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Your Tantra Newsletter: The Secret To Having The Big O - Part 4
Cosmic Orgasm Is An Inside Job

This is the fourth in our series about maximizing your orgasmic potential. Last time we explained how to get her jewels (genitals) fully aroused and erect before going for it. Since it takes two to do the Tantric Tango, now it’s his turn.


"Sacred Sexual Secrets" Newsletter 7/19/2012
Published by Somraj Pokras & Jeffre TallTrees
ISSN 1540-8825 (c) Copyright 2012 by
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This free ezine (scroll to the end if you want to stop them) offers practical sex tips derived from modern sex research and the ancient wisdom of Tantra and the Kama Sutra. We teach Supreme Bliss Tantra to help you deepen relationship intimacy and reach astounding heights of sexual ecstasy through long-distance learning and hands-on training. Our Motto: Deeper Into The Heart Of Sex

Virile guys really love women who are naturally passionate and easily turned-on. Maybe that’s because they’re not as common as both genders would like. But all women can get there if their lovers learn to use their hands and mouths slowly, responsively, and skillfully until she’s fully aroused.

The pathway to turn-on for most men is different. Often a wink, a swish of the skirt, or a wistful expression on her face is more than enough to get him hard and make him crave release. Clearly, following this route isn’t going to get her pleasure balloon totally inflated since he’s likely to blow his wad before long. The good news is that if he masters the Eric Clapton style of lovemaking (the famous rock guitar player’s nickname is “Slow Hand”) and extends his sexual stamina at the same time, he can expand his orgasmic repertoire and his own level of ecstasy. And make love long enough for her to reach the peaks of pleasure she’s entitled to.

A Short Course In His Sexual Dynamics

So how does a guy fill his pleasure balloon without exploding too soon? Let’s start by considering how his plumbing is arranged. Hopefully you all have some first-hand experience with his highly expandable organ which we call vajra. That’s the Sanskrit word for “divine thunderbolt” which is so much more stimulating than penis.

If he’s lucky, any kind of stroke or lick pumps blood into vajra’s tissues making him hard and at the same time more sensitive. And since most guys turn-on starts in their heads, meaning the big one not vajra’s little one, the fact of seeing her naked body or imagining that a wild fantasy happening or even having a certain thought makes him fixated on getting off.

If his goal is max pleasure in minimum time, get ready for Captain Ahab’s famous line “Thar she blows!”

Most of us got conditioned this way when as teenagers we first experimented wetting our woodies while we were afraid of getting caught. Even though most guys think they’re uninhibited and sex positive, all of us to some degree have bought the party line that sex is a sin, especially by hand. So we don’t fully appreciate the good feelings and learn how to make them last as long as possible.

If his lover doesn’t embrace the Tantric Attitude that drawing out the pleasure as long as possible is more important than cuming big right now, well, she (or he) might suck or pump or jerk too fast to help him settle into the strong tidal flow of ecstasy. But it’s really an inside job for him regardless of how skilled and sensitive his partner is.

Where Is His 2-Stage Orgasm Central?

Though it sure seems like vajra stroking is what controls his orgasms, the truth is actually deeper. His prostate gland, that walnut-sized organ that lies just above the bulb at the top of his erection inside his pelvis but just below his bladder, is really orgasm central. As mind and body stimulation conspire to make him more excited than he can handle, his sexual energy collects around his prostate.

The prostate gland is actually a collection of 40 little glands and ducts surrounded by a muscular sheath. The secret to timing his ejaculation is keeping that muscle relaxed and spreading the sexual energy all throughout his body until both are ready for a gusher.

Did you know cuming is really a two-stage process? Emission and expulsion. When he can’t resist the tension around his prostate after getting turned on, this muscle-sheathed gland contracts causing emission into his urinary canal. There it mixes with sperm and other fluids created semen. Then his pelvic muscles contract about 10 times causing expulsion of his liquid gold out vajra’s head.

The complete program is in Somraj’s best-selling ebook “Ultimate Premature Ejaculation Mastery.” Remember you can save $5.00 by inserting the secret code “ebook5” into the coupon field upon checkout. (A streamlined edition is also available in print as “Male Multiple Orgasm”) through Amazon and other retailers.

Regardless, all versions depend on first understanding the anatomy of male ejaculation and relaxing his pelvis.

Muscling Your Way To Orgasm Control

By increasing his body sensitivity and relaxation, a man can avoid resisting the sexual tension that builds up in his pelvis when he turns on. Instead he learns to go slow and savor the build-up of kundalini, relaxing when the pubococcygeal muscles of the untrained male lover spasm around the prostate causing emission.

With some dedicated practice any guy can learn to pump the turn-on into his pleasure balloon instead of cuming out of vajra’s head too quickly. Then he can turn his attention to taking his time helping his woman climb higher and higher until her pleasure balloon is so full she floats away on an irresistible stream of orgasms.

An essential part of both his and her orgasmic program is strengthening and toning the the pubococcygeal muscles that hug the pelvic floor. They’re the ones that snake like a figure-eight around the anus and jewels of both sexes. For simplicity we them “PC” though you may already know the exercises started by Dr. Arnold Kegel to help women recover after childbirth.

You’ll find the basic PC or Kegel exercise in all of our ebooks, but because they’re so important we’ve developed a complete program in our “Tantric Sex Muscle Ecourse”... .

It’s usually $19.98 but you can get it for half price when you buy any of our ebooks, or for FREE when you buy them all here... .

How To Move Mountains

But if you’re operating under the assumption that our primary aim here is to make guys better performers, we need to be clearer about the kind of playing field we’re talking about. While it’s more common for women to be orgasmically challenged and the average guy can spout off whenever he wants, what really counts is how big and strong the orgasms of both can be and how many of them can they have.

Letting nature take its course has a nice ring, but if you let biology alone direct your sex life, you’ll both be missing out big time. The fundamental truth is that even informed and experienced lovers use friction to build sexual tension until they cum. Fun, sure, if you like quickies which we sometimes opt for.

But the real cosmic orgasm results from wave after wave of higher and higher passion. You do this by spreading and containing your sexual energy until it pulses all throughout and around you. These ever soaring waves shoot up amazing peaks of pleasure and settle into ecstatic plateaus that shake your body, mind, and soul to their depths. And then another, and then another. Literally you can make this go on for hours at higher and higher levels until you’re ready to truly explode with the kind of fireworks that move mountains and inspire eternal forms of art.

This kind of love play is an art form, but one that can only be done together. That’s what we’ll deal with in our next newsletter. Until then, enjoy the summer’s heat both outside in the sun and inside when your bodies touch and dance and intertwine.

Love, Somraj and Jeffre


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