The Not-So-Well-Kept Secrets of Making Sex Feel Orgasmic All the Time
My last article delved deeper into the art and science of sexual peaking. But we didn’t get all the way through to the secrets of Orgasmic Surfing. You’ll find them here in this second half.
“Sacred Sexual Secrets” Newsletter #290 published 4/26/2018
Published by Somraj Pokras & Jeffre TallTrees
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At first, most of this erotic charge is generated in our jewels. As we approach a peak, various forms of fireworks are ignited. Concentrations of energy may blossom outwards. Energy streamers may shoot out of our jewels. Flares may radiate up and down. Often starbursts detonate and fill much of our bodies. These orgasmic sensations make it clear that we’re experiencing mini energy orgasms.
Often, as I’m approaching a peak, the blossoms and flares of sexual energy in my vajra (penis) spread to my G-spot. (That’s what us Tantric males call our prostate glands since they function as a guy’s orgasm control center.) It really feels like a palpable channel that’s hot and sizzling. Sometimes the sensations are in one of these powerful erogenous zones, sometimes in the other, and sometimes somewhere on the channel between the two. Some of my best orgasms have happened when the whole energy conduit between my vajra and prostate seems like a radiant fire pulsing back and forth.
I documented a lot more about what happens inside in my posts Pleasure Peaks versus Energy Orgasms here and Physical Versus Energetic Sexual Peaks here.
Extra strong feelings seem to open electrical channels that extend from my crotch, and sometimes from my feet, all the way up to my head. These thrilling sensations seem to percolate from chakra to chakra before they boil over everywhere. A heat flush and goosebumps rise up my torso and settle on the back of my neck below my ears.
The streaming current feels like the plucking of a bass guitar string reverberating inside. That’s so intense that it makes me shiver and shudder, jerk and undulate.
There’s lots more about Sexual Energy Fireworks in my two blog posts that start here.
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Similar things happen inside Jeffre, too. Her body is a clearcut turn-on meter because I can tell from her body language when she’s peaking. She breathes deeper, moans louder, and shivers more as her arousal rises. At the peak she bellows and her body starts jackknifing.
Like so many other guys I used to ask my lovers “did you come yet?” After making love with my passionate wife, it’s clear that the answer is always no if I have to ask. Her sexual peaks are not subtle.
After we’re momentarily resting in the valley for a moment or two, I usually check if she’s ready for another peak. I do this with little tickle from a finger on her clio (clitoris) or a little slow jab from my vajra inside her.
I remember one time, after a half-dozen tests like this, I didn’t get a very strong reaction like her pushing back or pulling my hips in. (She later admitted she had more sleepiness than sexual energy.) I thought, well it’s my turn. She did want to carry on, so during the next cycle I stroked and rocked and rolled simply to please myself. It propelled me up to an amazing pinnacle of pleasure.
I’ve heard other “experts” say that was selfish of me. But in Orgasmic Sex, we’re each responsible for our own pleasure — as long as it’s not at the expense of our partner’s comfort. Judging by Jeffre’s reaction this time, she didn’t mind at all. She followed right along and, in fact, it energized her next peak to a higher level than before.
Our typical practice is for her to reach a few peaks before I let myself go and enjoy several. We naturally find ourselves alternating for a few cycles. Sometimes, while I’m following her up a peak, the sexual charge floods my body, making me peak just after her. Then I notice the same happening to her. It’s like sexual ping pong.
Sometimes it feels like leapfrogging. Her energy fills and excites me causing me to peak. My peak triggers a higher one in her. And back and forth.
There’s more about Alternate Peaking in my blog post here.
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I didn’t forget that this article is about orgasmic surfing. That’s why my friend John Hill, an Orgasmic Meditation coach, calls it when you sail from peak to peak. It’s just that everything you’ve read so far is necessary to get you to this place.
Jeffre and I find that when we get in the groove, we alternate peaks sometimes for as much as an hour. The first ones often are sharper and quicker. As we cycle up and down, two things happen: the peaks reach higher, and the peaks last longer. At the higher crests, the pleasure is more intense. At the longer ones, right, it keeps on and on.
While we do have some control over surfing from peak to peak this way, I think it needs more research. (I know, I always say that about sex.) Sometimes our peaks rise higher on their own and other times they seem to persist.
What I do know for sure is that after multiple peaks, they tend to coalesce into plateaus. That’s like a mesa in the southwest of the U.S. It’s a level upland elevated above the surrounding territory. In other words, the pleasure peak just carries on without us doing much.
To us, the great thing about jewel union (sexual intercourse) is that we both feel many of the same things at the same time. So when Jeffre is launched up to a plateau of excitement, I feel it. And it may well trigger a high peak in me that stretches out into a persistent plateau.
Typically one or both of us senses when our energy reserves are on the verge of waning. Never fear, we have options. Often we take a break for some snacks or wine. Other times, one of us decides to wrap up for the night with an explosive Big O. Or we just wind down, keeping our appetite a bit unsatisfied so we’re jonesing to do it again soon.
And sometimes, lofty plateaus launch us into orbit. We call that the Orgasmic Zone, when the current of orgasmic energy is running strong and full throughout our bodies. It’s amazing when we’re both vibrating together with sensational sexual ecstasy like this. It’s an altered energy state where the huge sexual tides surge through us on and on. See my post on Sexual Orbits which you can find in my blog here.
When I’m there, I use whatever conscious control I have to maintain my excitement at 80-90% of maximum. If I get too high, I go over the point of no return and end the fun. So I vary the speed, angle, and depth of my strokes to hover below the edge. Anytime I get over 90% the powerful erotic charge typically triggers pelvic contractions like a dry orgasm. Unless I’m ready to finish, I relax into the pulsing sensations and spread the energy so I don’t come yet.
Unfortunately There’s A Limit
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Now, alternating peaks and sharing plateaus can go on for many minutes. Sometimes 15, sometimes 30, sometimes approaching an hour. Though we sure don’t want them to stop, there is a limit to our physical stamina. Especially after a long day of work and exercise. The muscle contractions and heavy breathing are physically demanding. They take their toll on my stamina which limits how long I can stay there. Otherwise I’d just surf up there all day and all night.
I wish I had learned all this before turning 70. There’s no telling how long I would have surfed in the prime of life.
Not to worry. Sure, we can’t go as long as we used to. But it you’re younger, fit, and exercise regularly, the skies the limit. Carry on for as long as you’re flying.
Peaks and plateaus are as exciting as most ten-second tension-release orgasms. And there’s more of them that last and last and get stronger and stronger. That’s why orgasmic surfing is our preferred style of lovemaking.
Even sliding down the far side of a peak is delightful. Riding up can be more physically demanding from muscles firing and the body vibrating. But sliding down the far side of a peak is relaxing. It’s as if the bubble of sensations burst at the top, washing and massaging me inside and out with soft energetic fingers. Sliding towards the valley feels like falling into a huge pile of feathers that support and massage my body with flocks of little waves of pleasure.
Well, that’s the status of our scientific investigation into orgasmic surfing. It’s sure different than how I did sex for my first few decades. A little foreplay, a few strokes, and me coming with much awareness about my partner’s satisfaction. But I still craved it.
I hope this and my other peaking articles help you both do better than I did.
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