9 Ways to Steer Sex, A Different Kind of Orgasm, Unexpected Ways to Orgasm

Want to make sex more Orgasmic? Here are links to some interesting articles that can help.

9 Surprising Ways To Have A Better Sex Life, According To Sex Experts – mindbodygreen

Did you notice anything different about your orgasm? ~ Temperature’s Rising

All The Unexpected Ways You Can Have Orgasms – mindbodygreen

Your Erotic Self, 8 Male Orgasms, 8 Female Orgasms

Here are links to some fascinating articles that can help you understand and practice Orgasmic Sex…

5 Ways to Be More Sexual by Embracing Your Authentic Erotic Self – Dr Dick’s Sex Advice 

Why the Male Orgasm Is Not as Simple as Everyone Tries to Tell You – Beducated Magazine 

The 8 Types of Female Orgasms – Beducated Magazine 

Sex Games, Talking About Sex, What Turns You On

There is so much fantastic free advice about Orgasmic Sex on the internet. Here are a few links to articles that will help you find new ways to maximize your passion every time you do it.

38 Sensual Sex Games for Frisky Couples – Beducated Magazine

The Surprising Benefits Of Talking About Sex With Your Friends

How To Figure Out What Turns You On, According To A Sex Therapist – mindbodygreen 

Your Tantra Newsletter: How to Make Sex Supernatural – 2

The 3-Step Formula to Turn Ordinary Sex Into Something Magical Every Time

In last month’s article (which you can find here), we began explaining how to make sex supernatural. Here’s the second half of the story.

We ended that newsletter by introducing you to the 20 sweets spots  (erogenous zones) that men have around their jewels (genitals) and the 30 that women have around their jewels.

One of the reasons that many lovers never stumble upon these secrets is because about half of those 50 sweet spots are inside your jewels. But once you read our new book, Tantric Pathways to Supernatural Sex, you’ll know how to find and excite them all by hand, mouth, or jewel union.

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“Sacred Sexual Secrets” Newsletter #298 published 10/25/18

Published by Somraj Pokras & Jeffre TallTrees

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You probably figured out that jewel union means when your genitals are coupled during sexual intercourse. One of the reasons we wrote our latest spiritual sex how-to guide is to guide lovers to make jewel union supernatural. It seems that the authors of most sex books shy away from detailing the mechanics and metaphysics of sexual intercourse. But that’s not the Tantric way.

The Tantric way is to accept all of life, raise your consciousness of what’s really going on inside your body, and face it in all its beauty and everything else that comes up. When you confront the realities of jewel union, only then can you make your sex supernatural.

The Trick of Extending Your Play

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Don’t get the idea that improving your sex life is only about techniques like fiddling with a dozen or two new sweet spots. It’s even more about your spiritual connection which shows up as sexual energy.

In the first half of this article, we explained what you would gain when you delay explosive orgasm. What seems to happen is that you ascend to a different playing field. As you build instead of waste kundalini, you’re transported from a monotonous plain to a high, lush mountain valley.

In this ecstatic valley you have the time to discover and trigger more and more sweet spots. You play with the energy back and forth. You surf up and down waves of passion. You get to enjoy multiple orgasms of all 12 special varieties that our new Tantric sex manual details.

You just can’t do that when ordinary sex lasts only seven minutes. That’s the average duration of modern lovemaking substantiated by many research studies.

The challenge of orgasmic surfing is handling those intense sudden peaks of pleasure without losing it. That’s why we teach that the skill of peaking is paramount in Supernatural Sex. The street name for this is edging which means backing way from the brink of the cliff.

When you can relax at a peak multiple times, you’re actually dancing on the verge of orgasm. That’s where the kundalini currents and their delicious sensations are strongest. Which is why supernatural lovers prefer to surf from peak to peak endlessly.

Kundalini governs how much pleasure you create and how good it feels. The way kundalini behaves closely resembles that of electricity. That’s why the subtitle of our new book is “A Groundbreaking Look at the Chemistry of Sexual Electricity.”

Only when you enter the lofty valley beyond quick release can you play with these electrical circuits. You can charge your sweet spots and hook them up with hot links. You can connect them with your partner’s erogenous zones using passion circuits and energy circles.

Do your remember from highsschool science that flowing electrons produce a magnetic field? In much the same way, moving kundalini creates forces of attraction between your bodies. That’s what we mean by the chemistry of sexual electricity.

Your Sexual Battery

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Think about your body as a sexual battery. The more kundalini you generate, the more erotic charge you pump into your battery. If it’s hard to visualize a battery inside your crotch, think of your sexual battery as a “pleasure balloon.”

Your pleasure balloon is a bubble of kundalini that’s normally dormant at the base of your spine. When you get turned on, your sexual energy fills this bubble and the balloon expands. Fill your pleasure balloon all the way and you can immerse yourself in a series of full-body orgasms.

When your tank is full, you can trigger two or more sweet spots at once for blended orgasms. Men can climax repeatedly without ejaculation so they can keep on keeping on. And women can release female ejaculation to supercharge their already mind-boggling orgasms.

More importantly, when both of your pleasure balloons are full of pulsing erotic charge, you can energize your jewel union into an amazing ecstatic experience. The true magic of Supernatural Sex occurs through exchanging kundalini at all seven of your chakras.

If that’s a new term to you, the chakras are the seven energy centers from the base of the spine to the top of the head. They collect, store, and distribute different frequencies of kundalini that regulate your body, mind, heart, and spirit.

Of course, if you come too quickly your balloon pops and spills all that erotic juice before you can take full advantage of it.

There’s no reason why your pleasure balloon can’t expand beyond the borders of your physical body. Filling your bubble with that much kundalini takes time which is why Supernatural Sex lasts longer than ordinary sex. When you do, your pleasure balloon can merge with that of your beloved.

That’s where you begin to experience some of the most mystical dimensions of Supernatural Sex. Merging your bio-energetic forcefields catapults you into orbit together with your hearts fully open. You leave the ordinary world behind and soar in an altered space together. You’re bathed in pure unconditional love and feel one with the universe.

Now doesn’t that all sound worth a little sexual practice?

Print publishing being what it is, we’re afraid that you’ll have to wait until next summer for your copy of Tantric Pathways to Supernatural Sex. But there’s no reason why you can’t start practicing Supernatural Sex right now with the above tips. Stay tuned with this monthly newsletter and more frequent blog here http://tantraattahoe.com/blog/ for more advice and techniques before publication.

We’d love to hear of how it’s working for you and answer your questions, too.

Love, Somraj and Jeffre

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Supreme Bliss is the zenith of sexual ecstasy which transforms orgasmic energy into expanded consciousness.

Supreme Bliss Tantra is the modern system of personal transformation based on the ancient Eastern spiritual path which uses sexual energy practices to…

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Sexual Inventory: A Great Tool for Taking Charge of your Own Pleasure

Enthusiastic consent to sexual play is essential for empowered pleasure that prevents abuse. Here is a great tool developed for teens but seems totally applicable for all kinds of lovers. It’s a list of all sorts of intimate activities, a long one to be sure, that you can study or check off yourself. Even better, go over it with your partner to let each other know what you need and want in bed.

Yes, No, Maybe So: A Sexual Inventory Stocklist | Scarleteen

Slow Sex, Clitoral vs. G-Spot Orgasms, Sexual Fantasies

Here are some links to great articles that will help you learn and practice Orgasmic Sex…

When it Comes to Sex, Slow is the New Fast

Clitoral vs. G-Spot Orgasms | Slutty Girl Problems

Why Sexual Fantasies Are Good For Your Relationship – mindbodygreen

Help Your Man Last Longer in Bed: 9 Tips to Make Sex Orgasmic for Both of You

Many surveys show that sex averages 5 to 10 minutes max. If you’re a woman, that usually isn’t enough to bring you to orgasm. Women need at least 20 minutes but usually 40 or more. If you’re a man, coming in a few minutes can be fun. But wouldn’t you want to maintain the level of pleasure that you feel just before you orgasm for an hour or more?

After years in the 5 to 10 minute zone, Tantra taught me how to last as long as we both want. But I’m a highly-sensitive man and it takes two to Tantra for a long time. My first Tantric Sex book, Ultimate Premature Ejaculation Mastery, laid out the complete program of solo exercises for men.

But neither of you can make it happen by yourself. You have to learn how to share the power so you both get what you need. And since pleasure is a moving target, you’ve got to stay in the now and and learn to roll with the punches gracefully.

That starts by dropping the myth that the man is always in charge of making his lover orgasm. It takes teamwork and partnership. You both have to be more conscious of what you and your lover are feeling in each moment. You both have to be more expressive with words and body language. And that’s not much good unless you both pay attention to what’s happening with your partner as well as yourself.

For example, when I’m getting real close to coming, my wife knows it. She slows down when I need to. When she’s climbing, I find a way to lessen my excitement so I can help her over the top without losing it myself.

OK, that’s the theory. But if you haven’t studied Tantric Sex yet, what should you do if you want to put this strategy into action? Here are nine practical tips.

1. Take Turns

Take turns leading and following. Don’t expect him to be totally in charge of your pleasure all the time. When you need something more, guide him so he can lead. But when he’s approaching the point of no return, let him do what he needs to back off. Learn when to put your demands first and when to put his sensitivity first.

2. Communicate Verbally

Partnering for orgasmic sex doesn’t work best like a silent auction. Even your first time together, there’s a graceful way to ask for what you prefer. In fact, before we take our clothes off, I like to ask about my partner’s likes and dislikes. Where’s your G-spot? What does it and your clio (clitoris) prefer? What can I do to help you reach orgasm if that’s what you want? The woman can ask similar questions to help build a working partnership.

Does that spoil the mood? Well, maybe, the kind of rip-your-clothes-off can’t-wait-another-second unrealistic movie couplings. But we find that talking about what we’re going to do to each other and that we really want it is a huge turn-on.

Communication is even more important once you start making love. How are you feeling? What do you want more of and less of right now? What are you loving about your partner’s body and what it’s doing to you? Many say this kind of intimacy is even more erotic than non-stop humping.

3. Ask Him to Reveal How Close He Is

The most important fact to share frequently is how close you each are to coming. Sexologists recommend using a 10-point scale where 0 equals feeling nothing and 10 equals climaxing. Or maybe it’s enough for him to say “I’m close” when he needs to slow down. Sharing like this requires that he pays attention to his excitement level. And it brings the secret (how likely is it that he’ll come in a few seconds) out into the open so you can share the responsibility.

4. Welcome Him Showing How Close He Is

It’s true that announcing a number every few seconds may not help your erotic mood. Verbal communication is important, but it does require thinking when you’re trying to concentrate on feeling. So it’s even better to encourage your guy to SHOW his turn-on with non-verbal communication. He doesn’t want to inhibit his body doing its thing. Respond passionately when he breathes heavily, moves sensuously, wails and flails. Applaud when he makes love sounds. Celebrate it every time he lets his freak flag fly. Then they’ll be less need for play-by-play announcements and fewer unexpected surprises.

5. Monitor His Body Language

It won’t help much if he’s opening up but you’re not paying attention. Monitor his body language. The more you make love with someone, the better you’ll get at reading his signals. My wife can tell when I pull out or stop moving. Pretty obvious. But she can also tell when I tense up or just get less relaxed. Maybe it’s part telepathy. But I think she’s just staying awake and noticing my changes.

Watching him does require that you devote some of your RAM, your mental computer’s memory, away from your own pleasure. It’s a fundamental Tantric principle that “energy flows where attention goes.” So monitoring him the whole time may take you out of your own experience. That’s why alternately leading and following, focusing on him at times and yourself at times, is so helpful.

Some say that the three keys to a successful bar, store, or restaurant is location, location, location. Maybe so. But I do know that the three keys to coming together is timing, timing, timing.

6. Let Him Choose Positions

Some sexologists believe that it’s better for the guy if the woman is on top. Supposedly he can relax and not work as hard. That never seems to work for me. Sure, I love it when she’s riding me if I’m not too close. But when I’m hypersensitive, I’m much better able to regulate my excitement in different sexual positions where I have more control. Me on top or both of us on our sides work better for me. The also allow for a looser fit as well as other postures when she can spread her legs. I save the tighter fit positions for times I’m able to pump to her heart’s delight.

7. Let Him Choose the Pace

When he needs to manage his excitement, let him choose the pace. When he slows down to keep from going over the edge, follow him. When he’s less sensitive and goes faster, lose yourself and enjoy it.

8. Experiment With Strokes 

The better you understand the ten sweet spots (erogenous zones) on your man’s vajra (penis), the easier it will be to find sexual strokes that he’s less sensitive to. Sex books commonly say that the head and crown are the most excitable.

For the first 30 minutes or so that’s usually true for me. But after I’ve peaked multiple times without coming, lower on my shaft becomes “sweeter.” Before we understood this, the spasms of my wife’s yoni (vagina) usually made me climax. Now I switch to shallower strokes when I know she’s on the verge. This allows me to maintain the angle and speed of my thrusts while reducing my excitement.

Agree that you will play with speed, angle, depth, length, and pressure of sexual strokes to find thrusting patterns that keep him going while you’re climbing.

9. Sync Your Sexual Energy

How much sexual energy you generate determines how turned-on you each get. When you’re both climbing to a peak together, you can go for it. If he’s fully pumped up and you’re not, you need to learn to enjoy slow and subtle coupling. If he’s not as excited as you, you can become fully absorbed in your own pleasure.

But the flow of sexual electricity typically isn’t steady for long. It comes and goes in peaks and troughs. So a vital part of part of your orgasmic sex partnership is to synchronize the ebbs and flows of your passion. Adjusting your pace — speeding up or slowing down — is the most obvious way to respond to each other’s energy currents.

But since excitement is a moving target, how to stay in sync with each other’s energy is bound to change and morph. For example, after a few peaks I get less sensitive. So we tend towards looser postures and a slower pace at first. I don’t stick with the same thrusting pattern for long. My wife has learned to love drawing out the build-up with lots of tantalizing variety instead of pushing to come right away. Then when my genital boil simmers down, I can speed up, thrust deeper, and give her spells of the more vigorous pumping she’s craving.

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So there are the nine ways you can help your man last longer in bed. As you can see, extended coupling isn’t some silver bullet that one of you needs to learn how to shoot. Or not, as the case may be.

Is orgasmic sex natural? Well, the primal urge that makes beasts want to procreate might be. But the pursuit of maximum pleasure by conscious lovers isn’t. It’s a partnership that requires teamwork. It takes letting go of your fears and showing up fully. And it takes lots of experimenting, give and take, and practice.

I know this lovemaking style doesn’t match the fake-news porn-driven myth of animal lust that makes you both come in a couple minutes in a blaze of glory. When that rare fantasy comes true, enjoy it. But when it doesn’t, now you have nine things you can try so you’ll both get more of what you want.

Learning to make sex continuously orgasmic for long periods of time doesn’t come instantly. So expect that they’ll be fits and starts, ravings and stumblings, before you get it. It took us years to be able to do these nine things effortlessly. But isn’t lovemaking something that you’ll enjoy practicing no matter how well you do? It has been for us and continues to be after 21 years. And there’s no end to the orgasms in sight.

 

 

 

Love, Somraj

Reimagine Sexual Consent, Be More Sex-Positive, the Male Orgasm

Here are l9nks to some articles that will make your sex more orgasmic…

It’s time to reimagine consent in our romantic lives – Dr Dick’s Sex Advice

10 Ways to Be More Sex Positive | The Everygirl

Why the Male Orgasm Is Not as Simple as Everyone Tries to Tell You – Beducated Magazine

Tantra Newsletter: Merging Sex, Love and Spirit through Tantra – 2

Tantra Doesn’t Divide Sex and Spirit, Orgasms and the Divine

Last month I sent you part 1 of this article. Here is the second half which dives into pleasure, love, and the merger of chakras energies.

(If you missed the first installment, you can read it in our archives here…   http://www.tantraattahoe.com/news/10272016.htm )

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“Sacred Sexual Secrets” Newsletter #295 published 7/24/18

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PLEASURE

Don’t you agree that you want all of your lifeforce energies alive and percolating when you couple? If something is bugging you, or if you have a desire that hasn’t been fulfilled, or if you don’t feel you have enthusiastic consent to take your relationship to a higher place, then you’ll have energy that’s not connecting with your partner’s.

To deal with disconnects, it helps to understand the role of pleasure in a Tantric life.

When you look at the choices you make, you’ll see that at some level you believe what you decide will make you feel better. But too often it doesn’t turn out that way.

To many people navigate through life based on what they think they’re supposed to do, what others want them to do, or what’s expected of them. That’s not how the Tantric attitude operates.

Instead of being motivated to avoid discomfort, embarrassment, or pain in life, Tantra guides us to directly and actively seek what makes us feel good. Cut out the middle man and go right for the gusto.

Which is why one of Tantra’s basic principles is, ”Nothing is more important than that you feel good right now.”

To do this you need to learn to heighten your experience of the moment, get in touch with your feelings, and judge what brings you pleasure. Then, according to the Tantric sages, your life will expand and evolve just the way you want it to.

Since many of us are programmed with a strong injunction against selfishness, this Tantric guideline is hard for many to swallow. We’re raised believing that thinking only of ourselves is a big sin. So we don’t put enough attention on our own mental health and physical well-being. As a result, we feel guilty when we look after ourselves or we do things that don’t bring us joy. Which makes us stressed, moody, grumpy, and resentful.

Tantra doesn’t encourage you to exclude other’s feelings, needs, and happiness. It just teaches that in order to help others, give emotional support, and be there for them, you’ve got to look after our own self first.

Only when you’re feeling good and your spirit is soaring can you truly love.

Wouldn’t it be better to be happy so you’re more able to cheer up everyone around you? Would you rather have a depressed lover who clings to you or an independent one who bubbles over with their zest for life and drags you forward instead of backwards?

That’s the spirit of Tantra in a relationship. Do your own personal work and grow spiritually so you can fully connect at body, mind, and soul with your beloved.

RELATIONSHIP

If you embrace the Tantric attitude described above, you’ll be much more lovable and capable of loving.

It’s a Tantric truth that one who seeks love with a mate, family, community, or world, must first be in a joyous place. Then you’re more whole, more complete, more present. If you’re only 10% present, there’s only a little part of you to love. And it may well be the most tarnished part.

Compassion from a dejected soul brings down the recipient. Buddha was renown for the compassion he felt for all living things. That compassion sprang from his heart when he became enlightened and wholly himself.

We’re all conditioned with the expectation that loving someone means to think of them first, which is of course in stark contrast to the Tantra ideals we’ve explained. Are you the primary one who’s responsible for your beloved’s feelings, reactions, and happiness? Most relationships, after the initial honeymoon, settle in to a parade of resentments focused on the other person…

— “What you said hurt me.”

— “If you loved me you would have done it.”

— “I don’t know if I can forgive you for felling that way.”

All of these are based on unexpressed expectations. Tantra teaches us to approach each new moment without expectation. Certainly we have desires and intentions, especially of the ones we love. But walking into any situation with the requirement that it follows certain rules or ends with defined outcomes is a surefire prescription for frustration. Which too often results in us blaming our beloved.

As a result of surviving lots of struggles and eventually finding some happiness, I’ve settled on what to me is a primary Tantric rule of relationships, ”Look at yourself and things get better, look at the other and they get worse.”

Looking after yourself isn’t selfish. It’s the most giving thing you can do to maintain your aware, vibrant, loving spiritual center.

This is how Tantric personal responsibility becomes the springboard for honest communication, deeper intimacy, and the hottest sex of your life. Instead of being dependent on your mate’s struggles, successes, and swings of mood, you become more and more stable yourself. Then there’s more of you to love, be loving, and uplift the one you care the most about.

MERGER

That’s a little about the Tantric approach to merging love, sex, and spirit.

Tantric lovemaking is as much about harnessing your sexual energy consciously as it is about sexual techniques. You reach more intense levels of ecstasy by accessing the huge inner reservoirs of untapped power that lie dormant within. When you make love Tantrically, you maximize the flow of orgasmic energy within you and between you and your lover.

Learning Tantric lovemaking can help you become the blissful, playful, energetic lover you were born to be. A lover who has the desire and capacity for making love last for hours. A lover who gives and receives untold pleasure and stronger ecstasy regardless of your gender or sexual preference.

One thing that sets a Tantric relationship apart is how much sexual ecstasy you can create and how long you can make it last. Ecstasy is the overwhelming feeling of excitement, joy, and happiness that produces a trancelike state of euphoric rapture.

Whatever your gender identity and sexual preferences, you still need to blend masculine and feminine energies. All bodies have the potential for awakening your inner Shiva and your inner Shakti. It takes finding all parts of yourself to do this.

That’s the Tantric prescription for ecstatic love, sex, and spiritual connection.

Love,

Somraj

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SUPREME BLISS TANTRA

Supreme Bliss is the zenith of sexual ecstasy which transforms orgasmic energy into expanded consciousness.

Supreme Bliss Tantra is the modern system of personal transformation based on the ancient Eastern spiritual path which uses sexual energy practices to…

     – deepen love and intimacy,

     – extend lovemaking, and

     – create continuous full-body mind-altering Tantric Orgasms.

By opening your senses of the present moment, embracing all of life and all of your being, and focusing on pleasure as a divine gift, Supreme Bliss Tantra…

       heals your mind, body, and spirit,

     – connects you passionately with your deeper self and your beloved, and

       immerses you deeply into the untold joys of sacred sexuality to

reach cosmic peaks of pleasure to make life an ecstatic journey in total communion with all that is.

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6 Levels of Orgasmic Sex

I’ve had a lot of exciting quickies in my five decades of making love. Of course, being a horny guy, I was usually the only one coming. Since I studied Tantra and learned to practice Orgasmic Sex, more often now I’m not the only one.

The latest study I read about quickies found that the average length of time between penetration and orgasm was 5.4 minutes. The article I read didn’t specify whose orgasm though. I’m guessing it was the guy’s.

Coming or not coming, quickies leave a lot on the table. In other words, if you’re seeking instant gratification and rush to the finish line, there’s a whole lot of fun that you’ll miss. But if you learn to edge, peak multiple times, and dance on the verge, you enter an entirely new realm that we call Orgasmic Sex.

Orgasmic Sex is ecstatic lovemaking that lasts longer than the average five or so minutes of play that’s focused on orgasm. Now you might be wondering why you might choose not to put all your focus on the climax. The answer is that Orgasmic Sex instead creates a level of passion that feels continuously orgasmic. If you could, wouldn’t you want the sublime peak of irresistible excitement that you feel right before the big ten-second explosion to continue? Like for 30 seconds, a minute, or many, many minutes? That’s the delicious promise of Orgasmic Sex.

And by taking your time and floating in that level of supreme bliss for what seems like forever, your ultimate orgasm will be so much more powerful and satisfying.

6 Levels

One major benefit of delaying the depleting explosion is that you get to experience an entirely new spectrum of sexual feelings. It’s like a door opens and you delerioulsy enter into the lost continent of pleasure.

You can only learn to revel in this new world when you gain mastery over your sexual energy. When you’re sexually turned on, you can feel a small trickle of nervous stimulation and physical excitation, alive, bubbling, moving, and vibrating inside you. We call it sexual energy when it charges your pleasure centers.

Sexual energy is the electromagnetic life force in the human body responsible for attraction, sexual desire, libido, sex drive, turn-on, and orgasm. 

It’s sexual energy that makes you feel excitement. So, of course, for Orgasmic Sex you want to amass as much as you can for as long as you can. As it turns out, there are six levels of excitement depending on how much sexual energy you’ve generated.

Those levels are…

1 Sensations

Level 1 is where you feel turn-on in various places around your body. That might seem like tingling or prickly heat or electrical charge. At first, these sensations are still and confined to your jewels (genitals).

2 Motion

As you build more sexual energy, your sensations begin to flow. Moving sensations feel like chills, hot flashes, goosebumps, or a current running inside. Sometimes energy expands in slow diffusion, waves, or blossoms. Expanding sexual energy out of your jewels is the key to full-body orgasms.

3 Vibration

With even more sexual energy, your body starts to vibrate. The moving sensations excite your nerves, muscles, and organs making them tremble, quiver, shiver, or pulsate.

4 Kriya

A kriya is an involuntary spontaneous twitch, jerk, or jolt of the body in response to the flow of sexual energy. Kriyas happen when more sexual energy than you’re used to settles in a muscle or organ and makes it react. An experienced Tantra teacher once told me that I wouldn’t have so many kriyas if I relaxed more. But sometimes that’s challenging when a sudden build-up of sensation and vibration hits you.

5 Shaking

When you experience a series of kriyas, your body starts shaking. This and the other levels only happen if you relax, surrender, and let the excitement flow through you. When you do, the intense sensations radiate all over and grip you in spasms of pleasure. A major skill that lovers develop through Tantric practice is called running energy where you consciously direct the lifeforce to spread and engulf you in continuous ecstatic shaking.

6 Streaming

When the sexual energy shaking you reaches an even higher level, it streams through you of its own accord. It’s like conscious swooning where you totally let go and levitate in the sexual ecstasy. Streaming energy feels like surges, gushes, floods, and eruptions of heat and electricity all throughout your body. Often the shaking at this level thrashes you around making you flail and jackknife.

Orgasm

Since all six levels are elements of Orgasmic Sex, you might predictably ask which is orgasm? Without going into the twelve types of orgasm here, it’s quite possible to have a sexual climax at any of them. Haven’t you had different kinds of orgasms, some ho-hum and others resounding? Of course, shaking and streaming orgasms at levels five and six are more powerful. But a sudden shock of still or moving sensations at the first two levels can still be profoundly exciting.

That’s because any peak experience can be deemed orgasmic. A sexual peak is a sudden upsurge of energy and sensation. How high do you have to fly to consider it an orgasm? If you don’t scream bloody murder and get thrown off the bed, don’t discount the powerful surge of pleasure at any level.

Sexologists define orgasm as the release of tension at the peak due to a strong upsurge of metabolism, breathing, and blood flow. But staying relaxed and not tensing up is a vital practice of Orgasmic Sex. When you don’t resist and tense up,  you fly higher and higher as your metabolic rate soars. We call these implosive peaks energy orgasms because the energy isn’t depleted but gets recycled instead.

We find that our early peaks usually begin at level one or two and move up to the vibration level at three. Sometime after passing the 5.4 minute worldwide average, our peaks start detonating with kriyas and shaking at four and five.

Everyone has their limits of stamina. In our seventies, after 30 to 60 minutes we either need to recharge our batteries with a refreshment break or totally go for a Big O and call it quits. When we choose, our ultimate explosive orgasms accompanied by ejaculation truly blow our minds.

Another way to look at the energy levels as if they were a smorgasbord. When you learn to bypass the quickie urge to come and enter the land of Orgasmic Sex, you have so many more tasty delights to enjoy.

 

Love, Somraj