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Your Tantra Newsletter: Fantasy Role Playing
Playing With Power Dynamics To Engage Your Biggest Sex Organ (The Brain)

The first draft of our new ebook, Long Hot Tantric Love Making, is nearly complete. To get you jazzed about it and get your feedback, we’re going to give pieces away in our upcoming newsletters. Here’s the second.

Lovers should try to evolve mystic forms for themselves, using their powers of erotic fantasy to augment their understanding of the Tantric teachings.
-- Shiva
There are many ways play with power dynamics in lovemaking. Too many couples get stuck in one pattern and end up with a routine, boring sex life. We don’t want that for you and that’s certainly not what we’ve created ourselves. As we explained early in this book, Tantric LoveMaking is a sexual style based on sharing power and partnering. But if variety is the spice of a great sex life, we hope you’ll want to play with other sexual styles.
One way to do that is to role-play different fantasies that you dream up or read in erotica books. After reading Fifty Shades Of Grey we bought a little restraint kit. It’s simply an extendable bar with two ankle cuffs and another one with three cuffs, two for the wrists and one for the neck. It might be awfully vanilla for the kinky likes of Christian Grey who liked to string his playmates up against the wall and wallop them with crops and belts. But for us it occasionally adds the master-sex slave fantasy into our playtime.

"Sacred Sexual Secrets" Newsletter 7/28/15
Published by Somraj Pokras & Jeffre TallTrees
ISSN 1540-8825 (c) Copyright 2015 by
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We heartily endorse the myriad of other fantasies that lovers love to play out sometimes. Like picking your beloved up in a bar and taking him/her upstairs to a hotel room for a one-nighter. Or imagining the female high-school teacher asks the hunky student to stay after class for some personal tutoring. Or brothers and sisters doing it. Or those with an Oedipus complex.
If these disgust you, well, don’t try them. But most of us have some scenarios that secretly titillate us. If they involve force, abuse, or violence, you certainly don’t want to propagate this kind of unregulated behavior.
But what if it’s consensual and regulated by the Partnering Questions? Then what might look like domination and submission from the outside can really turn into true partnering. You just have to create a scene together, each ask for what you want, talk about your concerns, and make your boundaries clear. It’s also important to establish a safe word that gives the one who submits the power to stop the action instantly. Christian Grey favored “red” but we were taught to use a word like “pumpernickel” that’s highly unlikely to come up during your role play.
We think this is a perfect opportunity to practice employing the Beginner’s Mind in a situation likely to conjure up lots of resistance and turmoil when there’s no need for any.


Long Hot Tantric Love Making
The Ins And Outs Of Passionate Sex For Her And Him: The Love Dynamics, Physical Mechanics, And Practical Energetics of Sexual Intercourse

Our tenth Tantric sex ebook is unlike any other. It’s a how-to guide that shows men and women, straight and gay: 1) exactly what to do once your sexual organs are connected, and 2) how to expand your intimacy into full erotic union of heart, mind, and soul while you’re doing it. This is the first publication of ways to devise the most ecstatic Stroking Schemes, find Sweet Spots and Sweet Rhythms, connect your electrical Passion Circuits, and fill your Bio-Field with orgasmic energy during sexual intercourse. We’re a long-time married couple who wrote this because too few women are emotionally fulfilled and sexually satisfied. Our expos? is as much our sexual diary of startling discoveries as it is a program of steps every woman can take to get exactly what she wants in and out of bed. It has two goals: 1) making lovemaking last longer, and 2) making lovemaking so passionate that you want it to last and last and do it again and again. It’s the complete no-holds-barred graphic story of how we made our sex life more satisfying than we every imagined possible. And how you can, too.


Fantasy Partnering
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Erotic fantasy stimulates the emotions and helps lift the sentiments beyond mundaneness. Erotic fantasy is particularly helpful to those who feel restricted and caught up in worldly circumstances. By causing consciousness to expand, erotic fantasy can truly become a vehicle of Liberation.
-- Shiva
Here’s an example of how you might start negotiating a fantasy role-play.
• Desires & Concerns: “I want you to pick me up in the grocery store, being all sweet and gentle. Then when you get me home surprise me with hand cuffs and tie me up. Cut my clothes off into shreds with a knife. I know you’re really skilled with a blade so I’ll trust you with that. And then tease me for hours until I’m screaming for you to fuck me. Then you better do it or I’ll be way pissed later.”
• Boundaries: “You can do anything you want that doesn’t cause me pain. My safe word is pumpernickel. If I use it you must promise to stop role-playing and untie me immediately. OK? If I say “yellow light,” it means I need to talk to you outside of my fantasy. Like maybe I’m really thirsty or hurting or I have to pee way bad. OK?”
Get the idea? With love and trust, you can play out all the kinkiest fantasies you’ve every dreamed of. Maybe the first time you try one scenario will be the last. But maybe you’ll go shallow with another and love it enough that you want to repeat it going deeper next time. Role-playing using the Partnering Questions is a safe way to explore your shadow side while having more fun. The dark side of the force harbors huge amounts of untapped energy. The possibilities for new sources of excitement are waiting for you right on the edge of your comfort zone. When your relationship is secure enough, give it a try.
By the way, you might just find talking about being someone else and having sex in new places or in new ways might really turn you on. That might be enough without going any further. Because the brain is your most powerful sex organ, the body can respond to fantasies in the mind as strongly as the reality you’re watching or enacting. Or you might get so jazzed by the whole idea of a threesome that you actually want to try it for real. If you are considering opening your relationship and bringing others into your loveplay, tread carefully. We suggest you get some advice from the many good books out there or by consulting a local expert in swinging or polyamory. You can also email us directly if you want our advice.

Love, Somraj and Jeffre

P.S. We’re looking for a few qualified reviewers to help us edit and refine “Long Hot Tantric Lovemaking” when we return from vacation in August. If you’re interested, please email us at the address that follows.


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