to show you how to put the
powerful secrets of building lasting love into action
now. "Hotter Sex, Deeper Love," the playbook, is...

• A step-by-step, reader-friendly approach to the TOTAL

• Jam-packed with wise, useful information about the
essential points of your love relationship.

• Has over 40 carefully thought-out practices
addressing every aspect needed to change your love life
forever, creating deeper intimacy and hotter sex.

Do you want to transform your relationship beyond your
wildest dreams? I'm certain that my ebook, Intimacy,
the playbook, can help you do that. Make your sexual
and emotional relationship the best it has ever been,
beyond anything you can imagine. And you can buy it
right now for less than $15.

Please let me share what I've learned from a lifetime
career of helping others just like you. Buy my ebook
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progress as you play through the great fun exercises.

Click here for details and to buy it...


Love, Dhyan Jeffre


"A Juicy Taste Of Tantra: Divine Oral Sex The
Sacred Way & How It's Way Different From Anything
You've Experienced Before"

If you participated in our December poll, thanks for
helping us identify Tantric Oral Sex as our visitors'
number one interest. We've been playing hard,
practicing long, and writing everything down about our
glorious oral approach to sacred sexuality.

Almost every time we make love orally, we can't
restrain ourselves from crying out "you're the best"
between moans of pleasure. Our mouths, lips, and
tongues are tuned to giving maximum pleasure to each
other's sacred gardens. (OK, use the clinical term,
genitals, if you don't like the Chinese slang.) When we
started, we weren't automatically tuned in. We've
arrived there through lots of practice, Tantric
practice that is, of just the type we put clients

In this short article, we want to give you some idea of
how to develop the knack. And introduce you to the
ground-breaking Tantric Oral Sex ebook we're working on
so you can learn to enjoy licking, sucking, and
connecting with the divine to the max in the privacy of
your own home.

We know oral sex is a stretch for some people. And even
if you enjoy it, there's lots to learn from the ancient
secrets of Tantra and Kama Sutra. We promise to show
you that...

Tantric Oral Sex is different.

In the following paragraphs, we'll give you a taste
(pun intended) of giving and receiving divine oral
pleasure. There are six distinct ways that Tantric Oral
Sex is unique...
• Aim,
• Reverence,
• Partnership,
• Teaching,
• Responding, and
• Following.

AIM Wouldn't you agree that something soft, slippery,
and wet - like a mouth is most appreciated by your yoni
(Tantric for vagina) or vajra (Tantric for penis)? But
Tantric Oral Sex isn't about getting you off. If you've
read our free Special Report "The Top Ten Tantric
Secrets Of Sex, Love, & Intimacy," you realize that the
aim of sacred sexuality is pleasure, not orgasm. (By
the way, if you haven't received your copy, click here
and get it right now...

Tantrikas, adepts in Tantric practice, enhance energy
and extend lovemaking by enjoying every morsel of
sensation and every moment of joy. This is in stark
contrast to the common predicament of so many lovers
who careen headlong down a steep hill towards a quick

The guiding principle of Tantric Oral Sex is simply how
softly can you start and how slowly can you go. Tantric
lovers don't typically rush into wild rough animal sex
(though some wild screaming frenzy every once in a
while....well, that's another story.)

When we initiate singles and couples into the ancient
secrets in our hands-on private Tantric Initiations, we
teach them to approach lovemaking slowly and in stages.
They learn to consciously create the right setting,
connect with each other intimately long before
touching, and engage in practices to relax, focus, and
get present. Loveplay may move at length through
sensual and erotic phases before any thought of
orgasmic climax, and always end with a sweet closing.
In this way, maximum pleasure for as long as you want
is the aim.

For details about private Tantric Initiations to
completely transform your spiritual and sexual
connection, click here...

REVERENCE Tantrikas approach all aspects of loveplay
with respect and reverence. That's one way in which
Tantra differs from other religions: in Tantra we
revel in physical pleasure as a gift from God/Goddess,
believing it's a path to return to our native state of
blissful awareness.

Tantric Oral Sex takes this celebration of flesh a step
further: we revere the yoni and vajra. If you travel to
India and primitive cultures, you'll find ample
evidence of the worship of genital body parts. We're
not trying to deify your cock or pussy and say it's the
home of some supreme being. In Tantra we just treat
these sacred parts as a gateway to ecstasy. We approach
each other's sacred spots with open-eyed respect.

Most Westerners have been raised with strong hygienic
taboos that get in the way of oral play. Don't get us
wrong, cleanliness is a necessary starting point. But
once honored with soap and water, your privates are
amazingly clean. Part of our Tantra Initiation is to
reprogram your mind to crave the touch, taste, and
smell of clean vajras or yonis. When these senses
scream passion, you'll want to go down on your partner.

PARTNERSHIP We've all got an ego that wants us to
believe we're great lovers, that we can do to our
partner what no one else can. It's a wonderful fantasy,
sometimes reinforced by loud feedback. But the truth of
ecstatic loveplay is that it takes two to Tantra.

Personal responsibility is an essential principle of
Tantric practice. We're each completely in charge of
our own pleasure. Of course, a skilled lover is an
asset if given good guidance. But, passion begins and
ends with the receiver. How relaxed, how open, how
willing to surrender are you with your lover?

In Tantric Oral Sex, the receiver is active. You know
what you want, you ask for it, and you guide your lover
to do their part. The greatest challenge is inside he
receiver. Your ability to reach high states of arousal
depends on how well you can generate and circulate
orgasmic energy. If you've ever been with a lover who
can shake and shudder orgasmically from the slightest
sensation, then you have an idea of someone who's open
to flowing sexual juice.

In earlier newsletters, we explained about the subtle
energy centers we all have inside our bodies. The
ancients called them "chakras." From the base of your
spine to top of your head, your chakras are connected
by an energy channel called the inner flute. A primary
goal of Tantric Initiation is to cleanse and open the
inner flute. Then the subtlest stimulation causes
streaming, involuntary ecstatic vibrations of the whole
body, the beginning of the inner orgasm. Honoring a
yoni or vajra whose owner responds this way is a true
delight for both lovers.

By the way, if you haven't read our earlier articles
about all this, see our newsletter archives at...

When Somraj's mouth is on Dhyan Jeffre's yoni, it's as
if their energy circuits are connected. The pulses of
intense pleasure which surge through her body, pour
right into his mouth and his inner flute. When she
comes, he feels the intense pleasure in his body, too.
Truly, two become one.

TEACHING We were experienced lovers when we met in 1996
and already pretty good at giving head. We'd acquired
the basics and enjoyed it immensely. But compared to
what we do today, we were rank beginners.

What changed? Through dedicated Tantric practice, we
taught each other the touch and timing that works best
for us. Some techniques work on many lovers. But we
each have our unique response patterns, our tender
spots, and our highly sensitive areas. Somraj has one
testicle that's highly sensitive. And some erogenous
zones are moving targets. Jeffre's clio (Tantric for
clitoris) is too sensitive for direct contact at times.

Too many of us don't know our bodies very well. We
don't look at them or our partners reverently,
respectfully, honestly. We understand that taking the
role of personal pleasure teacher is a jump for many,
but an important rung on the ladder of personal sexual

How did we learn? Through exercises like "How Do I Like
To Be Loved" where we explain, show, and practice what
gives us the most pleasure. This exercise is a
challenge for people who haven't taken an honest, open,
forthright approach to experimenting with their
erogenous zones. We applaud those of you who've been
caught in comprising positions, in public places, or in
emergency rooms with vegetables stuck in embarrassing

RESPONSIVE Being raised without evolved sex education,
most of us have been running around with raging
hormones, judgments about right and wrong, and
conflicts between lust and good behavior. Our
programming preached that good girls don't do it, and
macho guys don't show emotion. Too often our only
feedback came when our partner did.

Without genuine continual feedback, well-meaning
lickers and suckers can't help but wondering...
• Am I doing it right?
• Does he want it harder?
• Am I missing something?
• Does she want me to do this now or not?

Trained receivers of Tantric Oral Sex moan, move, and
make what they want clear in each moment. If finding an
elusive clio is difficult for a new tongue, the Tantric
lover may suggest sweetly, demonstrate, or simply move
to a better position. When that tongue hits the sweet
spot, the resulting music makes success clear. Then the
receiver can relax and enjoy the pleasure being
exchanged. Subtle energy doesn't flow when the mind is
under the tension of uncertainty.

In Tantra, where we celebrate sexuality as the doorway
to the divine, knowing what you want, asking for it,
and showing appreciation are fundamental. As a result,
Tantric Initiations include vital sexual communication
skills like...
• How to ask for what you want.
• How to make sounds in the throes of ecstasy.
• How to be grateful while asking for something more.
You can learn many of these communication lessons in
the at- home version of our Tantric Initiation. In four
teleconference sessions, which we call "Charge Your
Spirit With Passion," we can teach you how to practice
the fundamentals of sacred sexuality. For details,
see... <>.

FOLLOWING If the giver thinks they always know best,
lovers are bound to get out of sync. No matter how well
Dhyan Jeffre has trained Somraj to do what really turns
her on, sometimes her clio or G-spot wants something
different. Instead of believing he knows what she
wants, he listens, observes, asks, and gives the
Goddess what she desires now.

Following your lover requires dropping your agenda,
dropping your plan, and dropping your expectations of
how things will unfold and conclude. Being consumed
with questions like...

• When do I approach clio?
• How long do I titillate her before direct contact?
• When does she need faster, slower, lighter, or stronger

are never an issue with a Tantric lover because there's
never a doubt.

The receiver responds eloquently and the giver
continues giving what's bringing great feedback. This
kind of following requires surrendering to the divine,
to the power and control of the God or Goddess who is
your partner.

WIN THE COMPLETE PICTURE Exactly how to touch, nibble,
kiss, lick, and suck according to these principles is
what our new ebook goes into in depth. It's called
"Tantric Oral Sex: Giving & Receiving Divine Oral
Pleasure." It will include detailed anatomy, exercises,
and instructions to become a masterful partner in all
the stages of oral Tantric loveplay.

Right now we're in the middle of this writing project,
and we'd love your input on these questions...
• What works the best for you?
• What questions do you have about oral sex?
• What problems have you encountered with oral sex?
If we mention your tip or answer your
question in our new ebook, you'll win a free copy.

Love and Goddess Speed Your Journey...

Dhyan Jeffre and Dhyan Somraj


Dhyan Jeffre TallTrees is a licensed SkyDancing Tantra
Teacher with over 30 years of clinical experience
specializing in relationships and human sexuality.
Jeffre is co-author of "Hotter Sex, Deeper Love." She is a
columnist, healer, counselor, workshop leader, artist,
and avid skier whose advice is highly sought after. As
cofounder of Tantra At Tahoe along with her beloved
husband, Somraj, Jeffre provides the feminine power
which makes Tantric sexuality sacred.

Dhyan Somraj is the author of countless articles about
Tantra, over 50 workshops, and 4 books including
Ultimate Premature Ejaculation Mastery. During his 30 year career
as a counselor, group facilitator, and trainer, Somraj
has guided more that 20,000 people to lead more
effective lives. He derives great joy from assisting
others to release sexual inhibitions which block their
pleasure so they can make lovemaking last and last and
last. Somraj is a private pilot, avid skier and
mountain bike rider, website designer, and ecstatic
worshipper of the Goddess.

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Are you one of those folks who feel that sex is a lot
more fun when there's someone else to enjoy it with? We
have to agree. Tantra is much more than technique, it's
about harmony and connection between lovers. The fuel
for an enduring passionate love affair is an
ever-growing depth of intimacy.

Another way to say it -- your sex life suffers if your
relationship falters. And vice versa.

In dire straits, many couples resort to marriage
counselors. We think that's great to get help in
opening your communication channels. But we've found
too many therapists shy away from sexual issues and
know little of Tantra.

To incorporate the secrets of Tantric intimacy into
your love life, you need the complete approach. You
need more than talk, you need practices that allow the
two of you to address what's up now, and get beyond it
quickly. You need to learn how to refocus on the
powerful energy that brought you together in the first

That's the exact purpose of our "Passionate Intimacy
Essentials" teleseminar. In two one-and-a-half to two
hour phone conferences, Dhyan Jeffre will guide you
through the common pitfalls of building lifelong
passionate intimacy.

"Passionate Intimacy Essentials" will help you
kick-start your blooming love or rekindle the dying
embers of your original affection. In this private
personalized telephone consultation with the two of
you, she'll help you focus on closeness, connection,
and sexual communion in ways you've never dreamed of.
Using the essentials of Tantra, she'll steer you
through the labyrinth of merging sex, heart, and

You'll find great joy in working through the exciting
homeplay assignments she'll suggest to put Passionate
Intimacy to work now. So that you'll have detailed
instructions, you'll receive a free copy of Dhyan
Jeffre's new ebook "Hotter Sex, Deeper Love."

Click here for details...

Special Offer Exclusively For Newsletter Subscribers:

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on our website.


Give us your opinion and WIN! That's what happened to

Congratulations to the winner of our February drawing,
Wendi, who's already received a free copy of Dhyan
Jeffre's fantastic sex, love, and intimacy playbook
called "Hotter Sex, Deeper Love" just for taking a minute to fill
out our last poll.

Our February poll asked "what attracts you to Tantra
and Sacred Sexuality?" Here is the summary of how
women's responded...

Spirit Sex: The Universal Keys To A Better Life 95

Be Irresistible In & Out Of Bed 93

What Women Don't Know About Love & Sex 92

What Men Really Want In Bed 89

Meaningful Sex: Make Your Feelings Count 86

Dive Deeply Into Sex & Find Your Soul 85

Orgasm Insurance: Men Can't Give What You Don't Ask For

10 Secrets To Being His Best Ever In Bed 82

Sex, Love, & Intimacy - A Package Deal 81

Spirit Love: Loving Yourself, Loving Sex 81

What Men Don't Know About Pleasing You 79

You Can Have It All: Love, Spiritual Growth, & Great
Sex 78

The New Female Sexuality: Your Needs Are Not Like His

Here are the men's results...

Ecstasy Every Time: Freeing The Female Orgasm 108

Completely Satisfy Her Every Time 107

How To Get Her To Tell You What She Wants In Bed 107

Master The G-Spot & Clitoris In 5 Easy Lessons 103

Tantric Trigger Points: Understanding Sacred Genital
Anatomy 103

Eastern Sexual Secrets To Unleash Your Lover's Passion

How To Last Longer In Bed 93

Top 10 Tantric Turn-Ons Women Can't Resist 92

Size Doesn't Matter With The Ancient Secrets of Tantra

7 Worst Sexual Mistakes Men Make With Women 74


OUR NEXT POLL & CONTEST: Your Opinion Counts & You
Could Win!

Help us finish our next ebook, "Tantric Oral Sex."

Take a couple minutes and answer the questions about
oral sex in our March poll and you could win your own
copy for free. We'll keep your answers and identity
confidential, and just mention the first name you give
if you win.

Click here to share your opinion and enter our monthly





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We're learning a lot from you, our readers, from your
poll responses and doing our best to respond as quickly
as we can. As a result, our next featured article will
be about "Freeing The Female Orgasm." We intend to make
this as interesting to women as it will be valuable to
men. Look for it next month.



Howard is 95 and lives in a senior citizen home. Every
night after dinner, Howard goes to a secluded garden
behind the center to sit and ponder his accomplishments
and long life.

One evening, Mildred, age 87, wanders into the garden.
They begin to chat, and before they know it, several
hours have passed. After a short lull in their
conversation, Howard turns to Mildred and asks, "Do you
know what I miss most of all?"

She asks, "What?" and he replies "SEX!!!"

Mildred exclaims, "why you old fart, you couldn't get
it up if I held a gun to your head!"

"I know," Howard says, "but it would be nice if a woman
could just hold it for a while."

"Well, I can oblige," says Mildred, who unzips his
trousers, removes his manhood and proceeds to hold it.

Afterward, they agree to meet secretly each night in
the garden where they would sit and talk and Mildred
would hold Howard's manhood.

Then, one night, Howard didn't show up at their usual
meeting place.

Alarmed, Mildred decided to find Howard and make sure
he was O.K. She walked around the senior citizen home
where she found him sitting by the pool with another
female resident, Ethel, who was holding Howard's

Furious, Mildred yelled, "You two-timing creep! What
does Ethel have that I don't have?"

Howard smiled happily and replied, "Parkinsons"!



The information contained in this document represents
the current view of Tantra At Tahoe on the issues
discussed as of the date of publication. We provide
this free advice in the hopes that your conscious use
will improve your sexual life. If you have a medical
or psychological condition, please contact your health
professional before acting on this advice. Our
guidance is not intended as medical or psychological
treatment, psychotherapy, or services best performed by
a health professional. Information provided in this
document is provided "AS IS" without warranty of any
kind, either expressed or implied. You assume the
entire risk as to the accuracy and the use of
suggestions in this document. Without our personalized
services, your results may vary.



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