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How To Make Long-Term Relationships Work Which Means Lots Of Love And Lots Of Sex

"Sacred Sexual Secrets" Newsletter 12/21/06


Published by Somraj Pokras and Jeffre TallTrees

ISSN 1540-8825 (c) Copyright 2006 by

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This free ezine offers practical sex tips derived from the ancient wisdom of Tantra and the Kama Sutra coupled with modern sex research. We teach Supreme Bliss Tantra which is spiritual sex that helps you deepen relationship intimacy and reach astounding heights of sexual ecstasy through long-distance learning and hands-on training.

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Dear Tantra Subscribers:

First, we want to wish you and yours a happy, juicy, and sexy holiday season with a prosperous new year filled with lots of love and sex.

Second, we're excited to announce a new edition of our Intimacy Ebook, now called the Hotter Sex Deeper Love Ebook. Its goal is to give you the tools, the techniques, the permission, and the path to profound intimacy and the most orgasmic sex you could ever imagine, and beyond. You can learn all about it in the 30 free pages we've just uploaded in our new Hotter Sex Deeper Love Online Guided Tour which starts here:

Finally, our featured article in this newsletter will help you celebrate the holidays and start off the new year to make your relationship the best you've ever dreamed of. And to sweeten the deal, our holiday present to you is 25% our new ebook edition. Look for the secret code at the end of the article.



* Featured Article: "Which Comes First Hotter Sex Or Deeper Love?"
* Tantric Quote: "Sex Without Love Is Meaningless"

* Tantric Quote: "Love Deeply & Fear Of Sex Disappears"

* Featured DVD/Video: "Best Lovers Guides"

* Featured Ebook: "Hotter Sex Deeper Love"

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Featured Article: "Which Comes First Hotter Sex Or Deeper Love?"
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- How To Make Long-Term Relationships Work -

- Which Means Lots Of Love And Lots Of Sex -

Long term relationships are a challenge to all of us. We're all looking for ways to recharge our sex lives, boost our intimacy, and solve the interminable frictions that get in our way.

Do You Ever Feel Like You Get Enough?

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Why do we all want more love, more sex, and more intimacy? Because we know, in our being, that there’s more. So we never feel like we get enough. And in reality you probably don't.

Don’t kid yourself, none of us are immune to suffering from a lack of intimacy or sexual satisfaction. But there are steps you can take. Easy, effective, empowered steps.

The inseparable connection between sex and intimacy, or you could call it passion and love, is well established. Intimacy is a modern concept that describes what happens when two people move beyond their fear of emotional closeness and open their hearts to deep love and appreciation of themselves and their partner.

You know your spirit demands it. The joys of ecstatic sex are your reward and your birthright. You were born an ecstatic being. You can recapture those joyful, playful feelings.

Often guys like to start building love through sex, and women prefer to recharge sexual energy beginning with love. Or you could say women move down from the heart and guys, if you're lucky, move up from their genitals.

Ideally, you could move in both directions at once. But whatever works for the two of you is what we encourage.

Intimacy and passion are available to each of us right NOW. Are you ready for it? Are you ready to move your life towards joy, love, and connection? Let's look into the interrelationship between the two, love and sex.

How Do Love And Sex Work Together?

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Wouldn’t you love to. . .

- Look at your beloved adoringly and with desire? Like, everyday?

- Feel the turn-on and appreciation coming from your beloved?

- Feel satisfied and complete every single time you make love?

Love without sex is usually just friendship with limits. Sex without love can be a fun party but without much future. Marriage without sex is a tragedy, but too common in our culture, all too common. Marriage without love is a travesty. Although marriage is not necessary in the modern world to have great love or great sex, life can indeed, be very rich with all three: love, sex, and marriage.

All of us are drawn together by one of these natural desires. How do we lose the love part?

Love is the expression of the soul, the heart. Love dies when it's not nurtured. If one of you doesn't speak the language of love, your partner suffers. It's well known that women adore the language of love with words and deeds. Men can feel love and often express love nonverbally. This can be wonderful, but if his woman, his wife, cannot read the signals, she begins to feel unloved, undesired.

It is not enough to feel love, it must be communicated in a way that your partner gets it. She must hear it, see it, feel it daily. Once a year on your anniversary isn’t enough.

When you realize how sex, love, and marriage work together, it's clear that hotter sex and deeper love only grow together. We call this sexual intimacy.


Tantric Quote: "Sex Without Love Is Meaningless"

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"Sex without love is a meaningless experience, but as meaningless experiences go, it's pretty damned good." -- Woody Allen


Don't Settle For The Ho-Hum Norm Of Twice A Week

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First, the bad news. The norm for Western society is perfunctory sex 2.5 times a week. That means sex as the last thing in a busy day and purely focused on getting off -- too often only him -- without much in the way of love being expressed.

The quality of our sex lives, as a society, suffers from millenia of ignorance, misinformation, or simply a lack of information, fear and shame. If we truly loved our bodies and understood our feelings, sex would have few bounds, limitations, and inhibitions. We'd recognize sex as the ultimate adult play that it is and can be. And the powerful fuel for love, intimacy, and closeness that it was designed for.

Are you aware that great sex isn't natural? Right, it's something great lovers have to learn. Because it doesn't come naturally, everyone needs practical information and easy-to-follow guidance. We all do. That's one of our primary missions in writing and teaching Supreme Bliss Tantra: unifying sex, love, and spirit.

When sex is really satisfying to both partners, you can’t help but want more. When every time you make love is great, you'll think about sex more frequently. You'll look forward to more, you’ll want it more, and and you'll see that you get it sooner. And the impact on your intimacy, your closeness, your happiness, and thus your love is easy to predict.

Instead of settling for ho-hum sex occasionally, you need to take proactive steps to juice up your entire relationship and make sure you enjoy great sex more frequently.

We All Crave Hotter Sex

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The key to deeper love is not only intimacy on all levels, it’s having regular hotter sex as well. In other words, you can improve your love quotient by improving your sex life.

We all want hotter sex which of course means better sex than we’ve got. It’s a human thing, probably. Or maybe, we just believe that sex can be more than we are currently experiencing. Hotter sex conjures up some fantasies, right?

Hotter sex is really what YOU believe it to is. Maybe it’s mind blowing, i.e. when your mind is gone. Maybe it’s hard and fast. Maybe for you it’s slow and rhythmical allowing you to move into an altered state. Maybe it’s porn flick style sex that goes on and on. Whatever it is for you, hotter sex is MORE.

You’re wanting more hotter sex than what you're familiar with and than you're usually getting. Correct?

If you’re a typical couple, you started off with hotter sex all the time. You probably couldn’t keep your hands off one another. After six months or maybe a year, frequent passionate nookie slowed down. Sex became kinda routine.

Who was born with the secret formula for recapturing hotter sex? Nobody we know.

If You Want To, You Can Have Better Sex

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The proven truth is that any couple can have better sex. That means no more ho-hum sex. Making sex better starts with each of you going within and finding out...

- Who you are?

- What are your hopes and dreams?

- What are you getting?

- What are you feeling?

- How do you want to be?

- What do you want?

- What do you want to do differently?

Knowing yourself emotionally and knowing yourself sexually are the two most important things you can know that will lead to better sex.

You can use sex as the tool, as the impetus, to go deeper within yourself and with your beloved, sexually and emotionally. We know, from our own personal and professional experience that the fastest way to become intimate partners is by looking at your feelings and reactions about sex. And then sharing them.

Better sex comes when you communicate intimately with your partner and have confidence that you know what you’re talking about.

Every one of us has our own idea about what is better sex. So only you can decide what is better sex. But we are confident that not only will your relationship deepen with the power of intimacy on multiple levels, you’ll have better sex when you look inside and communicate what you see.


Tantric Quote: "Love Deeply & Fear Of Sex Disappears"

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"Love deeply. If you love deeply in a sexual relationship much fear will disappear from the body. If your body trembles in fear, it is the fear of sex; you have not been in a deep sexual relationship. Your body trembles, your body is not at ease, at home." -- Ekin Jeevan ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Do Either Of You Suffer From LSD (no, it means Low Sexual Desire)?

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Although women, and sometimes men, may turn off to sex, deep down we all want hotter sex and more of it. Maybe your sex life has become routine or even boring. Maybe you’re tolerating what is far from hotter sex. Ooh, we hope not, but the sad truth is there are a lot of folks who aren’t getting any sex -- much less the hotter sex they used to enjoy or dream of -- and they just lose their interest.

Chances are your parents had a less than perfect relationship. So where did you learn how to have a soulful marriage, or a terrific playful sex life?

Desire is a big challenge in many long-term relationships. After decades resurrecting problem marriages, it's clear to us that Low Sexual Desire is the number one reason that couples see a sex therapist. It’s a massive problem in our society.

Often life stress is the biggest reason for low sexual desire, but the second one is boredom. You know, same ol' same ol'. Doesn't that kind of sex eventually get boring to you, too? If you do anything the same way for a few years, face it, you’ll get bored.

So much lack of desire is rooted in a lack of information and trust: in yourself and your partner. If you’re not getting hot sex and sexual satisfaction on a regular basis, your desire will slowly turn off, killing off both love and sex eventually.

Don't let love and sex die in your relationship. Do the personal work you need to and share with your partner. Only then can you fall in love all over again and find how to merge love and sex more than you ever dreamed possible.

So Many More Possibilities To Tempt You & Turn You On

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If you want to have more fun, more pleasure, and more loving feelings, we applaud your desire to change, grow, and transform your relationship. Our ebooks, ecourses, training, and coaching always encourage conscious, open-minded, consensual experimentation.

For example, do you want to. . .

- Have more and stronger orgasms or a better handle on what your partner wants?

- Hang out with your partner in the nude, but feel too uncomfortable right now?

- Explore some of your sexual fantasies and learn how to be creative and get permission to do that?

- Spend more time appreciating each other, sharing sweetly, and playing games together?

- Expand your sexual repetoire with different sex positions, oral sex, or anal play?

The more you learn about your options, safely at home, while strengthening your love and your partnership, the better things get. The more you know about the possibilities of sex, the more exciting sex can be. As great as intercourse can be with an adventuresome, loving, in-sync couple, sex can so much more than the old in and out.


Featured DVD/Video: "Best Lovers Guides"

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Watching experienced lovers on film is a fantastic way to learn, explore, and experiment. Oh, and get turned on safely in the privacy of your own bedroom.

We're excited to offer you 17 of the Best Lovers Guides on DVD and video from our friend and partner Doctor G. A connoisseur of sacred, erotic, and informative films, Doctor G has chosen a select number of titles that will turn you on while teaching. These are explicit, well-done videos that will leave you breathless, skilled, and rushing off to practice.

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Where To Start And Where To Go From Here?

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So to transform your relationship, what comes first: hotter sex or deeper intimacy? Some believe making your sweetie's body feel better comes first. Others believe you've got to start communicating more to deepen your love. We're in favor of both, so we leave it up to you to choose.

But our best advice is to do both together. Yes, talk about sex, and then try it out. Then talk about what happened and try something new and different. Keep communicating, keep playing, and keep coming together. That's our prescription for relationship growth.

And fortunately we've got the perfect step-by-step guidance for you to do this in the new edition of our intimacy playbook, the "Hotter Sex Deeper Love Ebook." We humbly suggest that this is the best holiday present you could give your lover. And, of course, starting on the sweet, juicy, and fun exercises that it's built around.

That's why our holiday present to you is 25% our new edition (see the ebook description that follows).

Here's wishing you the hottest Christmas, the sexiest Hannukah, and the most loving New Year you could imagine.

Love from your Supreme Bliss Tantra mentors,

Jeffre and Somraj


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Juicy Joke: "A Woman Should Think Before She Speaks"

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I was at the golf store comparing different kinds of golf balls. I was unhappy with the women's type I had been using. After browsing for several minutes, I was approached by one of the good-looking gentlemen who works at the store. He asked if he could help me.

Without thinking, I looked at him and said, "I think I like playing with men's balls"


My sister and I were at the mall and passed by a store that sold a

variety of candy and nuts. As we were looking at the display case, the boy behind the counter asked if we needed any help. I replied, "No, I'm just looking at your nuts."


This had most of the state of Michigan laughing for 2 days and a very embarrassed female news anchor who will, in the future, likely think before she speaks. What happens when you predict snow but don't get any! We had a female news anchor that, the day after it was supposed to have snowed and didn't, turned to the weatherman and asked: "So Bob, where's that 8 inches you promised me last night?" Not only did HE have to leave the set, but half the crew did too they were laughing so hard!



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